Some deceived/confused believers on this thread will tell you that God unconditionally chooses who to save and regenerate. And AFTER He regenerates them, they WILL believe.
Love, joy, peace, etc are for those who are saved and filled with the Spirit.
The question of how to be born again has already been addressed. Believe in the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved and born again.
But when believers throw in false doctrines, they must be addressed and corrected.
Are you familiar with Titus 1-
10 For there are many rebellious people, full of meaningless talk and deception, especially those of the circumcision group.
11 They must be silenced, because they are disrupting whole households by teaching things they ought not to teach—and that for the sake of dishonest gain.
False doctrine must always be rebuked.
I love the fact that you call yourself "freeGrace2" and have no concept of what "Free Grace" is. You should have called yourself, "FreeWill2".
Free Grace is based on the concept of a completely unmerited Salvation. Free Will places man as the determinate factor. Therefore, if man is the determinate factor, it becomes
a work, and thus, not unmerited GRACE.
Everyone who believes that man's will is the determinate factor denies God's Sovereignty and His Power. They are guilty of raising man's will above God's will. Thus, the creature becomes more powerful than the Creator. God and God alone is the determinate factor in all things, including Salvation. Nothing has changed with God since the days of Daniel:
Dan 2:20 Daniel answered and said, Blessed be the name of God for ever and ever:
for wisdom and might are his:
Now see what God does, whether man likes it or not:
Dan 2:21
1.) And he changeth the times and the seasons: (He is in control of the seasons and weather - not "mother nature" nor man)
2.) he removeth kings, and setteth up kings: (Therefore He determines who will be President and who will not)
3). he giveth wisdom unto the wise, and knowledge to them that know understanding: (Without this, man is just a fool - ever studying and never able to come to the Truth)
4.) Dan 2:22 he revealeth the deep and secret things: 6.) he knoweth what is in the darkness, and the light dwelleth with him.
7.) Dan 2:23 I thank thee, and praise thee, O thou God of my fathers, who hast given me wisdom and might, and hast now made known unto me what we desired of thee: for thou hast made known unto us the king's matter. ( God made known to His chosen four - not to any others - it is now written for His people).
Man being DEAD in trespass and sins, spiritually speaking - (Spiritually.... not physically - man did not die on the spot but he did loose his communion with God.) - must be given spiritual life (the New Birth) before he/she can do anything to please God. In the New Birth, the believer is
drawn in the direction of Christ by the Holy Spirit.
How can one who is yet DEAD put there belief on Christ and then be made alive. Obviously, by all common sense and logic, one must be ALIVE in order to believe. Therefore, you do not believe in Christ and then are born again. You are born again and then you believe in Christ Jesus.
Therefore, God is the one who moves first in the believers life and the believer responds. This harmonizes with the points 1-7 in Daniel above and all of Scripture. It is also the teaching of John 3:3-10, a subject that Nicodemus was ignorant of. In John 3:7, "Being born again", in the Greek text, is in the "Passive Voice". This means, the one being acted upon by the Holy Spirit has no part to play in this New Birth, he/hhe is passive. The believer has no more part to play in the "NEW BIRTH" (Spiritual), than he/she had in their actual birth (Physical).