Biblical Discipline (yes I mean spanking)
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I'm no parent, but I was raised being spanked. And it wasn't often. I believe few understand it's intent and how to do so properly. Many tend to use it as a way to vent, rather than a way to discipline. And still yet some overuse it for discipline. Or even justify abuse by using it.
The show Supernanny, if you can find it anywhere, was full of useful ideas for non-physical discipline. And was quite effective.
Really, though, i feel discipline is less necessary when parents are doing Their job right first. But most parents don't want to be bothered being a parent and only care about getting the child to obey, right now, rather than teaching them how to act with a long term consideration for their child.
And as we've seen on this site some view discipline as an act of obedience, that is to say they focus more on discipline and obedience than love and support. Which is backwards. If your parenting foundation is discipline and not love, the discipline will fail.
But I must admit I do find it suspect when people show up on this site with a focus on discipline and seeking others with a like mind on the topic. More often than not there is an over emphasis on it. It's an odd thing to seek out as a basis for connection with others.
The show Supernanny, if you can find it anywhere, was full of useful ideas for non-physical discipline. And was quite effective.
Really, though, i feel discipline is less necessary when parents are doing Their job right first. But most parents don't want to be bothered being a parent and only care about getting the child to obey, right now, rather than teaching them how to act with a long term consideration for their child.
And as we've seen on this site some view discipline as an act of obedience, that is to say they focus more on discipline and obedience than love and support. Which is backwards. If your parenting foundation is discipline and not love, the discipline will fail.
But I must admit I do find it suspect when people show up on this site with a focus on discipline and seeking others with a like mind on the topic. More often than not there is an over emphasis on it. It's an odd thing to seek out as a basis for connection with others.
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Can confirm spanking taught me that it hurts and I didn't like being hurt, but it by no means instilled better behavior. It actually was the spur that encouraged me to just find more clever ways to not get caught.
Real Biblical discipline is wisdom. How often does Proverbs tell us to be wise? Real change comes from the heart. Instill in your children's heart the wisdom of the Bible and you won't ever have to spank them. It can be done, I've seen parents do it.
Real Biblical discipline is wisdom. How often does Proverbs tell us to be wise? Real change comes from the heart. Instill in your children's heart the wisdom of the Bible and you won't ever have to spank them. It can be done, I've seen parents do it.
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My kids are 2, 5 and 6.
Spanking only worked from age 1.5 to about age 3. It doesn't affect them enough to stop their behavior. Of course, I do not do it like my parents did using a belt or ruler. After age 3 they hate time out and taking objects away from them. So we currently do that.
Spanking only worked from age 1.5 to about age 3. It doesn't affect them enough to stop their behavior. Of course, I do not do it like my parents did using a belt or ruler. After age 3 they hate time out and taking objects away from them. So we currently do that.
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do you give 'spanking clinics'?
seriously, what's up with all the spanking? do you turn them over your knee or what?
I would not recommend spanking teen agers for sure. talk about resentment forming
young children and then not too hard. plenty of other ways to discipline and why on earth are you spanking, in your words, often?
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that's really not answering what I asked. kids are children. little human beings. and very sensitive for the most part
how about answering what I actually asked? I would really like to know
in particular, what do you mean by 'ive helped many parents use it more effectively on older kids..'
that is what I meant by 'spanking clinics', spanking is not a command in scripture
how about answering what I actually asked? I would really like to know
in particular, what do you mean by 'ive helped many parents use it more effectively on older kids..'
that is what I meant by 'spanking clinics', spanking is not a command in scripture
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