My own problem in taking counsel is that I have a spirit that likes to battle. I get to thinking I'm right, I can defend my position verbally, and then I can go away thinking I'm right, when I'm just good at arguing my position.
An old cowboy preacher I know told me once that no one wants the sword of the spirit used on them, but handed to them.
That's hard to remember.
The other thing is that everyone has a different conscience and we're going to differ on how we view things. You want peace, and you want to grow, but knowing what you can talk about with people and what you can't talk about with people can be a problem. You may be knocking, asking and seeking, but the other person may not feel there's any further need for knocking, asking and seeking and they just feel you're stirring things up. Maybe you are? Maybe I am. It's a continuing problem, and it can be one if you're preaching to an audience. You want them to grow, you want to grow, but you can't "make it grow", because you have to keep reminding yourself that you can only plant and water, but God is the one who makes it grow. (Plus you have to be sure what you think is planting and watering is really the word of God, and not just some crazy idea you have)