seeking approval...why?
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Your response made me sad to know that there are Christians who think they have everything together and are better/sinless, I think that is a extremely unhealthy mindset. Just because life seems good now, or you got over issues, doesn’t mean that you will not struggle or have something bad happen. I was talking to my therapist about my grandmother, cause the direction of the conservation went, and I cried talking about her. I thought I was over it, not saying that to be mean, my grandmother died after a 2 year battle with Bone cancer, and at the end, she couldn’t walk, couldn’t write, and had a hard time with everything. I cried at the funeral and have been thinking that I’m glad my grandmother is no longer in pain, and is in Heaven.
But I realized me crying means I still miss her, hell I just started crying while typing this. I’ll probably never have everything fully well and together, not saying that to put me down, but memories exist, I remember the happy times I had with my grandmother which brings up the sadness. Even though I wanna say she’s been dead for the last 2-3 years, it still clearly effects me. Trying to harden myself from pain is my best coping method.
I have God, I struggle to remember to pray, but I fully believe in him, and have been studying his word with bible studies, but I’m human, we are all human and flawed, no one is truly “all together” and well, until we get to heaven.
But I realized me crying means I still miss her, hell I just started crying while typing this. I’ll probably never have everything fully well and together, not saying that to put me down, but memories exist, I remember the happy times I had with my grandmother which brings up the sadness. Even though I wanna say she’s been dead for the last 2-3 years, it still clearly effects me. Trying to harden myself from pain is my best coping method.
I have God, I struggle to remember to pray, but I fully believe in him, and have been studying his word with bible studies, but I’m human, we are all human and flawed, no one is truly “all together” and well, until we get to heaven.
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Also, it has zero to do with how outsiders view God, and does not say in any way what you claim. Avoiding every appearance of evil has to do with how your behavior is perceived by others, and we are told to conduct ourselves in a way that is above reproach. That necessitates caring about what others think of you, not what others think of God. I wonder where you even get that idea 
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To the question of the OP:
I particularly don’t think I care what others think about me, as in what it comes to what I wear, but I do care for others to respect me. You respect me, I’ll respect you.
I would say I still struggle with the mindset of having life all together, you see my mom gets upset if I’m to work late, so sometimes I’ve lied saying I wasn’t late or slightly lied saying I was 5 mins late, when I was actually 8 mins late. She hasn’t asked me in awhile, but with how good I was in school, and needing to keep up getting A or B grades, I guess put that kind of mentality in me. Not saying I’m against how my mom and dad raised me, cause they want me to succeed and do good in life, you need a drive to better yourself and to seek things like grades, that’s why I judged all the kids in school, “If you are here to talk, then why are you here? You can talk to your friends at home”. But that was young me being naive and missing the bigger picture, how important it is to have relationships like friendship.
I haven’t lied in awhile, and it’s something I try to repent away, for lies make life way worse, trust me I know, also keeping stuff from your parents is awful too by the way, still haven’t told my mom I was almost fired at my first job, I guess out of fear and not wanting “My mom to go mom on me”, lol. I feel like with age I have become wiser, but I still have more growing up to do, like finding that full time job and whatnot.
I particularly don’t think I care what others think about me, as in what it comes to what I wear, but I do care for others to respect me. You respect me, I’ll respect you.
I would say I still struggle with the mindset of having life all together, you see my mom gets upset if I’m to work late, so sometimes I’ve lied saying I wasn’t late or slightly lied saying I was 5 mins late, when I was actually 8 mins late. She hasn’t asked me in awhile, but with how good I was in school, and needing to keep up getting A or B grades, I guess put that kind of mentality in me. Not saying I’m against how my mom and dad raised me, cause they want me to succeed and do good in life, you need a drive to better yourself and to seek things like grades, that’s why I judged all the kids in school, “If you are here to talk, then why are you here? You can talk to your friends at home”. But that was young me being naive and missing the bigger picture, how important it is to have relationships like friendship.
I haven’t lied in awhile, and it’s something I try to repent away, for lies make life way worse, trust me I know, also keeping stuff from your parents is awful too by the way, still haven’t told my mom I was almost fired at my first job, I guess out of fear and not wanting “My mom to go mom on me”, lol. I feel like with age I have become wiser, but I still have more growing up to do, like finding that full time job and whatnot.
Yes, and I did not deny that at all, though you fail to understand that "regardless of motivation" acknowledges such. Your motivation for such a remark concerning which Bibles we read and how I read mine is highly suspect, and not above reproach, just as your asserting that Jesus sinned is to be soundly renounced. The Jesus you promote is not anywhere to be found in any of the Scriptures I read.
thats sad I dont know why your mum would be so upset, sometimes work actually requires us to stay longer, it cant be helped as it is what it is.
actually, you cant talk to your friends at home cos your friends are NOT at your home. so that dont make sense lol. But you can talk to your friends in your break.
actually, you cant talk to your friends at home cos your friends are NOT at your home. so that dont make sense lol. But you can talk to your friends in your break.
with the school grading system, which is weird as it kinda makes people cheat and lie...very shocked that people would say well I get someone else to do my homework if I pay them kind of thing happened.
I think whats more important is you seek God first and His kingdom and righteousness, and everything will be added unto you.
I think whats more important is you seek God first and His kingdom and righteousness, and everything will be added unto you.
You did say that. I even quoted you on it at the time... Deny it all you like. Doesn't change a thing
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No, I was supposed to be at work by 1pm, I would be late at 1:08pm, completely inexcusable, but I need to better myself. Sometimes I get distracted and don’t get ready on time, sometimes CC has distracted me, just being honest.
No kids have phones, kids in middle school have phones, I don’t agree with it but, there are many ways to connect and talk, even back when I was in middle school. Kids will go walking home together if they live in the same direction, my brother and sister had friends over, sometimes even when school was over, so no, no excuses.
No kids have phones, kids in middle school have phones, I don’t agree with it but, there are many ways to connect and talk, even back when I was in middle school. Kids will go walking home together if they live in the same direction, my brother and sister had friends over, sometimes even when school was over, so no, no excuses.
Yeah, if they find out a essay you write was not your own, which is easy with internet resources, they will give you an F. It is important to keep up grades to pass the class, but I think learning is important more so than the grades now that I’m older, even some of my teachers told me that. I started getting bad grades not from cheating, but from being lazy, and stopped caring. I was like “I’m okay getting a 70, still passing the class” which is not a good mindset, that mindset led me to fail 2 college classes. I graduated, but at least a year later from what I wanted.
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magenta, give it up.
sorry, I dont know why you feel the need to judge on people and put words in their mouth they actually did not say.
weird. are you like this with everyone? do people in your life need to seek your approval because you deem yourself always right? Think about it how damaging that is.
sorry, I dont know why you feel the need to judge on people and put words in their mouth they actually did not say.
weird. are you like this with everyone? do people in your life need to seek your approval because you deem yourself always right? Think about it how damaging that is.
here, what happens is you just pass or not yet achieved. you only fail if you give you give up, as most classes are set to to help you pass. If you do something wrong you can try again and the teachers will help you. mistakes are part of the learning process. To be a teacher you need to be very patient, not wveryone will get it the first time.
I never reached out to tutoring or my teacher, I failed a big project because it was “Build this room with the skills you have” (It was a 3D modeling class, level 2 might I add, higher difficulty), but I didn’t know how to do anything. I would rather be shown how to build a couch, rather than trying to figure it out.
3D Modeling is not easy, it requires patience, patience that I lack sometimes, so I just always had a problem reaching out for help in School. I used to have Aides, that would help, but once they were gone in the 9th grade, I got this sense of “I need to grow up, and mange my school life. Can’t rely on help”
3D Modeling is not easy, it requires patience, patience that I lack sometimes, so I just always had a problem reaching out for help in School. I used to have Aides, that would help, but once they were gone in the 9th grade, I got this sense of “I need to grow up, and mange my school life. Can’t rely on help”
That's ironic coming from you, who is sitting in judgment of me refusing right now to admit you are wrong, just as you have in the past.
I expect no less from you, though
Which is one reason I rarely respond to you.
However, when you are egregiously wrong as you have been, I feel compelled to call you on it.
I expect no less from you, though
Which is one reason I rarely respond to you.
However, when you are egregiously wrong as you have been, I feel compelled to call you on it.