Do you enjoy your singleness?
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It's really cool to read about other singles who have found contentment, and, *gasp*, even happiness being single. 
Back when I first started on CC and throughout the time I've been here, there have been many threads from people who really, really wanted to find someone RIGHT NOW, by any means, and at any cost (and, truth be told, once upon a time I used to be one of them), but few to none ever said they were alright with being single.
I wonder if it's something that changes over time, or is even becoming a bit of a trend? I know God has changed me a lot, but it's taken a lot of time, and I go back and forth between wondering if I'm truly content being single or if the long period of time has generated a type of numbness that has become a mask that cushions the initial sting.
I definitely agree with others here who have said that being single is umpteen times better than being with the wrong person. Choosing the wrong person and wrong situations in the past is what eventually led to me being single, and the fear of choosing yet another wrong person (or being the wrong person) and wrong situation is a good part of what keeps me single.
For me, the best part about being single is trying to encourage others who are in the same boat to keep their ship afloat until God sets our sails for another course, just beyond our now-visible horizons.
Back when I first started on CC and throughout the time I've been here, there have been many threads from people who really, really wanted to find someone RIGHT NOW, by any means, and at any cost (and, truth be told, once upon a time I used to be one of them), but few to none ever said they were alright with being single.
I wonder if it's something that changes over time, or is even becoming a bit of a trend? I know God has changed me a lot, but it's taken a lot of time, and I go back and forth between wondering if I'm truly content being single or if the long period of time has generated a type of numbness that has become a mask that cushions the initial sting.
I definitely agree with others here who have said that being single is umpteen times better than being with the wrong person. Choosing the wrong person and wrong situations in the past is what eventually led to me being single, and the fear of choosing yet another wrong person (or being the wrong person) and wrong situation is a good part of what keeps me single.
For me, the best part about being single is trying to encourage others who are in the same boat to keep their ship afloat until God sets our sails for another course, just beyond our now-visible horizons.
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Well theres lots to enjoy or appreciate about being single people i think some people just arent used to it.
I also think that God does use singleness for His purposes to grow us. When Jesus went into the wilderness he went all by himself. He was led by the spirit to do this, he didnt take anyone with him. Thats when he was most tested and came out fine.
Imagine if he had said to God nope Im not going unless I get married first or take someone else. Or gave the excuse I cant go because Im married. And in the entire Bible it was mostly individuals who made the difference, not couples. When God told Mary she was going to have a baby, the angel appeared to her first, not to both her and Joseph simultaneously. All the prophets were given Gods words to say but they werent all told you have to have a wife. And nobody in the Bible suggests that you need to first find a husband to hear from God.
Now even in the garden when adam had eve things still went wrong and they were together all that time. Then they blamed each other. When you are single you cant go round blaming other people for your own sin. You take responsibility.
I see a lot of couples that play the blame game. i dont have to do this cos she/he will do it snd cover me for my inadequacies. I can use my other half to dump my problems on. He or she will support me.
When you are single you rely on God more, and its a better relationship because its vertical.
I also think that God does use singleness for His purposes to grow us. When Jesus went into the wilderness he went all by himself. He was led by the spirit to do this, he didnt take anyone with him. Thats when he was most tested and came out fine.
Imagine if he had said to God nope Im not going unless I get married first or take someone else. Or gave the excuse I cant go because Im married. And in the entire Bible it was mostly individuals who made the difference, not couples. When God told Mary she was going to have a baby, the angel appeared to her first, not to both her and Joseph simultaneously. All the prophets were given Gods words to say but they werent all told you have to have a wife. And nobody in the Bible suggests that you need to first find a husband to hear from God.
Now even in the garden when adam had eve things still went wrong and they were together all that time. Then they blamed each other. When you are single you cant go round blaming other people for your own sin. You take responsibility.
I see a lot of couples that play the blame game. i dont have to do this cos she/he will do it snd cover me for my inadequacies. I can use my other half to dump my problems on. He or she will support me.
When you are single you rely on God more, and its a better relationship because its vertical.
I'm 60, and i've never been married. this has become a way of life for me. I don't even think about having a relationship. I believe this is God"s pland for me. I don't know why. maybe it is because I'm to stubborn to have a wife. what ever the reason the Lord consider it the best for me and I'll not question it I know this has nothing to do with the topic but remember me when you pray. I'm taking on the biggest service i have ever had in the church where I go.
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Here's how it's changed over time for me...
Stage 1 - Looking forward to finding that special someone and getting married, but am willing to wait..
Stage 2 - Dating and waiting..
Stage 3 - Haven't dated in a long time... hope starting to fade..
Stage 4 - Unexpectedly meet a couple of wonderful women who rekindle the desire for a relationship
Stage 5 - Wanting a relationship so bad it hurts, praying hard for a mate
Stage 6 - Hope fading, terrified of dying single and alone
Stage 7 - Enjoying life as a single, no longer concerned with ever finding someone
Stage 7 - Acceptance - At peace with the thought of dying single and alone
Stage 1 - Looking forward to finding that special someone and getting married, but am willing to wait..
Stage 2 - Dating and waiting..
Stage 3 - Haven't dated in a long time... hope starting to fade..
Stage 4 - Unexpectedly meet a couple of wonderful women who rekindle the desire for a relationship
Stage 5 - Wanting a relationship so bad it hurts, praying hard for a mate
Stage 6 - Hope fading, terrified of dying single and alone
Stage 7 - Enjoying life as a single, no longer concerned with ever finding someone
Stage 7 - Acceptance - At peace with the thought of dying single and alone
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When I was younger I was slightly desperate to be with someone. Now it's kind of a mixed bag. As a depressed introvert being single is easier. My last relationship sometimes wore me out as an introvert.
But on the other side I don't get out much, or spend time around many people, which is not always healthy.
Also I get no physical contact, which is proven to help depression and even aid in overall health and life expectancy.
Having the health problems that I do I feel like I'll be in an extremely bad position, in the future, as a single. Yet also feel it would be unfair to put those burdens on someone else.
And I've just always had the desire to be married, even as a kid.
But chances are I'll die sick, younger and alone, possibly homeless, since people I date don't stick around.
But on the other side I don't get out much, or spend time around many people, which is not always healthy.
Also I get no physical contact, which is proven to help depression and even aid in overall health and life expectancy.
Having the health problems that I do I feel like I'll be in an extremely bad position, in the future, as a single. Yet also feel it would be unfair to put those burdens on someone else.
And I've just always had the desire to be married, even as a kid.
But chances are I'll die sick, younger and alone, possibly homeless, since people I date don't stick around.
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Yes indeed, we need to learn to be content wherever we are in our lives. We must realize happiness is something we pick up in life as we go along. We cannot dwell in blissful happiness constantly, we would go mad. Contentment can be a constant in our lives and should be.
I have been married twice and raised two families. One with my daughter and the other with someone else's three kids. I would not trade it for the world, all 36 years of it. I get along well with being single now, but I do get a little lonely.
I have been married twice and raised two families. One with my daughter and the other with someone else's three kids. I would not trade it for the world, all 36 years of it. I get along well with being single now, but I do get a little lonely.
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In my case, "enjoy" might be too strong a word. I think 'mindfully appreciating' the freedom of being single is more accurate because at times it is not easy at all.
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