Excuses

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love_comes_softly

love_comes_softly

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I don't know about you, but I feel like I'm hearing excuses for everything all the time. I'm not sure if I'm just hyper sensitive to hearing them in conversations because it's a curiosity of mine or if it deep down annoys me, but I thought it would be interesting to get your take on them.

***There are many different reasons people give excuses and sometime they are completely valid. I find myself making excuses sometimes, when there really isn't a need to. ****

Why do people feel they must give excuses for their behavior or for something they want or don't want to do?

Is it related to the generation of people that have to know everything, so we in turn think we have to give excuses?

Do you feel you have to give excuses?
Is it rude not to give one?
What are your thoughts?
 
Subhumanoidal

Subhumanoidal

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I'm a bit confused by some of your wording. Giving excuses tends to mean justifying negative behaviors/words/actions. But some of your wording suggest something else.

A few thoughts. One is we live in a hypersensitive society (at least in the US) so you have to be so cautious about every word and people are paranoid about being misunderstood. Even on this site it happens constantly.

Also people seem to misunderstand the distinction between making excuses to justify wrong behavior vs offering an explanation. So perhaps some of what you hear is explanation, not excuse.

Add that people anymore seem to redefine words to their suiting quote often, rather than using the correct words. This creates miscommunication which can lead to the things you may be hearing as people have to explain themselves.

And finally we live in a time where everyone is hypercritical of everything.
A mistake or lapse of judgment is seen as a valid reason to attack and condemn people. And this ties in to the normalcy of social media and how easy it is to be critical on that media.
 
love_comes_softly

love_comes_softly

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Subhumanoidal said:
I'm a bit confused by some of your wording. Giving excuses tends to mean justifying negative behaviors/words/actions. But some of your wording suggest something else.

A few thoughts. One is we live in a hypersensitive society (at least in the US) so you have to be so cautious about every word and people are paranoid about being misunderstood. Even on this site it happens constantly.

Also people seem to misunderstand the distinction between making excuses to justify wrong behavior vs offering an explanation. So perhaps some of what you hear is explanation, not excuse.

Add that people anymore seem to redefine words to their suiting quote often, rather than using the correct words. This creates miscommunication which can lead to the things you may be hearing as people have to explain themselves.

And finally we live in a time where everyone is hypercritical of everything.
A mistake or lapse of judgment is seen as a valid reason to attack and condemn people. And this ties in to the normalcy of social media and how easy it is to be critical on that media.
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I apologize about my wording, it probably reflects my own confusion with this topic.

I do think there are positive and negative excuses and I don’t think they are always bad. I’m sure some of them are actually explanations, but are they always necessary?

The vagueness probably doesn’t help, but I’m not personally talking about any one circumstance.

I really think you are right about living in a time where people are hypercritical of people. This would in turn cause insecurities and may make people feel the need to explain or make an excuse for decisions.

A silly example, my grandmother feels she needs to explain why or make an excuse if she doesn’t want to attend church for a day. Maybe she worries about judgment. I wouldn’t feel the need to explain why.

Just some thoughts.

Thanks for sharing! 🙂
 
zeroturbulence

zeroturbulence

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I have no excuse for eating ice cream, potato chips and uncooked hot dogs for dinner tonight. In that order! :sneaky:
 
zeroturbulence

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blue_ladybug said:
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It wasn't my fault lol. I was at the 99 cent store and I was getting hungry and needed a pick me up because I'd been feeling :( all day so I got a 99 cents ice cream cone... Then when I got home I was hungry again and too tired to prepare anything so I ate some chips. There were less than a handful left in the package.. Then I was still too tired and hungry so I ate a couple uncooked hot dogs. :giggle:
 
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zeroturbulence said:
It wasn't my fault lol. I was at the 99 cent store and I was getting hungry and needed a pick me up because I'd been feeling :( all day so I got a 99 cents ice cream cone... Then when I got home I was hungry again and too tired to prepare anything so I ate some chips. There were less than a handful left in the package.. Then I was still too tired and hungry so I ate a couple uncooked hot dogs. :giggle:
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I can understand the ice cream and chips but how can you eat uncooked hot dogs. Hope tomorrow is a better day for you :D
 
Lynx

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Tinkerbell725 said:
:ROFL::ROFL::ROFL:

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Yeah that's one I don't understand either. Actually that's two things I don't understand 1: "It's the weekend so one of us must throw a party and invite the rest, because we need something to do with ourselves over the weekend." 2: "I invited you to a party and you don't have any other plans so you are morally obliged to go to the party."

 
Oncefallen

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Ruby123 said:
I can understand the ice cream and chips but how can you eat uncooked hot
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Technically, you can't. Hot dogs (unlike their cousin, the sausage) are fully cooked prior to packaging.
 
blue_ladybug

blue_ladybug

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I bet if Gabe knew exactly what hot dogs are made of, he'd never eat another one.. :sneaky:
 
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17Bees

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zeroturbulence said:
I already knew a long time ago lol. It's nothing compared to some of the things my filipino peeps eat. :LOL:
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There is this thing called Listeria you can get eating hot dogs without heating them up. I wouldn't worry, it'll only kill you but it's not all that reliable. Just do like I do and eat sometimes at the IHOP. It toughens you up.
 
TamLynn

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My friend told me once...
"Excuses are like armpits. We've all got a couple, and they stink". 😐
 
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