"A marriage break up can and will be one of life's toughest ordeals to experience,
a heartache like none other. I believe, had I had God in my life when I went through
the ordeal, I would have been better prepared. Took me quite some time to recover, but
I did, by accepting it and moving on with my life, we have to.
I hope God is part of your life, you will survive, and often down the road, we may learn
things happen for reasons we never expected.
We are meant to be happy, and their are times when a relationship is beyond repair, and
it being best to dissolve the relationship. Be strong and keep God as part of your strength
and courage to accept and move on, you will overcome."
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Thank you for caring and writing to me. I AM a Christian. And as such, divorce is not an option. Jesus hates divorce and I know that...so I cry and pray at night before I sleep, and I cry when I wake up...
I left and divorced someone who loved me years ago. He was an alcoholic and there was no intimacy...he wasn't capable. I was younger and abandoned my alcoholic husband so I could fulfill my needs. It was wrong. Very recently, it finally occurred to me that I never asked God to forgive me for doing that. I never repented of doing something the Lord DESPISES. And since marrying my current husband, there has been little to no intimacy...funny how that worked out, isn't it.
And now I suffer with a man who is selfish, self-centered, and pleasuring himself sexually (He admits it.). He has put his family and his own interests first..., not me, not our marriage. Ignoring my feelings, ignoring my copious tears almost on a daily basis, is the way we have been living. I abhor violence so I cry when I'm angry and frustrated. I cry to my husband- he sits and looks at me. I cry to the Lord everyday.
He says he is a Christian and he is saved. But, I fail to see where he is putting God first in his life.
I pray that since I have repented, sincerely, of divorcing my first husband, that the Lord in His grace and mercy, will effect a miracle in my current marriage. But what if not? I cannot divorce my current spouse, ESPECIALLY after asking the Lord's forgiveness for divorcing my first husband.
I cannot eat properly, sleep well, be at work- without bursting into tears. I know He punishes those He loves and I have been suffering for many years now.
I have been a good wife. I can honestly say that and he does not dispute that. But, here I am, living in a horrible marriage of misery.
Thank you again for your caring spirit. And your prayer. Try not to forget about me in the next few weeks and pray for mental and spiritual well-being. I have no family, except for one child who is in the armed services and whom I have already burdened too much with my marriage issues.
All I have is the one TRUE God and all of you, my brothers and sisters in the Lord Jesus.