I have lived in nursing homes so I speak from experience. This last time was to get my knee joints replaced. This last stretch was 1 year. There is no hope alive there. Everyone is waiting to die. You befriend someone, and suddenly they are gone. Most are not even there mentally.
I am fully independent and I don't need that much care. Do you know it cost at least twice what my Social Security pays to live there. You don't get to chose your food or when you can shower, etc. etc. Yes, it is that bad. Since being out, I am thankful for much more than most of you think about.
Magenta: I told calibob I can live anywhere. I just don't think California will be financially possible. He has stated much the same in his emails. All I want is for him to decide if he is interested or not. I am not rooming with the devil again, like it has been with my son. If he does not want to room with me I will look for another. I am working on some other alternatives also.