Who else here is over 30 and a virgin?
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A parent "allowing it" is only one part of the equation.
If a teenager is so inclined, it is going to happen regardless of what the parent's allow unless they lock the kid up. My parents sure didn't allow me to become sexually active at 13. In fact, they were clueless that I was sexually active until my early 20's when they finally figured out that my live in girlfriend didn't have a separate bedroom.
**DISCLAIMER** I am neither proud of my behavior at that time, nor do I endorse others following in my footsteps.
If a teenager is so inclined, it is going to happen regardless of what the parent's allow unless they lock the kid up. My parents sure didn't allow me to become sexually active at 13. In fact, they were clueless that I was sexually active until my early 20's when they finally figured out that my live in girlfriend didn't have a separate bedroom.
**DISCLAIMER** I am neither proud of my behavior at that time, nor do I endorse others following in my footsteps.
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You are right. It is'nt a matter of a parent allowing this. It's a matter of a parent raising their children with morals and respect for themselves or other's. And I get it. Although none of my friends, Including myself, Had not even kissed a girl at age 13. We were taught consequences for our actions. so we had to decide.
Not because of moralistic values and principles. But if was worth a butt woopin'...
Not because of moralistic values and principles. But if was worth a butt woopin'...
More power to you OP.
My daughter was proud to wear here purity ring thru HS and first two years of college.
My boys were unfortunately were more premiscuous by their last two years of HS.
I've sought this new singleness as opportunity to lead by example. Have been celibate now for over 3.5 years.
Here are a couple articles/studies that indicates that sex has become more common at younger ages... less sacred as they have become desensitized via social media...
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.cb...oys-having-sex-before-age-13-jama-pediatrics/
https://www.news.iastate.edu/news/2009/aug/teensex
My daughter was proud to wear here purity ring thru HS and first two years of college.
My boys were unfortunately were more premiscuous by their last two years of HS.
I've sought this new singleness as opportunity to lead by example. Have been celibate now for over 3.5 years.
Here are a couple articles/studies that indicates that sex has become more common at younger ages... less sacred as they have become desensitized via social media...
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.cb...oys-having-sex-before-age-13-jama-pediatrics/
https://www.news.iastate.edu/news/2009/aug/teensex
Yes this is very true.We live in a world that is obsessed with sex and we are constantly bombarded by sexual imagery in the media,fashion,magazines ect...People who are not Christian often perceive a person whose still a virgin at a certain age as some kinda social sexual failure and say things like "what?? You haven't manage to have sex yet? Bla Bla Bla..and sometimes some Christians can be glad they are still a virgin..yet may struggle with their self worth occassionally due to how other may react when they know.Wisdom is a good thing to have things like ones virginity is worth keeping to oneself f possible.Not easy in a non ChristIan family ect.
Yet sexual sin as mentioned is also to do with what goes on in the thought life ect..motives and much more
.having various lusts within that can dominate someone..ect...a person can be a virgin..not look at porn..but constantly enjoy sexual fantasies 247..craving a sexual experience like food...yet no body can see what's going on inside them..except God naturally.
Yet sexual sin as mentioned is also to do with what goes on in the thought life ect..motives and much more
.having various lusts within that can dominate someone..ect...a person can be a virgin..not look at porn..but constantly enjoy sexual fantasies 247..craving a sexual experience like food...yet no body can see what's going on inside them..except God naturally.
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I have 2 male friends who are mid thirties and virgins. They both probably make close to or over 6 figures. Honestly had i not met a buddy at 19 who showed me how to talk to women i would most likely b in the same crowd. I work with only men and never had any large social circles. When thats your life you have no experience or confidence to get experience from what ive seen if men go past a certain point as virgins they are going to stay that way regardless of who they personally meet in the future.
Your not going to b looking for a wife when you havent been able to find a girlfriend for 10-15 years. Eventually it becomes something that you hear that other people do, and it wouldnt matter if a girl talked to you for half an hour these guys dont have the ability to pick up on those social cues. Its like well she talked a lot. Not she was flirting or dropping signs.
Your not going to b looking for a wife when you havent been able to find a girlfriend for 10-15 years. Eventually it becomes something that you hear that other people do, and it wouldnt matter if a girl talked to you for half an hour these guys dont have the ability to pick up on those social cues. Its like well she talked a lot. Not she was flirting or dropping signs.
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Not every female is coquettish or "subtly flirtatious" and are pretty direct in what they want. I don't know about you but every virgin I've met isn't like "yeah I'm a virgin because females aren't attractive and I don't want to ever get married." it's a purity thing and following the word.
To suggest that God has disdain for that and doesn't know their shortcomings (if they exist in that fashion) and isn't able to overcome that is unreasonable.
Plenty of people get married or meet someone in random encounters even at much advanced ages.
If someone has no interest at all in getting married as a pursuit and purposely bottles up any attraction he/she feels and expects "if it's right" to get swept away in emotion all the way to their wedding like in films then I could agree that this is not the right approach.
It could be some need to make a more concentrated effort, but to suggest that if they don't understand the subtlety of the female sex when they want to be coy that they won't ever be married is not what I've seen. There is certainly some of that during the courtship and it flatters the female to notice and operate within that wordless language that she speaks but getting a wife through simple flattery and charm should put any discerning believer on guard.
To suggest that God has disdain for that and doesn't know their shortcomings (if they exist in that fashion) and isn't able to overcome that is unreasonable.
Plenty of people get married or meet someone in random encounters even at much advanced ages.
If someone has no interest at all in getting married as a pursuit and purposely bottles up any attraction he/she feels and expects "if it's right" to get swept away in emotion all the way to their wedding like in films then I could agree that this is not the right approach.
It could be some need to make a more concentrated effort, but to suggest that if they don't understand the subtlety of the female sex when they want to be coy that they won't ever be married is not what I've seen. There is certainly some of that during the courtship and it flatters the female to notice and operate within that wordless language that she speaks but getting a wife through simple flattery and charm should put any discerning believer on guard.
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