Hi there,
I was just thinking about the fact that I've often read about men who look for love online in foreign countries (meaning, for this thread, any country other than the one they are living in or identify with.) Several years ago in the Christian Chat Singles forum, we had a few middle-aged men (in their 50's) who were very enthusiastically encouraging Christian men to look for young brides in Asian countries. I remember one specifically saying that "American women are poison," and therefore, a man's best chance was to look overseas.
Over the years, I've personally known about 15 married couples in which the spouses were from completely different countries and cultures. In the past, I've written some threads about the unique challenges they've told me they face, but this thread is not about that.
Rather, I'd like to ask -- if Christian men feel led by God to seek young wives from other countries, why aren't Christian women doing the same?
As I've said, I've known some couples who fit this category, but it was always the husband who had actively pursued options in other countries, and not the wife. So why don't we see this in reverse? I've never met, or even read about, a single couple in which the woman was the one who was actively pursuing men in other countries through dating sites that advertise foreign spouses, etc. Why not? (I'm sure there must be a few out there, but why would it be so rare?)
* Is it because the men are seen as being the ones who should pursue, and therefore, women shouldn't be pursuing men? (If so, why,, and are they, allowed to pursue men within their own country?)
* Is it because more men are in a position to hunt for foreign spouses than women? (For example, they don't have kids or have enough leniency in their custody agreements to be able to pursue someone in another country.)
* Is it because women just aren't interested in this kind of option?
I would really be interested in hearing your feedback.
Please note -- I'm neither encouraging nor condoning this for either gender. If a person feels led by God to pursue a spouse in another country, who am I to say anything?
* Do you know of any couples in which the spouses come from completely different countries and/or cultures, or are you in such a marriage yourself?
* If so, was it the man or the woman who did the pursuing?
I know that duplicate threads are usually frowned upon, but I have posted this thread both here in the Family Forum and in the Singles Forum. I'm interested in what both singles and married have to say about this, and know that the best way to try to glean from both groups is to post in both forums.
Looking forward to an interesting discussion, and thank you for your time!
I was just thinking about the fact that I've often read about men who look for love online in foreign countries (meaning, for this thread, any country other than the one they are living in or identify with.) Several years ago in the Christian Chat Singles forum, we had a few middle-aged men (in their 50's) who were very enthusiastically encouraging Christian men to look for young brides in Asian countries. I remember one specifically saying that "American women are poison," and therefore, a man's best chance was to look overseas.
Over the years, I've personally known about 15 married couples in which the spouses were from completely different countries and cultures. In the past, I've written some threads about the unique challenges they've told me they face, but this thread is not about that.
Rather, I'd like to ask -- if Christian men feel led by God to seek young wives from other countries, why aren't Christian women doing the same?
As I've said, I've known some couples who fit this category, but it was always the husband who had actively pursued options in other countries, and not the wife. So why don't we see this in reverse? I've never met, or even read about, a single couple in which the woman was the one who was actively pursuing men in other countries through dating sites that advertise foreign spouses, etc. Why not? (I'm sure there must be a few out there, but why would it be so rare?)
* Is it because the men are seen as being the ones who should pursue, and therefore, women shouldn't be pursuing men? (If so, why,, and are they, allowed to pursue men within their own country?)
* Is it because more men are in a position to hunt for foreign spouses than women? (For example, they don't have kids or have enough leniency in their custody agreements to be able to pursue someone in another country.)
* Is it because women just aren't interested in this kind of option?
I would really be interested in hearing your feedback.
Please note -- I'm neither encouraging nor condoning this for either gender. If a person feels led by God to pursue a spouse in another country, who am I to say anything?
* Do you know of any couples in which the spouses come from completely different countries and/or cultures, or are you in such a marriage yourself?
* If so, was it the man or the woman who did the pursuing?
I know that duplicate threads are usually frowned upon, but I have posted this thread both here in the Family Forum and in the Singles Forum. I'm interested in what both singles and married have to say about this, and know that the best way to try to glean from both groups is to post in both forums.
Looking forward to an interesting discussion, and thank you for your time!
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If not, then they already do that by being available to men in the U.S. Of course, the "actual" Christian field would be considerably more difficult to find, if not impossible without the Lord's direction/guidance.
