Irresistible Grace ?

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Well, here I go again :( Sorry about all of these posts being clumped together like this :oops: If it's too much to answer (I already know that you have 3 under 5), then just reply to whatever you have time for.

John 3
3 Jesus answered and said to him, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born again he cannot see the kingdom of God.”

The Bible tells us that we cannot see the Kingdom of God (much less enter into it .. John 3:5) unless we have ~already~ been born again. But, if what you are saying is true instead, that we must believe ~before~ God quickens us/causes us to be born again, what is it, exactly, that we are choosing to believe :unsure:

Likewise, the Apostle Paul does a wonderful job of contrasting the "spiritual" man (Christian/believer) with the "natural" man (reprobate/unbeliever) for us in the following passage (v14 below details the "natural man"/unbeliever for us, obviously).

1 Corinthians 2
12 We have received, not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, so that we may know the things freely given to us by God,
13 which things we also speak, not in words taught by human wisdom, but in those taught by the Spirit, combining spiritual thoughts with spiritual words.
14 But a natural man does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; and he cannot understand them, because they are spiritually appraised.
15 But he who is spiritual appraises all things, yet he himself is appraised by no one.
16 For WHO HAS KNOWN THE MIND OF THE LORD, THAT HE WILL INSTRUCT HIM? But we have the mind of Christ.
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So, just like we saw in John 3:3, how can someone who is still in his/her "natural", unregenerate state (who is not capable of seeing, understanding and accepting the spiritual things of God .. except as "foolishness") ever come to saving faith unless God makes it possible for them to do so :unsure:

Thanks again :)

~Deut
John 3 is simply saying we cannot enter the Kingdom unless we are born Again . ' see ' and ' enter ' ,same thing .
I ask Calvinsts " what does the kingdom look like then ? " lol no its just as plain as it reads .
verse 6 of 1 cor 2 is the answer to the rest of the verses. Paul speaks wisdom ( Gods ) amoung the mature . The immature are unable to hear now because of their behaviour and worldy wisdom and they are ' carnal ' immature ( babes ) . ( Hebrews 5 ,the end of , is also referring to this )
like John 3 , calvinism , becuase of the paradigm needs some verses in support of ' regeneration precedes faith ', and I believe anoung others John 3 and 1cor2. 14 is used out of context to support . Verse 15 of 1 cor 2 , I believe makes no sense on the interpretation calvinists give for 1 cor 2.14.
 

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Well, here I go again :( Sorry about all of these posts being clumped together like this :oops: If it's too much to answer (I already know that you have 3 under 5), then just reply to whatever you have time for.

John 3
3 Jesus answered and said to him, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born again he cannot see the kingdom of God.”

The Bible tells us that we cannot see the Kingdom of God (much less enter into it .. John 3:5) unless we have ~already~ been born again. But, if what you are saying is true instead, that we must believe ~before~ God quickens us/causes us to be born again, what is it, exactly, that we are choosing to believe :unsure:

Likewise, the Apostle Paul does a wonderful job of contrasting the "spiritual" man (Christian/believer) with the "natural" man (reprobate/unbeliever) for us in the following passage (v14 below details the "natural man"/unbeliever for us, obviously).

1 Corinthians 2
12 We have received, not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, so that we may know the things freely given to us by God,
13 which things we also speak, not in words taught by human wisdom, but in those taught by the Spirit, combining spiritual thoughts with spiritual words.
14 But a natural man does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; and he cannot understand them, because they are spiritually appraised.
15 But he who is spiritual appraises all things, yet he himself is appraised by no one.
16 For WHO HAS KNOWN THE MIND OF THE LORD, THAT HE WILL INSTRUCT HIM? But we have the mind of Christ.
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So, just like we saw in John 3:3, how can someone who is still in his/her "natural", unregenerate state (who is not capable of seeing, understanding and accepting the spiritual things of God .. except as "foolishness") ever come to saving faith unless God makes it possible for them to do so :unsure:

Thanks again :)

~Deut[/QUOTE The calvinist idea of Total inability is the error here . Those verses do not support this idea . Once you accept the T is hard to view the scriptures properly in the matter of what the unbeliever can or cannot do or believe . it becomes the lense in which all subsequent ideas cascade out from. Hence 'ULIP ' . After all who wants to be called a 'will worshipping ' , semi / pelagian, who saves themselves and any other ' boogeyman ' label to lead you into the ' historical, sovereign, serious, sensible, scholarly, doctrines of grace ' " Welcome to the team "
 

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Hi throughfaith, I'm sure you understand the Biblical reasons behind both the Arminian and the Calvinist beliefs that the Father must act on our behalf to enable/quicken/regenerate us before it is possible for any of us to come to saving faith in His Son, yes? However, since neither Irresistible Grace nor Prevenient Grace is your "cup of tea", which "flavor" are you drinking these days :unsure:

Do you perhaps believe that all of us are inherently capable of responding in a positive manner when we hear the Gospel, apart from any prior, gracious enabling on God's part? Something else? (BTW, I'm not asking you for some kind of "label", just a quick summary of what you believe in regard to this and why)

Thanks :)

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I believe the bible is saying clearly that we are response ..able . The bible does hold us responsible and we are able to respond positively to The Gosepl when heard without the need for ' awakening ' 'quickening ' ect prior . This is Augustine . He started this whole mess . I used to be under this ' spell ' because of the idea of what is or isn't a ' work '. Or we hear this would be pleasing to God , but man Cannot please God argument ' . But this all hangs on T then ULIP follows . Or U forces T then L then I then P . The system is bullet proof ,on its own. Until you poke a stick at it with the scriptures alone . The P was the first to come under scrutiny for me ,because its essentially the same path as the Arminains take . But Most Arminians also hold to the T .
 
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"throughfaith, posted

The most quoted verse in Calvinsim is without question John 6.44 .
44No man can come to me, except the Father which hath sent me draw him: and I will raise him up at the last day.
Such a major part of reformed theology hangs on this one verse .

But : 1) We hear no mention of ' drawing' in the epistles .Nothing about a necessary drawing of the Father ,in the way the reformers use John 6.44 .

And 2) The verse nor the surrounding verses say nothing about those that drawn, IF they all do believe when they come . it simply says they CAN come if they are drawn .

3) This is before the cross . Why is this used for the church age? Jesus had not died for the sins of the world yet , no resurection , no Acts 2 and no giving of the Holy Spirit.

4) John 12 And I,if I be lifted up from the earth, WILL DRAW all men unto me.

5) There are no verses after the cross that say the Father draws anyone , nor the Holy Spirit .


How can we even explain John 6:44 without the verse following it. Jesus is clear when he says in John 6:45 that “it is written in the Prophets, and they shall be all taught of God. Every man therefore that has heard and has learned of the father comes unto him." In other words, it is written, everyone shall be taught of God but it is only those who have heard and learned of God will the father draw to him. This places a personal responsibility on man to seek, learn and know God and acknowledge Him as God in order to be called or drawn.

For us to know God, we must be acquainted with His word. And to be acquainted with His word, we must first hear His word. Romans 10: 14 - 15, 17 says, "how shall they believe on Him of whom they have not heard? And how shall they hear without a preacher? And how shall they preach except they are sent? As it is written, how beautiful are the feet of them that preach the gospel of peace and bring glad tidings of good things. So then, faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God". When the Word is heard, faith is invigorated in the life of the person who hears the word. The bible says the just shall live by faith. And Jesus tells us no one comes to the Father except by me ---- because he is the Word of God {in person} and we cannot say we know God without first knowing his Word, neither can we say we abide in God without abiding in his Word.

The question of Irresistible grace is sweet to the ears, but, we must answer the question --- which comes first -- Faith or the gift of the holy Spirit? If faith then, the explanation of irresistible grace is flawed. I am yet to see in the scripture where the holy Spirit is received without first hearing the word

Is it every man that hears the Word that believes. No, as Jesus explained in the parable of the Sower.
 

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"throughfaith, posted

The most quoted verse in Calvinsim is without question John 6.44 .
44No man can come to me, except the Father which hath sent me draw him: and I will raise him up at the last day.
Such a major part of reformed theology hangs on this one verse .

But : 1) We hear no mention of ' drawing' in the epistles .Nothing about a necessary drawing of the Father ,in the way the reformers use John 6.44 .

And 2) The verse nor the surrounding verses say nothing about those that drawn, IF they all do believe when they come . it simply says they CAN come if they are drawn .

3) This is before the cross . Why is this used for the church age? Jesus had not died for the sins of the world yet , no resurection , no Acts 2 and no giving of the Holy Spirit.

4) John 12 And I,if I be lifted up from the earth, WILL DRAW all men unto me.

5) There are no verses after the cross that say the Father draws anyone , nor the Holy Spirit .


How can we even explain John 6:44 without the verse following it. Jesus is clear when he says in John 6:45 that “it is written in the Prophets, and they shall be all taught of God. Every man therefore that has heard and has learned of the father comes unto him." In other words, it is written, everyone shall be taught of God but it is only those who have heard and learned of God will the father draw to him. This places a personal responsibility on man to seek, learn and know God and acknowledge Him as God in order to be called or drawn.

For us to know God, we must be acquainted with His word. And to be acquainted with His word, we must first hear His word. Romans 10: 14 - 15, 17 says, "how shall they believe on Him of whom they have not heard? And how shall they hear without a preacher? And how shall they preach except they are sent? As it is written, how beautiful are the feet of them that preach the gospel of peace and bring glad tidings of good things. So then, faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God". When the Word is heard, faith is invigorated in the life of the person who hears the word. The bible says the just shall live by faith. And Jesus tells us no one comes to the Father except by me ---- because he is the Word of God {in person} and we cannot say we know God without first knowing his Word, neither can we say we abide in God without abiding in his Word.

The question of Irresistible grace is sweet to the ears, but, we must answer the question --- which comes first -- Faith or the gift of the holy Spirit? If faith then, the explanation of irresistible grace is flawed. I am yet to see in the scripture where the holy Spirit is received without first hearing the word

Is it every man that hears the Word that believes. No, as Jesus explained in the parable of the Sower.
Acts 7:51 Ye stiffnecked and uncircumcised in heart and ears, ye do always resist the Holy Ghost: as your fathers did, so do ye.
 
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Acts 7:51 Ye stiffnecked and uncircumcised in heart and ears, ye do always resist the Holy Ghost: as your fathers did, so do ye.[


I do not know the angle you are coming from but your quote testifies that the doctrine of irresistible grace is faulty which incidentally agrees with my position.

I said earlier that it is not all that hears the Word believe. it is therefore not all that hears the Word receives the gift of the holy Spirit.
 

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"John146, posted

Acts 7:51 Ye stiffnecked and uncircumcised in heart and ears, ye do always resist the Holy Ghost: as your fathers did, so do ye.[


I do not know the angle you are coming from but your quote testifies that the doctrine of irresistible grace is faulty which incidentally agrees with my position.

I said earlier that it is not all that hears the Word believe. it is therefore not all that hears the Word receives the gift of the holy Spirit.

I would suggest that the idea of irresistible grace get's it premise from one simple Biblical fact.

That which God sends is received by His creation and never returns to Him void. It really is that simple unless one has an ax to grind in his/her theology.

Isa 55:11 so shall my word be that is going forth out of my mouth: it shall not return unto me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it.
 

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That which God sends is received by His creation and never returns to Him void.
God sent Christ to Israel as their King/Messiah BY HIS GRACE. Did they gladly receive Him, or did they reject Him?

You are also missapplying what you have quoted. That applies to the Word of God or the Gospel. In what sense does it not return to Him void, and it what sense does it accomplish that for which it was sent? It is in the sense that (1) either a person believes the Word and repents, or (2) disbelieves the Word and is then judged by the Word when he or she gives account to Christ.

Calvinists will be judged by all the Scriptures which plainly state that (1) Christ died for the sins of the whole world and (2) God offers the gift of eternal life to whosoever will believe and obey the Gospel.

So now is the time for Calvinists to repent of their false gospel and embrace the true Gospel of God and Christ.
 

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I was upset with myself awhile back, and I had to ask God what really is different since he revealed himself to me and imputed me with the Holy Spirit twenty years ago.
Then the Spirit spoke to me (gave me a surity) that I speak with confidence in the truth that the Spirit only has taught me.
The Spirit of truth is a powerful entity and you know when it's active.
 
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where have you got the idea that those in Christ have to persevere to the end ? what if you died today?

Where have you got '
10 Making request, if by any means now at length I might have a prosperous journey by the will of God to come unto you.

11 For I long to see you, that I may impart unto you some spiritual gift, to the end ye may be established;

12 That is, that I may be comforted together with you by the mutual faith both of you and me.


' from ? And We are only ' born again ' after we believe . We don't then persevere to the end to be saved . That would be works salvation . That verse is to do with the Tribulation.

Salvation is a good work that God works in us to both will and perform His good pleasure .We are to believe without murmuring like that of Jonas .God moved Jonas to finish his good will that he began in him . Jonas desired to die. He knew God was a gracious g God and would have mercy . Jonas was one of those hatters .Under the idea that his Hebrew flesh could profit for something. Jonas' goal rather than sending Jonas with the gospel was God should of sent down fire from heaven and destroyed the Ninevites

If I died today that would be the end . With Christ in us we have his power to endure. Without it we have no power we can endure nothing .

Before we believe we had "no faith" (none) that could please Him . He give us the reward of his work of faith or labor of Love, called grace .

Deuteronomy 32:20 And he said, I will hide my face from them, I will see what their end shall be: for they are a very froward generation, children in whom is "no faith".

No faith none, nothing, zero.
 
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[QUOTE="14meatcc, post: 4359235, member: 294224"The Spirit of truth is a powerful entity and you know when it's active.[/QUOTE]


Amen!.......there is no doudt about that,but the enemy will try his hardest to get us to doudt.

He has never ever been able to get me to doudt that God saved me ,boy has he tried.........he's given up!.lol.
 

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[QUOTE="14meatcc, post: 4359235, member: 294224"The Spirit of truth is a powerful entity and you know when it's active.

Amen!.......there is no doudt about that,but the enemy will try his hardest to get us to doudt.

He has never ever been able to get me to doudt that God saved me ,boy has he tried.........he's given up!.lol.[/QUOTE]

yeah thats the spirit. Amen
 

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You said, God sent Christ to Israel as their King/Messiah BY HIS GRACE. Did they gladly receive Him, or did they reject Him?

They clearly rejected Him but this statement has nothing to do with what I was saying. Christ was rejected and crucified according to God's eternal plan, was He not? Therefore His rejection and His death were God's purpose. Thank God for that... because if God's plan was usurped by man, we would all potentially still need a savior, as they may have appointed Him King rather than demanding He be crucified. Therefore, God's word or purpose stands firm and did not return to Him void.

You said, You are also missapplying what you have quoted. That applies to the Word of God or the Gospel. In what sense does it not return to Him void, and it what sense does it accomplish that for which it was sent?

No sir, you are the one who is misapplying what the verse is saying. It has nothing to do with the NT Gospel of Jesus Christ. Isaiah was giving the correct view of Jehovah. The LORD.

Here is what Isaiah was saying in the immediate context: Something that none of us should lose sight of as we study God's Holy Word:

Isa 55:8=11 For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith Jehovah. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts. For as the rain is coming down and the snow from heaven, and does not return to here, but is watering the earth, and making it bring forth and bud, and is giving seed to the sower and bread to the eater; so shall my word be that is going forth out of my mouth: (This word is God's Holy Purpose, His Eternal Decrees) it shall not return unto me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it.

You said, Calvinists will be judged by all the Scriptures which plainly state that (1) Christ died for the sins of the whole world (Then make the verses that say otherwise harmonize with that view.) and (2) God offers the gift of eternal life to whosoever will believe and obey the Gospel. (This is true. But who are the "whosoevers"? Does God have to do something first before this can take place?
 
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Had not really paid attention to different doctrines if you will, much less Calvinism, but am questioning some things in order to learn. Romans 9 has several verses that have read many times over the years, but did not really focus on them until here lately. Had always believed that any who called out to Jesus would be saved. What was Paul saying starting with verse 10 to verse 21?


10 And not only this; but when Rebecca also had conceived by one, even by our father Isaac;

11 (For the children being not yet born, neither having done any good or evil, that the purpose of God according to election might stand, not of works, but of Him that calleth;)

12 It was said unto her, The elder shall serve the younger.

13 As it is written, Jacob have I loved, but Esau have I hated.

14 What shall we say then? Is there unrighteousness with God? God forbid.

15 For he saith to Moses, I will have mercy on whom I will have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I will have compassion.

16 So then it is not of him that willeth, nor of him that runneth, but of God that sheweth mercy.

17 For the scripture saith unto Pharaoh, Even for this same purpose have I raised thee up, that I might shew my power in thee, and that my name might be declared throughout all the earth.

18 Therefore hath he mercy on whom he will have mercy, and whom he will he hardeneth.

19 Thou wilt say then unto me, Why doth he yet find fault? For who hath resisted his will?

20 Nay but, O man, who art thou that repliest against God? Shall the thing formed say to him that formed it, Why hast thou made me thus?

21 Hath not the potter power over the clay, of the same lump to make one vessel unto honour, and another unto dishonour?

Thanks!
 
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Do not know why the emoji showed up after verse 11; had copied and pasted, but the emoji was not there when I copied it. Weird....
 
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Ah, it was the semi-colon and parenthesis.....doh!
 

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Had not really paid attention to different doctrines if you will, much less Calvinism, but am questioning some things in order to learn. Romans 9 has several verses that have read many times over the years, but did not really focus on them until here lately. Had always believed that any who called out to Jesus would be saved. What was Paul saying starting with verse 10 to verse 21?

Thanks!
I will take a run at this for you.

The real problem here is that each one of these verses need a lot of time to explain but here is a running commentary in brief.

First, we have to put our minds into the eternal gear. We have to see God before He created anything. His complete and total architectural plan. His Decreeing all things that will take place, either by His direct power are His permissive will.

Paul had shown in the earlier verses that God does as He pleases with His creation. Not all of Israel was Israel, (Traditional view of the Jews was, that having Abraham as their father, was all they needed.), thus he is establishing further God's election in His purpose. In choosing Jacob over Esau, God breaks with man's traditions (In this case, that all things are inherited by the elder brother), and proves God is not bound by traditions of men.

10 And not only this; but when Rebecca also had conceived by one, even by our father Isaac;
This verses is self explanatory. Paul uses an account that readers are familiar with. (Gen. 25)

11 (For the children being not yet born, neither having done any good or evil, that the purpose of God according to election might stand, not of works, but of Him that calleth;
The primary push of this verse, is that neither of the two children, in and of themselves deserved anything from God. They were both under the Adamic Curse, wherein, when Adam fell, we all fell in him. Not just because of him but we were all in him when he fell, legally speaking. God's purpose in election was to bestow greatness on Jacob and not Esau. Therefore, since this was being done by God's eternal purpose, it could not be seen as if it were by works. It had nothing to do with their might are the will of either. It also, had nothing to do with them trying to please God. This understood, magnifies the last part of the verse, (that the purpose of God according to election might stand, not of works, but of Him that calleth;

12 It was said unto her, The elder shall serve the younger.
God told her that the traditional view of man's inheritance was going to be turned upside down. (Gen.25:23)

13 As it is written, Jacob have I loved, but Esau have I hated.
The reason for this, goes straight to the mind of God. God had made this determination from eternity before anything had been created. It was written by Malachi: Mal 1:2-3 ... I have loved you, saith Jehovah. Yet ye say, Wherein hast thou loved us? Was not Esau Jacob's brother, saith Jehovah: yet I loved Jacob; but Esau I hated, and made his mountains a desolation, and gave his heritage to the jackals of the wilderness. The natural man could not see how this was a demonstration of God's love. This verse also, clearly begins to setup an understanding that God's love is directed towards whom He pleases. In some kind of way, this love extends to all but not in the same way. This other kind of way, does not represent God's electing purpose. Rather, God seems to allow those he hates to be used for examples. Perhaps to increases the understanding of sin, for the Elect. ( This last thought is not a, Thus saith the Lord, just a thought) Ultimately though, it is to fulfill a purpose that only God truly understands. After all, the nonelect enjoy the blessings being bestowed on the elect, for now. (Mat.5:45)

14 What shall we say then? Is there unrighteousness with God? God forbid.
Paul anticipates the objection of the reader.

15 For he saith to Moses, I will have mercy on whom I will have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I will have compassion.
Paul explains there is no injustice in God having mercy and compassion on who he wills. After all, none of mankind, deserves any mercy or compassion. In this same way, God is not unrighteous are unjust to show mercy on whom He chooses. Therefore, if God elects some to His mercy and gives them grace but not others, there is no injustice. All deserved condemnation. Mercy was shown to the elect but there still had to be a payment for their crimes (sin), so Jesus Christ stood in the place of the Elect. The others were passed by. God is not condemning them by passing by, they are already condemned because of the fall. Nothing in His Holy justice demands He save anyone but thankfully, He decided to save a remnant for His own purposes.

16 So then it is not of him through his own will, nor of him that is striving, but of God that is showing mercy.
This single statement, here in this verse, says it all. You can't achieve God's mercy or compassion by your own will are by striving to get it. God is the only one who can give it. Without it, there is no salvation. Your hope is as desolate as Esau's was.

17 For the scripture saith unto Pharaoh, Even for this same purpose have I raised thee up, that I might shew my power in thee, and that my name might be declared throughout all the earth.
Same purpose, herein spoken of, is to show God's purpose over man's will. God raised up Pharaoh, only for the purpose of showing His power. Pharaoh's sole purpose in life, was to be ruler while God brought forth the plagues. Thus Pharaoh is used as an example. (This goes back to what I said in verse 13.

18 Therefore hath he mercy on whom he will have mercy, and whom he will he is hardening.
God does both, show mercy to whom He will and hardens who He wills. There is both a God hardening and a self hardening. (see verses: Mark 6:52, 8:17; John 12:40; Acts 19:9; Rom. 11:7; 2 Cor.3:44) Christ was hidden from the natural mind, we are told in Scripture and revealed to the elect. (see verses such as,
Mat.13:34,35; 16:17; John 1:5)

19 Thou wilt say then unto me, Why doth he yet find fault? For who hath resisted his will?
Once again, Paul anticipates the readers objections. No one can resist God's determinate will.

20 Nay but, O man, who art thou that is making accusations against God? Shall the thing formed say to him that formed it, Why hast thou made me thus?
Paul now turns with all his force and defends God's Sovereignty. A Simple but unbelievably strong statement. Can the creation, question it's creator. That's like a lab rat, saying to the scientist, "What are you doing to me?" or "Why did you build this maze in this way?" God's Sovereign choice in all things and pertaining to all things is easy to understand and rejoice in, as long as, one approaches from the right direction. In other words, It is not about US and what we want, it is about GOD and what He has determined for us.

21 Hath not the potter power over the clay, of the same lump to make one vessel unto honour, and another unto dishonour?
In other words, God took from the same "lump" (From humanity), and made some to honor (the Elect), and some to dishonor ( the Nonelect ). Or keeping closer to the text, some for "mercy and compassion" and some for unforgivness and hardening.

I also, include the following part of this discussion in Romans:

22 What if God, willing to show his wrath, and to make his power known, endured with much longsuffering vessels of wrath fitted unto destruction:
This again, places the emphasis on those whom God made for the purpose of destruction. The world does not like this language and has from the beginning of God revealing himself, tried to usurp this clearly stated truth. This verse takes us back to verses 16 &17, as further explanation.

23 and that he might make known the riches of his glory upon vessels of mercy, which he beforehand prepared unto glory,
Here, Paul states that these things are again for an example. Example to whom? The ones made for mercy, which were decreed from eternity. ( "which he beforehand prepared unto glory")

24 even us, whom he also called, not from the Jews only, but also from the Gentiles?
Some have tried, to make these passages, apply only to the Jews. But this is clearly a false interpretation. We know this because Paul uses the pronoun "us" and includes the Gentiles or if you prefer "nations".

I hope, that in some small way, that this might have helped you. The rest is up to the Lord.