So I noticed that I tend to take a lot of time on Internet-based fellowship with other Christians, and it seems like I have a harder time connecting with people in my own home church. Part of it has to do with the fact that there are not a lot of people my age in our fairly small congregation, but even then I still don’t take the time to talk with them like I should. It feels like I’m not being part of the Church family as I should. Anyone else have that issue?
What are some ways to be able to get around that sort of awkwardness of family? That place where you know pretty much all about the person but at the same time not at the deep a level.
(So I just now read your last post after having completed the following... I should've paid more attention! 🤦 I'm gonna go ahead and post because maybe somebody else can be encouraged by it. *Sigh 😌)
Steph, I used to be incredibly shy and introverted. Like legitimately. I was not big on engaging with people. But, my! has that changed! God has done a work in me and now I am rather extroverted. Just goes to show people can have an about-face (ESPEcially through the power of the Sovereign Lord- I give Him all the glory). *Father knows I still need work though🙂*
I have the same church situation as you do in regard to age and size of congregation. I considered trying to find a different body of believers to worship with, but I remembered God leading me to this particular church and therefore decided against leaving. I am truly so glad I stayed. God has helped me to grow in terms of learning to befriend people of all ages. I am certain this has been part of my "schooling" and preparation for whatever God has ahead for me. Now I feel comfortable around any age category and have meaningful relationships all across the board. God is good.
I just encourage you to step out and be friendly to your fellow church members regardless of their age (you may already be doing this, If so whoop whoop!). I feel confident you will find it rewarding just as I have.
My advice is to just approach someone with a smile and say a general greeting. Then begin to ask them some general questions or ?s specific to their life. Then comment in a positive, encouraging manner. I try to use a lot of understanding words and tones, e.g. yeah, I get you!, I see, that's awesome!, very good. Meanwhile smiling and keeping eye contact. Then after they respond you may think of something pertinent that would contribute to the conversation.
Trust me, the more you make yourself do it the more comfortable you will be. And it will translate into other atmospheres in your life.
As an aside, my Dad used to always tell me as a child: Be a friend to those who need a friend. So I do a lot of taking inventory of who is in the room who might feel out of place or lonely, etc and try to reach out to them first.
Hope you're having a delightful Christmas season, friend! ❤️
