I would rather be single then be with the wrong person.
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"I would rather be single then be with the wrong person."
Oh boy do I know that feeling! I feel it every day I go to w*rk. I deal with lots of people that make me downright happy to be single.
Sure it would be nice to meet a nice lady one day and marry her. But I get a LOT of examples of the wrong kind of person when I go to w*rk.
But I can leave all that when I clock out and go home to my peaceful house. Ahhhh, I love being single. Much better than being married to the wrong person.
Oh boy do I know that feeling! I feel it every day I go to w*rk. I deal with lots of people that make me downright happy to be single.
Sure it would be nice to meet a nice lady one day and marry her. But I get a LOT of examples of the wrong kind of person when I go to w*rk.
But I can leave all that when I clock out and go home to my peaceful house. Ahhhh, I love being single. Much better than being married to the wrong person.
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Wise words.
My twin was married to the wrong one for over 30 years. Verbal abuse is always mental and emotional abuse. He never hit her though he did raise his fist a few times and then thought better of it. He was highly trained in martial arts and perhaps that's why he stopped. He knew the damage he could do.
After awhile she became numb to being ignored. When they first met they'd talk till the sun came up, each one not realizing the time. After they married, gradually over years, she would talk at him, or aloud, and he'd never say a word. Unless he wanted to talk about something that he was interested in.
One day she called in tears. She'd asked him why they didn't talk like they use to, for hours, getting lost to the time and lost in each other.
To this day I remember the answer she said he gave her. This one of the last few conversations we shared together before she passed on. He told her, "Because you don't have anything to say worth listening to."
He was a liar, a sneak, and a thief. And the worst thing that ever happened to her life. He was also her first and last husband.
Whatever you do, as a young single person, especially if you are in your teens. Don't marry that young. She was 25 when they wed. And still, she said, it was too soon. Because in the end she was married to him longer than she'd been alive before they met.
Something she told me in a note she mailed of random thoughts. She'd do that when she was down. I think a lot of the times she did these things so when I found someone who sounded like they were living the same issues as she, I'd share them. Below are but two.
"When you're young and think to marry and be with someone forever experiment first. Pick your two favorite foods. Entree and a dessert. Eat just those two things for a week. Breakfast, lunch, dinner. Because that's marriage. One person, day or night, good or bad, for the rest of your life. When you're a teen you stand to live 50 to 60 years. Now imagine, that one entree, one dessert, and only those, for six decades!"
"When we meet someone we're really attracted to forever doesn't seem long enough. When you marry the wrong person that last line in the vows changes you. "Till death us do part..." In a bad marriage there are many ways to die."
When she passed on she knew I'm sure and I realized later through the grief, had she divorced him, given the average lifespan of a healthy female, she would have had less years to live so as to find the right man, than she'd spent with the wrong one.
My twin was married to the wrong one for over 30 years. Verbal abuse is always mental and emotional abuse. He never hit her though he did raise his fist a few times and then thought better of it. He was highly trained in martial arts and perhaps that's why he stopped. He knew the damage he could do.
After awhile she became numb to being ignored. When they first met they'd talk till the sun came up, each one not realizing the time. After they married, gradually over years, she would talk at him, or aloud, and he'd never say a word. Unless he wanted to talk about something that he was interested in.
One day she called in tears. She'd asked him why they didn't talk like they use to, for hours, getting lost to the time and lost in each other.
To this day I remember the answer she said he gave her. This one of the last few conversations we shared together before she passed on. He told her, "Because you don't have anything to say worth listening to."
He was a liar, a sneak, and a thief. And the worst thing that ever happened to her life. He was also her first and last husband.
Whatever you do, as a young single person, especially if you are in your teens. Don't marry that young. She was 25 when they wed. And still, she said, it was too soon. Because in the end she was married to him longer than she'd been alive before they met.
Something she told me in a note she mailed of random thoughts. She'd do that when she was down. I think a lot of the times she did these things so when I found someone who sounded like they were living the same issues as she, I'd share them. Below are but two.
"When you're young and think to marry and be with someone forever experiment first. Pick your two favorite foods. Entree and a dessert. Eat just those two things for a week. Breakfast, lunch, dinner. Because that's marriage. One person, day or night, good or bad, for the rest of your life. When you're a teen you stand to live 50 to 60 years. Now imagine, that one entree, one dessert, and only those, for six decades!"
"When we meet someone we're really attracted to forever doesn't seem long enough. When you marry the wrong person that last line in the vows changes you. "Till death us do part..." In a bad marriage there are many ways to die."
When she passed on she knew I'm sure and I realized later through the grief, had she divorced him, given the average lifespan of a healthy female, she would have had less years to live so as to find the right man, than she'd spent with the wrong one.
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Agreed. A good and healthy relationship should build each other up and serve the things of God and not of man.
To help each other and be there for each other. We all fall short, tis true. But, a good and Godly relationship is started with God's Grace, Love and Blessing.
Nicely said in what you put in your starter for the thread.
Never had the pleasure to "meet you" in here by the way, so a hello to you while I am posting this.
To help each other and be there for each other. We all fall short, tis true. But, a good and Godly relationship is started with God's Grace, Love and Blessing.
Nicely said in what you put in your starter for the thread.
Never had the pleasure to "meet you" in here by the way, so a hello to you while I am posting this.
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I was reading this book about Centenarians. Those who lived to be 100 or more. it is called Keepers of history, the author went round interviewing any one over 100 in nz.
what I noticed was that they either had steady marriages or were single and never married.
None were divorced, and none had abusive spouses. They might have been widows but they then coped as widows and were not so codependent that they couldnt survive.
The ones that were single kept active and interested in hobbies, other people or volunteered for charities. None of them ever mentioned regrets althougn many seemd surprised they lived so long. could be genetic?
I dont know if maybe it was just self reporting what the interviewer wanted to hear though, but it struck me that many people do die younger if they have stressful relationships. if people dont end up divorcing, the reality is abusve couples can and do end up killing each other, if not directly then indirectly.
what I noticed was that they either had steady marriages or were single and never married.
None were divorced, and none had abusive spouses. They might have been widows but they then coped as widows and were not so codependent that they couldnt survive.
The ones that were single kept active and interested in hobbies, other people or volunteered for charities. None of them ever mentioned regrets althougn many seemd surprised they lived so long. could be genetic?
I dont know if maybe it was just self reporting what the interviewer wanted to hear though, but it struck me that many people do die younger if they have stressful relationships. if people dont end up divorcing, the reality is abusve couples can and do end up killing each other, if not directly then indirectly.
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For younger women, a cautionary tale..please dont be naive about going with wolves.
read the story of Sophie Elliot.
There are probably other stories from mens point of view but if domestic violence does occur at hands of men its more likely women are the ones who end up dead due to coercive control.
It is far too common in society to ignore. The worst is when men use religion and the Bible as justification for it. Please steer clear of ultra religious types
read the story of Sophie Elliot.
There are probably other stories from mens point of view but if domestic violence does occur at hands of men its more likely women are the ones who end up dead due to coercive control.
It is far too common in society to ignore. The worst is when men use religion and the Bible as justification for it. Please steer clear of ultra religious types
While I seen twin flames,soul mates, and seeing a women turn in to the devil after being married. Hah starting all over am going to try taking my time and going to a Christian Church for a couple of year before putting a ring on it. Being single isn't that bad just don't make to many people jeulous 🥰