When I first got saved I was very active in church. I had a lot of emphasis on ministry stuff. Played my guitar and (tried) to lead worship. Even scrubbed the toilet once when no one else would after someone made a splattery mess after a dinner. But I thought I had no spiritual gift and wondered why I wasn't clicking with the whole 'spiritual gifts' thing, which was understood as the sign you're 'ok' with him. Well, God began to teach me. Here was one of my wake up calls many years ago that taught me a lot of what I'm talking about here.
"10and find out what pleases the Lord." Ephesians 5:10
"understand what the Lord’s will is." Ephesians 5:17
So I found out, being 'spiritual' is living for him, not necessarily working for him. 'Obedience is better than sacrifice'-1 Samuel 15:22. The only thing that counts is being a vessel of God's 'agape' unconditional love in your daily living through the new creation that you have become.
"6For in Christ Jesus neither circumcision nor uncircumcision has any value. The only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love. " Galatians 5:6
"15Neither circumcision nor uncircumcision means anything; what counts is the new creation. " Galatians 6:17
Circumcision for us can be understood as our 'religious' efforts to please God. That's not what it's all about. It's all about being a new creation that is considerate to the people around you in accordance with the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). That's the moving on to maturity' beyond the foundation of our doctrines that Hebrews 5:12-14,6:1-2 is talking about. Not many people move on to maturity. It's the narrow, not so traveled road to life that Christ talks about in Matthew 7:13-14.
If you attend a church that is not putting the emphasis in the right place, well, you may need to find a new church. Actually, what you will probably find out is you need to find a good Bible study. Because that seems to be where you can talk about and learn the things I'm talking about. Remember, that road is narrow and few are on it.