Your verbiage is very pointed. What does a “high horse” have to do with dating? Is it your consensus that preferences are not appropriate? Do you accept everyone who crosses your path?
Do you extend the same to your sex? Meaning, is it wrong for a man to desire a woman who’s physically attractive with the requisite height and weight balance? Do you chide them on their bias or let it slide?
The women you’re describing have standards they’re unwilling to bend. Are you implying they’re wrong and should give others a chance?
Who would want to be someone’s charity project or sympathy date? That’s really demoralizing. Most people want to keep company with someone who desires their company. Worrying about the behaviors of those who fall outside that circle is pretty wasteful.
They’re not interested. No amount of complaining will change that. And anyone with a morsel of dignity wouldn’t take that course. They’d want to be valued for who they are. If that isn’t enough too bad. They’ll find someone who appreciates all of them. That’s the rational step.
well, since you see it that way. Let put this way then. Looks over character, money over substance and suave over kindness. That is basically how that high horse works. Besides, you so ardently defend that people should have shopping list where they objectify the living crap out of people, judging them already for what they are not ( rich, tall, handsome) before even seeing what they have. your disdain is pretty disheartening.
I know a lot of jackasses who let a lot good women fall through the cracks because they want to date a christian super babe. and so is the same for sisters wanting a christian super hunk. so before you go around telling me I am all wrong because it does not fit with your frame of reference or experience.
consider this : yes, I think they are wrong because they are superficial ( same for men) and yes we are all diamonds, but diamond only gains value when being cut and that can only be done by another diamond.
and I have to say, you must ( and that is an assumption on my part, to be fair) already look down on people if you call people who would not be worth a glance a charity project or a sympathy date. the latter one is even rather outright insulting. you keep yourself in your circle and miss out on good people. that is indeed wasteful.
if they are not interested then they should stop playing around, asking people to be friends ( why really let someone go in dignity if you can dangle that juicy bait in from of them ) and deport them straight to friendzone.
you talk dignity? well, I wonder how many you deported there and call them "friends" self respect does not mean to loiter with someone who laid his heart open to you and gets it kicked while you receive the "grace" to remain.
You know I get it, a christian woman wants in the ideal case have a handsome hunk, that earns enough to allow her to be a home maker or take care of the kids while he dutifully shows up every sunday with her in church, while he also gets to be fantastic elsewhere while she basks in status. Why waste your time with the subhumans that could not match that high horsed expectation because bottom line, that is what it is all about. exceptional "soulmates" because the average is not good enough for contentment.
everything else, according to you is a charity project or a sympathy date.
I dated and have been with all sorts of women, thin, thick, short, tall, with a pounds too many on some places, pretty, not so pretty considered by others and I was all the richer for the experience because they appreciated a sincere interest and appreciation for the consideration. It me was me that was wanting. I had myself not sorted out at that juncture and it would not have been my place to burden them with the things that ailed me at the time.
They were not pity dates or disrespected them to call it charity.
I didn´t even lower my standards, I saw them as human beings as sisters that need to be loved and appreciated without a caveat. There no checks to be made, no evaluation Just the treasure of their company and the experience of a lifetime to get close to someone.
If you call that lowering standards, I gladly will even go lower.
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