From what we've found in the churches around here, there is a lot of mix. One church we went to the whole time the pastor was preaching it was all fear! We're NOT sitting under that and certainly not letting our children be exposed to that. My husband and I both agree it is better to (for the time being until the Lord makes clear where to be) fellowship away from the 4 walls of a church than to put our family under leadership that is NOT following the Word. We both have ministries outside church walls that reach far more people than would inside. (By ministries I mean talking with people, praying, planting seeds. ) At times I miss the socialization of churches, but I look back, I was in a church home 6-7 years before meeting my husband and I look back at it, there was NEVER any change in my life the whole time! It was more of a tickling of the ears feel good moment. Nothing in my life EVER changed. Wasn't until I got out of a traditional church and got my PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP with the Lord in tack that I began to have change in my life.
The disciples were not fellowshipping in a building of 4 walls...… they went from home to home.
Jesus said in Matthew 18:20 that "where two or three gather in my name there I am with them"
I've been to some pretty "dead" churches.
Anyway...... getting off my soap box......
Blessings!