I have been having some relationship problems for a while now, things have not been going good. My girl say she does not want to continue anything with me anymore because it is toxic and I have cried wolf too many times. The thing is I am so serious now to get my act together but like I said she does not believe me. I am turning to God for help but then I look at the situation ,I want to trust and have faith in him but it just looks hopeless. Please help.
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Hey, Andy.
Sorry to hear about your situation, but I'd like to make two simple suggestions to you:
1. Regardless of what happens with your girl, you apparently, based upon your own testimony, need to get right with God, so be sure to do that for your own soul's sake.
2. Your girl would be more likely to believe you if she sees genuine change in you that only God can help to bring about through Christ.
In relation to point #2, there are old sayings like "Talk is cheap" and "Well done is better than well said".
You said that you've been known to "cry wolf" in the past.
Let her see that you've become a sheep by submitting your life to the Good Shepherd, Jesus Christ, and see what happens after that.
Sorry to hear about your situation, but I'd like to make two simple suggestions to you:
1. Regardless of what happens with your girl, you apparently, based upon your own testimony, need to get right with God, so be sure to do that for your own soul's sake.
2. Your girl would be more likely to believe you if she sees genuine change in you that only God can help to bring about through Christ.
In relation to point #2, there are old sayings like "Talk is cheap" and "Well done is better than well said".
You said that you've been known to "cry wolf" in the past.
Let her see that you've become a sheep by submitting your life to the Good Shepherd, Jesus Christ, and see what happens after that.
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Hi Andy, and welcome to CC...
Take a long view of this. If you try to hold on to the relationship, and "promise" to do the work, you have no motivation. Rather, unless you are married, let the girl go. Tell her that you are ending the relationship so that you can work on yourself. She will likely respect you for that.
Be clear about your problematic issues, as you understand them. Sit down and make a list of the things about yourself that you want to change. Identify what is wrong so that you can work on making it right. Ask trusted family and friends for feedback.
Ask Jesus to help you with those specific areas. Keep asking, and keep listening for His input. He will probably speak to you.
Look for Christian wisdom in the form of books, sermons, and videos addressing those topics.
Ask your pastor or other seasoned Christian for help and accountability.
Don't give up, because God certainly hasn't given up.
Take a long view of this. If you try to hold on to the relationship, and "promise" to do the work, you have no motivation. Rather, unless you are married, let the girl go. Tell her that you are ending the relationship so that you can work on yourself. She will likely respect you for that.
Be clear about your problematic issues, as you understand them. Sit down and make a list of the things about yourself that you want to change. Identify what is wrong so that you can work on making it right. Ask trusted family and friends for feedback.
Ask Jesus to help you with those specific areas. Keep asking, and keep listening for His input. He will probably speak to you.
Look for Christian wisdom in the form of books, sermons, and videos addressing those topics.
Ask your pastor or other seasoned Christian for help and accountability.
Don't give up, because God certainly hasn't given up.
Hi Andy1295,
Sorry to hear about your relationship situation.. Live4him and Dino have given you great advice. I would like to add a little encouragement.
Proverbs 24:14 - In the same way, wisdom is sweet to your soul. If you find it, you will have a bright future, and your hopes will not be cut short.
Psalm 39:7 - “And now, O Lord, for what do I wait? My hope is in you.
Romans 8:24-26 - For in this hope we were saved. But hope that is seen is no hope at all. Who hopes for what they already have? But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently. In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans.
Philippians 4:6-7 - Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
May God heal your heart and be your Hope.
Sorry to hear about your relationship situation.. Live4him and Dino have given you great advice. I would like to add a little encouragement.
Proverbs 24:14 - In the same way, wisdom is sweet to your soul. If you find it, you will have a bright future, and your hopes will not be cut short.
Psalm 39:7 - “And now, O Lord, for what do I wait? My hope is in you.
Romans 8:24-26 - For in this hope we were saved. But hope that is seen is no hope at all. Who hopes for what they already have? But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently. In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans.
Philippians 4:6-7 - Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
May God heal your heart and be your Hope.
