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Are you getting advice from a good Pastor & elders, and prayer support?
She’s more important than money or things, try to keep peace as far as it is possible for you; God is able to lead you in all things.
He can show you the root of the anger and what to do, he can heal and deliver you from it. you can pray for her more effectively then aswell...
Just keep real close to Him, we don’t know how long this is gonna take, 1 day at a time with Him... that’s how we live... by faith, by trusting Him with every circumstance and every moment, looking to the all-sufficient One, for wisdom about all decisions.
Never mind human reasoning, listen to Him, seek Him with all of your heart, get grace from Him to obey Him in everything. The Bible says it’s wise to have wise, Godly counsellors around you- make sure they have stable, happy marriages as evidence that they are proven advisors👌 They should be husbands of 1 wife and their households should be running well- the Bible says, stable people. Ask God to lead you to the right advisors if you need to.
My God shall supply all your needs according to His riches in glory.
Philippians 4:19
Stay in the Word bro X
She’s more important than money or things, try to keep peace as far as it is possible for you; God is able to lead you in all things.
He can show you the root of the anger and what to do, he can heal and deliver you from it. you can pray for her more effectively then aswell...
Just keep real close to Him, we don’t know how long this is gonna take, 1 day at a time with Him... that’s how we live... by faith, by trusting Him with every circumstance and every moment, looking to the all-sufficient One, for wisdom about all decisions.
Never mind human reasoning, listen to Him, seek Him with all of your heart, get grace from Him to obey Him in everything. The Bible says it’s wise to have wise, Godly counsellors around you- make sure they have stable, happy marriages as evidence that they are proven advisors👌 They should be husbands of 1 wife and their households should be running well- the Bible says, stable people. Ask God to lead you to the right advisors if you need to.
My God shall supply all your needs according to His riches in glory.
Philippians 4:19
Stay in the Word bro X
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I'm not sure why a daily prayer book would make her feel I'm trying to correct her. I have decided to not come to her while she is in her office. I'm going to show up before she gets off work and leave the gifts on her car. That way she isn't embarrassed by me coming to her office or anything. I will give her time to digest everything I've given to her and then I will text her and ask if it is okay if I sit with her at church that evening. If she says no, then I'll give her space. Then I will text her Saturday and ask if it is okay if I sit with her at church. I will continue to give her space, but at the same time letting her know I'm interested without stalking or being obsessive.
I pray and read the Bible everyday. I wish He would tell me very clearly what to do lol. I believe the idea for the gifts came from Him as I hadn't even considered it until like two days ago and then it seemed so clear to me.
I do listen to what people are telling me. I have been very open to listening to people's input and revamping my ideas to what seems right.
I pray and read the Bible everyday. I wish He would tell me very clearly what to do lol. I believe the idea for the gifts came from Him as I hadn't even considered it until like two days ago and then it seemed so clear to me.
I do listen to what people are telling me. I have been very open to listening to people's input and revamping my ideas to what seems right.
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Yes, may God supply all my needs according to His riches in glory!
I realized tomorrow may not be the end of the fight, but I'm in it to win it. I'm trusting Him the whole way.
I have sought out counsel only from people who believe in marriage as I do. Some very negative, worldly people in my circle of family and friends have sought to advise me against continuing my marriage. I had to let one of my lifelong friends know not to message me anymore if he couldn't support me in my marriage and my faith due to his point of view about my situation. They say they don't want me to get hurt by my wife's actions anymore, but I'm 38 years old, and a mental health practitioner - I know what I'm doing and the risks involved. Loving someone always comes with risks.
I believe I have resolved my anger issues, but I can only truly know when put into situations that would cause me to be angry. I understand that anger will not benefit me at all in those situations. That itself is enough to keep me from reacting and yelling and blowing up.
I do greatly appreciate your support and counsel. I have tried to seek out the support of godly people who say they stand with me in faith that God will heal and restore my marriage. The "what-if'ers" and the "maybe He won't answer your prayers" people have tried to bring me down, but I keep standing my ground. What is impossible with men is possible with God.
I realized tomorrow may not be the end of the fight, but I'm in it to win it. I'm trusting Him the whole way.
I have sought out counsel only from people who believe in marriage as I do. Some very negative, worldly people in my circle of family and friends have sought to advise me against continuing my marriage. I had to let one of my lifelong friends know not to message me anymore if he couldn't support me in my marriage and my faith due to his point of view about my situation. They say they don't want me to get hurt by my wife's actions anymore, but I'm 38 years old, and a mental health practitioner - I know what I'm doing and the risks involved. Loving someone always comes with risks.
I believe I have resolved my anger issues, but I can only truly know when put into situations that would cause me to be angry. I understand that anger will not benefit me at all in those situations. That itself is enough to keep me from reacting and yelling and blowing up.
I do greatly appreciate your support and counsel. I have tried to seek out the support of godly people who say they stand with me in faith that God will heal and restore my marriage. The "what-if'ers" and the "maybe He won't answer your prayers" people have tried to bring me down, but I keep standing my ground. What is impossible with men is possible with God.
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I’m just saying how I would see it; I hate feeling like someone is trying to control me and a prayer book could kinda say, “ You need to pray and change” and this seems a very sensitive situation...
Lol if you keep asking her is that giving her space? I dunno... it’s really between you and the Lord.
Those who are led by the spirit of God they are the Sons of God.
I have heard from the Lord when I have asked Him to show me if there is anything at all hindering my relationship with Him... and when He showed me I had to ask Him to help me, and He did😅I was heart-broken but by the end of it I was free😊🦋
Lol if you keep asking her is that giving her space? I dunno... it’s really between you and the Lord.
Those who are led by the spirit of God they are the Sons of God.
I have heard from the Lord when I have asked Him to show me if there is anything at all hindering my relationship with Him... and when He showed me I had to ask Him to help me, and He did😅I was heart-broken but by the end of it I was free😊🦋
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Seek Him with your whole heart; ask Him what is He trying to show you... sorry I know it’s hard to hear; but I have felt frustrated many times and wanted God to just answer; and yet I see His ways are far higher than mine. We humans are very short sighted; it reminds me of the donkey who protected his rider from harm and was getting beaten for doing so because Balaam didn’t realise what was really going on.
There’s some hindrance here, the only answer is to seek God and be prepared for Him to show you anything at all... we all have these times but it is always well worth it in the end; it’s through such suffering that we get refined...
There’s some hindrance here, the only answer is to seek God and be prepared for Him to show you anything at all... we all have these times but it is always well worth it in the end; it’s through such suffering that we get refined...
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Thank you everyone for your support. It's dead and over. I tried to meet her after work and she called the police and had me arrested. I spent the night in jail and that was it for me. I can't even get into how hard that was for me to accept losing my wife and stepsons forever.
I can no longer ask God for anything in prayer. It's just a waste of time. I can no longer expect a blessing from doing good - it won't happen. I can no longer trust God to honor my tithes because He hasn't. He is free to rain down blessings on my head and I'm good with that - but I'm not going to waste my time believing He will.
I can no longer ask God for anything in prayer. It's just a waste of time. I can no longer expect a blessing from doing good - it won't happen. I can no longer trust God to honor my tithes because He hasn't. He is free to rain down blessings on my head and I'm good with that - but I'm not going to waste my time believing He will.
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Sorry to hear that, i guess your marriage had underlying issues that were not resolved. You can still make it work, ask her what she wants from you, try marriage counselling/therapy, etc Its negativity telling her you don't love her and to call it quits. Work on what you can do which grab her confidence and work from there.
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Bro your understanding is flawed....
unless she commits adultery it is not dead and over. The fact that things did not go how you wanted or expected means nothing; relinquish control to God; this is trusting Him.
We can't always expect a blessing from doing good; its not always as simple as that. We suffer wrongfully, the Bible says, and this pleases God.
Don't expect blessings for doing good or tithing etc; just be faithful to Him because that is what He requires. Remember Job said," Though He shay me I will curse Him not," and also ," When I have been refined I will come forth as gold." We live for Him and His glory, we keep trusting even when we don't understand, even when it's hard, for this is when He is at work the most in our character; remember what Jesus said about being pruned to bring forth more fruit....this is the narrow way it's hard, that's why few are on it, but He is well worth it and He is worth more to you than your wife, stepsons or anyone else and don't think you have definitely list them as this is a crushing thought which is not necessarily true. If you belong to God then trust it all to Him even now. He is able to do abundantly and exceedingly more than we ask or think and if He doesn't do it when we want or even what we want, well He works all for the good of those who love Him and it will be worth it in the end.
We aren't in this for blessing, we are in this because we love Him and He is worthy.
It may take a long time for this to work out. Get in the Word every day. Start by looking up verses about suffering, affliction, troubles, God's faithfulness... build up your most holy faith....keep leaning on the everlasting arms and on His people.
Psalm 43 verse 5 X
unless she commits adultery it is not dead and over. The fact that things did not go how you wanted or expected means nothing; relinquish control to God; this is trusting Him.
We can't always expect a blessing from doing good; its not always as simple as that. We suffer wrongfully, the Bible says, and this pleases God.
Don't expect blessings for doing good or tithing etc; just be faithful to Him because that is what He requires. Remember Job said," Though He shay me I will curse Him not," and also ," When I have been refined I will come forth as gold." We live for Him and His glory, we keep trusting even when we don't understand, even when it's hard, for this is when He is at work the most in our character; remember what Jesus said about being pruned to bring forth more fruit....this is the narrow way it's hard, that's why few are on it, but He is well worth it and He is worth more to you than your wife, stepsons or anyone else and don't think you have definitely list them as this is a crushing thought which is not necessarily true. If you belong to God then trust it all to Him even now. He is able to do abundantly and exceedingly more than we ask or think and if He doesn't do it when we want or even what we want, well He works all for the good of those who love Him and it will be worth it in the end.
We aren't in this for blessing, we are in this because we love Him and He is worthy.
It may take a long time for this to work out. Get in the Word every day. Start by looking up verses about suffering, affliction, troubles, God's faithfulness... build up your most holy faith....keep leaning on the everlasting arms and on His people.
Psalm 43 verse 5 X
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I have prayed on this thread from the beginning. When I started to see the signs of stalking, I prayed harder. I even cautioned him. Today I know that my advice to him is from God.
I'm sorry that I offended you. I think those of you who are encouraging him to chase after her, aren't listening to what God is telling you and him.
I think you need to look at this relationship for what it is. He is stalking his ex. This activity usually ends up in tragedy.
She is an unbeliever. He doesn't commit adultery when she leaves.
I believe that the scripture addresses his situation as being unequally yoked. If she desires to leave him, and she has, he is to let her go.
Again I'm sorry if I offended you or anyone else.
I'm sorry that I offended you. I think those of you who are encouraging him to chase after her, aren't listening to what God is telling you and him.
I think you need to look at this relationship for what it is. He is stalking his ex. This activity usually ends up in tragedy.
She is an unbeliever. He doesn't commit adultery when she leaves.
I believe that the scripture addresses his situation as being unequally yoked. If she desires to leave him, and she has, he is to let her go.
Again I'm sorry if I offended you or anyone else.
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