Why do you think God has you single?

[melita916]

I would say I’m single right now because more of my disability to be honest. It’s hard for me to social, I worry I weird people out cause I can talk about what I know/my opinions for a long time, and I can sometimes still act immature. I know there are girls into Videogames, and I KNOW I’m a woman, but sometimes I worry cause I’m not into the nail painting or anything fashion. Like I want my clothes to match and I can sometimes have fun when clothes shopping with my mom, but I’m basically a T-shirt and jeans type person, if you get what I mean, lol.

But I know through God, he will give me the strength and the right direction when that “right man” appears, for God is in Control and he is good ^_^

I’m a jeans/tshirt/no make up/ponytail girl, and the Lord made a way for me to get married lol. His will is good I’m sure if I hadn’t met my husband, I would more than likely be single because I was ok with it. Hehe.

 

[Encouragement]

I’m a jeans/tshirt/no make up/ponytail girl, and the Lord made a way for me to get married lol. His will is good I’m sure if I hadn’t met my husband, I would more than likely be single because I was ok with it. Hehe.

Whatever look you had your husband would still be attracted to you coz God was obviously behind...and his attraction was no doubth genuine.
I hear a story about a woman who said what drew her husband to her intiially was just her hairstyle...when he told her she said "what?..😊😊🤣"...I think is great how God brings people together..
romance is never dead in that sense.💕

 

[Lanolin]

the more I thought about this the more I am inclined to think God keeps people single because its for His kingdom purposes and he wants to spare us the drama.

But sometimes I think its because He sees us as unique and someone who cant be compared to anyone else, tied down, or matched. Unlike socks, humans dont automatically come identically matched in left and right pairs, or easily find their mate.

I dont believe single people are lost or forgotten, but we are especially dear to God, as Jesus was.

 

[true_believer]

I'm praying to God from time to time to send me the right partner at the right time....according to His will.

 

[Bartholomew]

God doesn't have anyone single, we have ourselves single. Really dig deep within yourself and ask, why am I single? Put in enough effort and you'll find someone , everything else is just excuses ..

 

[Lanolin]

well in the last century chinese men werent allowed to have wives in my country because the govt only wanted men to immigrate for work. But eventually they (the govt) relented when it stopped being so racist.
My granddad somehow got sent a wife lol. it was arranged when he was a child.

people can still be racist tho! A lot of people only want to marry someone who looks like themselves, or on alternative, fail to appreciate someone background and culture may be very different to theirs.

 

[Tararose]

Come to think of it I do remember reading that. But why the husbands brother? Because the woman wasn’t fit for anyone else after her husband passses?

It was not because she couldn’t marry anyone else, it was simply to ensure that the widow was cared for and also to raise up children that kept the deceased’s name so the inheritance (Land etc) could be passed on etc. A very big deal back then as it was allotted by God to tribes and so on.

Jesus made it very clear that the issue was of someone taking another husband whilst they still have one. Until death do us part was added to our vows for a reason. Marriage is limited to an earthly physic realm and once a spouse does that Marriage sadly also ends. We do not need to remarry but we are free to. Nothing in scripture prohibits a widow remarrying after her husbands death. I studied this at great length as I heard certain teachings that forbid it but that is not in line with scripture as a whole.

This is not to convince you you need to remarry but just to assure you Jesus and Paul teach you are free to. (Paul even strongly advises younger widows to remarry!) I would be happy to post the biblic references for all the points i have made if any are unfamiliar or unclear to you from your knowledge or understanding of scripture

I really sorry for your loss and I want to stress it is only for clarity Of what the bible teaches us that I post These thoughts. You are biblically speaking free and entitled to remain as you are and this is also commended equally in scripture if that is your choice. I hope that in whatever way life leads you, you find peace x

 

[Tararose]

Sorry for typos, once a spouse dies I meant to say. And physical real lol not physic.

 

[stepbystep]

Maybe this is meant to be a little cathartic, but what do you think is the reason God has you single in this season? Be honest with yourself. I often think people blame themselves for something awful they did and think God is punishing them with this single and sometimes lonely life, instead of it being a time to grow. Maybe even a time for ones heart to heal, since we often find ourselves too readily hopping into a new relationship.

And if you don’t know, that’s ok. I think with me God is working on me both in a big transition in my home life as well as career.

I do not think God has me single. I am fairly certain it has been my decision to be single.

 

[Lanolin]

It was not because she couldn’t marry anyone else, it was simply to ensure that the widow was cared for and also to raise up children that kept the deceased’s name so the inheritance (Land etc) could be passed on etc. A very big deal back then as it was allotted by God to tribes and so on.

Jesus made it very clear that the issue was of someone taking another husband whilst they still have one. Until death do us part was added to our vows for a reason. Marriage is limited to an earthly physic realm and once a spouse does that Marriage sadly also ends. We do not need to remarry but we are free to. Nothing in scripture prohibits a widow remarrying after her husbands death. I studied this at great length as I heard certain teachings that forbid it but that is not in line with scripture as a whole.

This is not to convince you you need to remarry but just to assure you Jesus and Paul teach you are free to. (Paul even strongly advises younger widows to remarry!) I would be happy to post the biblic references for all the points i have made if any are unfamiliar or unclear to you from your knowledge or understanding of scripture

I really sorry for your loss and I want to stress it is only for clarity Of what the bible teaches us that I post These thoughts. You are biblically speaking free and entitled to remain as you are and this is also commended equally in scripture if that is your choice. I hope that in whatever way life leads you, you find peace x

a lot of this has to do with LAND when it comes down to it.
for example, Ruth married Boaz but not only for him even though he was a great guy, but because he had land. She had none, by marrying him, and having children, she became tied to the land and was able to have an inheritance. Otherwise she would have just worked the land and not set her roots there.

When God promised Abrham that he would have many descendants, not only would he have as many descenants like stars in the sky and sand on the beach, but He gave them somewhere special to live --- the promised land.

The isrealites were specifically told NOT to marry outside of their tribe because then they would lose thir land to outsiders that would turn their hearts away from God. Cos when you marry, you come into possession of the land, as its meant to be passed down to your children as an inheritance.

nowadays many people dont do this anymore, but if you study the Bible and see the reasons for marrying, its mostly because of land. It even says specifically that Israel and Judah would be married to the land. Now if you ALREADY have this land, its up to you who you want to share it, so you get to be the one to choose who to marry, if you dont, you need to marry someone whos got it. Cos where are you going to live and raise your family?
when the israelites lost their land, they lost a lot more than just the ground under their feet.

 

[true_believer]

Being single isn't always a choice. We may be going through a period of spiritual or personal growth that necessitates singleness.

 

[Scribe]

Oh I’d say He does. God knows what’s going on in our lives and has a reason for things, and that includes leading us to the decision maybe to just not do relationships at all.

It is one of those philosophically endless loop sort of concepts. Being single is a choice, not going to say God has me single, I am not sure that God cares whether I am single or not. Paul said if I marry I am not sinning and if I stay single I will not have the distractions of a married person but each has his own gift.

Sort of leaves it to me, but I see what you are saying about thinking that God gave me the grace and desire to stay single. So we are back to God has me single after all. If that is so then I would say that for me the reason "God has me single" is so that I can spend 8 hours a day or more studying the Bible and theological bible reference books in order to enhance my preaching ministry that He has called me too without the distraction of having to "pay attention" to someone so that they will feel loved and all that sort of romance stuff.

Then someone might say that I am missing out on all the blessings of relationship and missing out on what God has for me. But then I would say that God has me single. Then they would say what if God wants you to be married. And then I would say I choose to be single because I like it better than being married. And then they would say God has me single. But what if God wants me to be married.....