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TheWriter

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I wish that I was single. A lot of times I have to be a little rude for this woman to get what I am saying. I hate it. Yes she is horrible with money, th bad thing is we lost a proven of revenue which hurt us.

I explained that we must set money back for emergencies. She pushed until she got what she wanted.

We barley made rent this month. She always had the excuse that she must get something or it will not be there later.

She is very controlling, she id psychologically abusive as well. She once told me she is allowed whatver because she is a woman but then said i cant because i am a man.

I looked at her past charges she spent over 100 at a bar in a single night.

Since i have been sick she had to take on more responcibilities. She tried to make it where she could stay home with me.

I stopped that quick.

Now i tell her i want to get back to work she trying to refuse that by telling me to wait on the doc.

Ummm no if i can drive i can work and i drove today. She wants to be im control but call me out in public lol she hates this part i did it right back😉

She wants people to see her better than me lol girl what u dont get is this i was not born yesterday.


Please pray for me
 
G00WZ

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"I wish i was single" - yea

*stuff about your gf/wife* - what??

"Please pray for me" - okay

 
zeroturbulence

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["TheWriter, post: 4121844, member: 281870"]I wish that I was single. A lot of times I have to be a little rude for this woman to get what I am saying. I hate it. Yes she is horrible with money, th bad thing is we lost a proven of revenue which hurt us.

I explained that we must set money back for emergencies. She pushed until she got what she wanted.

We barley made rent this month. She always had the excuse that she must get something or it will not be there later.

She is very controlling, she id psychologically abusive as well. She once told me she is allowed whatver because she is a woman but then said i cant because i am a man.

I looked at her past charges she spent over 100 at a bar in a single night.

Since i have been sick she had to take on more responcibilities. She tried to make it where she could stay home with me.

I stopped that quick.

Now i tell her i want to get back to work she trying to refuse that by telling me to wait on the doc.

Ummm no if i can drive i can work and i drove today. She wants to be im control but call me out in public lol she hates this part i did it right back😉

She wants people to see her better than me lol girl what u dont get is this i was not born yesterday.


Please pray for me[***END quote***]


Time to let her go.
 
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CozHElivesIcanface2morrow

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Hmmmm... I don't know...but in my opinion if you have a problem with your partner talk it out in person(heart to heart)😊


Talking about her behind her back won't solve anything...instead your resentment towards your partner will build up everyday...
 
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TheWriter

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CozHElivesIcanface2morrow said:
Hmmmm... I don't know...but in my opinion if you have a problem with your partner talk it out in person(heart to heart)😊


Talking about her behind her back won't solve anything...instead your resentment towards your partner will build up everyday...
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Agreed, i just posted this to vent.

I have talked to her about it, however it has not changed.

Ill give her the benefit of doubt, but time will tell all if i remain with her, or find anew.
 
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CozHElivesIcanface2morrow

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CozHElivesIcanface2morrow said:
Hmmmm... I don't know...but in my opinion if you have a problem with your partner talk it out in person(heart to heart)😊


Talking about her behind her back won't solve anything...instead your resentment towards your partner will build up everyday...
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Please,take a moment to pause and think about what's happening in your relationship with your gf...and ask this... Is your relationship pleasing God...?
If you still could not find an answer...pray and Ask God to show you everything that have not been pleasing to Him...I pray that He will open your heart and make everything clear in front of your eyes. ❤
 
Dino246

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If you are not married, it's time to end the relationship completely. Do it quickly to save yourself further grief.
 
Butterflyyy

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Is she your wife or g/f?
 
KhedetOrthos

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...and what you need to be doing if she is your wife.
 
Butterflyyy

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If she is your wife the Bible says you can separate and later reconcile but this is obviously something you would need to pray about...
I agree that I feel she is only your g/ f get out quick. I must ask the question though, if she's is your g/f why are you living together??
 
Butterflyyy

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Butterflyyy said:
If she is your wife the Bible says you can separate and later reconcile but this is obviously something you would need to pray about...
I agree that I feel she is only your g/ f get out quick. I must ask the question though, if she's is your g/f why are you living together??
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Oh man I am typo-queen this evening🙈👸🏼🙄😁
 
melita916

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My personal opinion: if she is your girlfriend, end the relationship.
 
KhedetOrthos

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...additionally, I find the concept of a $100 bar tab unfathomable (unless you’re at a high end pub with a SO and that includes dinner).
 
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TheWriter

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Right now i am in a mix of emotions. A text came on her phone out of no where calling her baby.

I told her i wanted to trace the number but she snatched the phone from me as to hide something.

She swears up and down but her story changed with each sentance about it being a guy or a girl.

However i sent him a text but she was protective over that as well.

Idk why she thinks i am stupid because i always tell her that her actions are a lot louder than her words.

She said she loves me but hates the arguments. That tells me even though she said she not talking to someone else is that she is.

I explained to her that food and shelter and clothing are way more important than anything else she could buy.

She said she blocked the dudes number in which i have already i even told her if she thinks imma put up with being hurt once more by anyone she is mistaking i do not play with love and i will throw my engagement ring out the window so dang fast she be on the street before sun up.

First she claims days ago she had to fight for her money but i made it clear that its not that its u told me to manage everything so it will be paid but u get mad when i say no when u demand new phones ect... Even when we dont have the money.


We shall see if we last becayse right now? I am crushed, the arguments start a lot with her just picking at everything and yelling in which i explained that if she wants me to not yell then why yell first?
.i treat how i am treated
 
Mel85

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TheWriter said:
Right now i am in a mix of emotions. A text came on her phone out of no where calling her baby.

I told her i wanted to trace the number but she snatched the phone from me as to hide something.

She swears up and down but her story changed with each sentance about it being a guy or a girl.

However i sent him a text but she was protective over that as well.

Idk why she thinks i am stupid because i always tell her that her actions are a lot louder than her words.

She said she loves me but hates the arguments. That tells me even though she said she not talking to someone else is that she is.

I explained to her that food and shelter and clothing are way more important than anything else she could buy.

She said she blocked the dudes number in which i have already i even told her if she thinks imma put up with being hurt once more by anyone she is mistaking i do not play with love and i will throw my engagement ring out the window so dang fast she be on the street before sun up.

First she claims days ago she had to fight for her money but i made it clear that its not that its u told me to manage everything so it will be paid but u get mad when i say no when u demand new phones ect... Even when we dont have the money.


We shall see if we last becayse right now? I am crushed, the arguments start a lot with her just picking at everything and yelling in which i explained that if she wants me to not yell then why yell first?
.i treat how i am treated
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Run Simba, run and never return.

Seriously though, why you letting her play you like that? You deserve better!
 
Butterflyyy

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TheWriter said:
Right now i am in a mix of emotions. A text came on her phone out of no where calling her baby.

I told her i wanted to trace the number but she snatched the phone from me as to hide something.

She swears up and down but her story changed with each sentance about it being a guy or a girl.

However i sent him a text but she was protective over that as well.

Idk why she thinks i am stupid because i always tell her that her actions are a lot louder than her words.

She said she loves me but hates the arguments. That tells me even though she said she not talking to someone else is that she is.

I explained to her that food and shelter and clothing are way more important than anything else she could buy.

She said she blocked the dudes number in which i have already i even told her if she thinks imma put up with being hurt once more by anyone she is mistaking i do not play with love and i will throw my engagement ring out the window so dang fast she be on the street before sun up.

First she claims days ago she had to fight for her money but i made it clear that its not that its u told me to manage everything so it will be paid but u get mad when i say no when u demand new phones ect... Even when we dont have the money.


We shall see if we last becayse right now? I am crushed, the arguments start a lot with her just picking at everything and yelling in which i explained that if she wants me to not yell then why yell first?
.i treat how i am treated
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She thinks you are stupid because (and I don't mean to be rude here) you are being....and do you really want someone to stay with you because you have threatened to take away the engagement ring, provision etc.
If I were you I would be thanking God you have found out what she is like before you have ended up in a far worse situation; because being in a marriage to someone you can't trust is like being in a prison and it is torture.
Get out while you can.

I know I have mentioned this before, but seriously, you can't mess around with God; and if you have been sleeping with her outside of marriage, you must repent and get right with Him... If you are disobeying Him, He will allow things in your life that are hard, for the sake of your greater good because He loves you.
He disciplines those He loves. Forgive me if I have got the wrong impression, but if I haven't it's vital for the direction of your life to get this right before Him, and He always forgives true repentance. x
 
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