Yes! indeed is good to pray for the dead because one day we also we die and some one will have to say a prayer for us.
The dead are sealed to judgement and either life everlasting or the fire.
No words, ceremonies or wishes will change Gods judgement on another.
If you believe the living can change the fate of the dead, one is beginning down the road
of purchasing favour with God which appeases our consciences but has no basis in truth.
As much as our connections work in friendship, intimacy and love, when we see people for
who they are, the lost will appear such a mess and a confusion, the elect will wonder how
we saw anything of value. It is only with Gods love planted in the heart, that starts to bring
reality in the soul of the individual are the eternal realities set.
We are flowers in the field, one day glorious, the next day gone.
Praise the Lord He has chosen to meet with us and give us life everlasting through His son, Amen