I believe that I shouldn't have to settle for anything less than godly expectations and shouldn't have to compromise that. Godly expectations don't disappoint.
I agree in a way, but if you set the highest Godly expectations for someone then expect them to live up to them, in the real world you're going to be disappointed often, godliness is something we grow into, and that in a relationship we grow into together.
You really can't set expectation for others when you in truth have no control over anything but yourself. If you think I said never have any expectation at all ever, then you must have missed the part when I said, "
I'm not saying they are all bad, or we can't have good expectations, I'm just saying that waiting for someone to meet your expectations is a fools game really". I'm not saying NO expectation of any kind, clearly that's unrealistic and impossible to live in a way we literally have no expectations. I'm saying you can not approach relationships expecting people to be any certain way simply because we have no control over that, but of coarse we look for certain traits and things we like about someone, or things we are looking for in people, we should all have standards for what kind of person we are looking for. The thing is when we start expecting people to conform to what we think they should be, that is were it gets dangerous and honestly futile. I only say it like that because of the complete lack of power we have over the way people are. we only have power over ourselves and like Jesus we can only try to lead by His example.
I do understand what you're saying though, and I don't disagree with you're point at all. There is a fine line between what I'm saying and the point you're making, but honestly I don't see any conflict between these points. We do have hope, and in Christ are the source and the example of His love and power on the earth today but at the end of the day all you can do is share how you feel about the thing(s), bothering you and live your best to uphold the very things you want out of them. If you do this and never see any growth or concern for your feelings, then if it can't be reconciled the maybe you're not meant for each other, this all assumes your not married yet too.
I do have to admit the at this point I have no clue what you exact problem with "men" is though. If you've told why you feel this way, and/or what it is about men you hate I haven't read it yet, but how can anyone even discuss this topic without knowing. I'm going to catch up now then I'll post again, but I am sorry that you feel this way.