This is sort of a melancholic topic, but I think one that crosses our minds. There is such a beauty in love and one day we will all die. There are certain things to consider, maybe selfish, in the timing of our passing.
For me, when it comes to my future spouse and I, and our family, I would like to die in old age together side by side peacefully at the same time kinda like in the movie Bicentennial Man. For me this works because neither of us will grieve the passing of the other and by the time we die in old age our children while they may miss us will be adults (probably with their own immediate family).
I wouldn’t want either of us grieving the other. I realize this doesn’t seem to fully consider how the children will feel, but it does in that the timing (old age) will mean they are established in life.
What about you? Would you want to die before, after, or with your spouse? And, why? Maybe some would like to die after so that they are around to comfort and console their children in the passing of their parent? Or maybe you want to be the first to go, so you don’t have to deal with any of that sadness? Or like me, you’d like to pass peacefully together with your spouse in old age?
I am not sure how selfish any of these options are, only that someone is going to mourn for a life well lived. The impact you’ve made and love you have given. The people you have mentored, inspired, and encouraged.
The dying before option could be the most selfish, seemingly. Yet, someone could argue they don’t want to be a burden to their loved ones. I suppose I should mention that, in my desire for passing together in old age that we would be able bodied and with a sharp mind in old age (not being a burden to anyone).
Which option appeals to you?
PS: Married folk, feel free to express your desire.
Ecclesiastes 7:2 King James Version (KJV)
2 It is better to go to the house of mourning, than to go to the house of feasting: for that is the end of all men; and the living will lay it to his heart.
Sometimes considering these things, makes us appreciate the life we are living and enjoying the love we have and get to experience. Every day a blessing, and every moment savored.
For me, when it comes to my future spouse and I, and our family, I would like to die in old age together side by side peacefully at the same time kinda like in the movie Bicentennial Man. For me this works because neither of us will grieve the passing of the other and by the time we die in old age our children while they may miss us will be adults (probably with their own immediate family).
I wouldn’t want either of us grieving the other. I realize this doesn’t seem to fully consider how the children will feel, but it does in that the timing (old age) will mean they are established in life.
What about you? Would you want to die before, after, or with your spouse? And, why? Maybe some would like to die after so that they are around to comfort and console their children in the passing of their parent? Or maybe you want to be the first to go, so you don’t have to deal with any of that sadness? Or like me, you’d like to pass peacefully together with your spouse in old age?
I am not sure how selfish any of these options are, only that someone is going to mourn for a life well lived. The impact you’ve made and love you have given. The people you have mentored, inspired, and encouraged.
The dying before option could be the most selfish, seemingly. Yet, someone could argue they don’t want to be a burden to their loved ones. I suppose I should mention that, in my desire for passing together in old age that we would be able bodied and with a sharp mind in old age (not being a burden to anyone).
Which option appeals to you?
PS: Married folk, feel free to express your desire.
Ecclesiastes 7:2 King James Version (KJV)
2 It is better to go to the house of mourning, than to go to the house of feasting: for that is the end of all men; and the living will lay it to his heart.
Sometimes considering these things, makes us appreciate the life we are living and enjoying the love we have and get to experience. Every day a blessing, and every moment savored.
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