Exactly. If God didn't want to hear from women, why did He give Israel the Holy Leadership that came from Deborah after Othniel died, Israel's (first True and Righteous Judge)?
True, and agreed, God is no respecter of person. God use women just as men. what men have not understood from the beginning, is this, the HUSBAND is the HEAD/first to serve of their own house, but God, the Lord Jesus is the HEAD/first to serve of his OWN HOUSE. and men and some women cannot separate the Leadership in their home vs the Leadership in God's Holy House.
they try to bring these carnal things into the House of God..... no. as in 1 Corinthians 14:34 & 35 and 1 Timothy 2:12 they are dealing with MARRIED couples in the flesh at home, who should be "ONE". other words the husband should teach his wife what he knows, so when they come to church, they will be on "ONE ACCORD", saying the same thing. at Church, we are MARRIED to God, the Lord Jesus, in HIS HOUSE, which is a
Spiritual House, neither MALE nor Female. and we should be on ONE ACCORD, one saying this, and another saying that, on the same topic, this is division. just as a natural marriage should have order, likewise the House of God have order. training as well as charity begins at home. husbands are to LOVE their wives, (for if they do, they want let their wives be ignorant of the things of God). there is nothing more pleasing when a husband and wife is on one accord. which is the man's responsibility to teach, or instruct his wife in the things of God.
so we, at home need to learn how to conduct ourselves at our own homes FIRST, (which is the symbol of God's house), so that when we come together in the House of God we should act according to God rules and commands. THE HOME IS A REFELCTION OF THE CHURCH. (one might want to read that).
as you said, the apostle was not even speaking to women at large, but unto the Husband, of wives. putting it in morden Language, the apostle Pauls was telling men/Husband, "To get it together at home first, before you come into the house of God".
and you're spot on about, "if a man desire the office of a bishop". for the qualification was narrowed for a specify group of men, a married man and children, well everyone in the body of Christ, is not Male, neither married, or have children. and if this was the only qualification, then the apostle Paul is living proof of this violation of the qualification, he was not married, and had, no natural children, as for as I have read, and he was a pastor/bishop/overseer.
so anyone with the argument that it's only males, and married with chuldren... that argument fails.
PICJAG, 101G.