I havent attended any of the denoms you mention, so those inconsisitencies arent apparent to me.
I also didnt go to any christian school..or college so no experience of that either.
In general of the churches I have been attending its the males that take the lead, and they do invite women to speak. So if a female preacher wants to speak they would usually be invited to do so by the pastor first. In one church which was a baptist, IVe noticed that the pastors wives are very quiet or actually arent that involved with co-pastoring.
The presbyterian one sometimes the wife gets up and speaks but only when urged to by her husband! Their daughters have spoken a few times, even preached. We have some elders and some highly educated women in our congregation...and there is no bar to women speaking if they are invited to do so.
Non denoms I've been to the pastor and wife have more of an equal role, that sometimes the wife is even called pastrix or pastor as well.
In secular schools I havent had any problem with female teachers but then im female. There is a lack of male teachers actually. I dont know how young men really feel when they are taught by women. 18-22 is an interesting age. Ive worked in male doiminated environments for example engineering school. I recall more women were encourgaed to study engineering. I dont recall many women professors teaching engineering, but a few did in support roles like librarianship.
The lutheran denomination and its schools sound very legalistic. I dont really know how future pastors are taught in that environment, but I would say the training ground for a pastor isnt always straight from college and then they go and pastor a church. I would be very wary of them if that was so. They need to have a bit of life experience first. Pastoring involves a lot more than just preaching a sermon on sundays. That would be the bare minimum responsibilty of a pastor.
TItus says in 2:6 young men likewise exhort to be sober minded.
Letter to titus doesnt actually forbid the aged women from teaching young men. It does say for the aged women to teach the younger women, but then says likewise about the young men. Pauls letter to titus urges him to be a good example and be careful to maintain good works. To deny ungodliness and worldly lusts. He writes to Titus these thing speak and exhort, and rebuke with all authority.
When you are a teacher you have the authority. Prisicilla and aquila, a husband and wife team, did teach the way of the Lord more perfectly to those who were ignorant of it.
Where does this authority come from...it comes from above. I have give you all authority to tread on snakes and scorpions and power over the enemy...recall when the holy spirit was poured out on the believers, not just on the men, but the women also were included in the prophesy 'i will pour out my spirit on all flesh' and goes on to say on sons AND daughters, on servants AND Maidservants.
Tradiitonally at the time of Jesus, jewish males were very segregated from the women. Why because women were told they were unclean and they were to keep away from them. In those days they werent the best in terms of being sanitary. So men often avoided women altogether. Actually it was the womn who were more diligent in keeping pure than the men back then...women would go to the mikveh and be baptised, to be clean after their periods, but cos men dont have them, many dont bother. So here come john the baptists suddenly telling lots of men to be baptisied and cleanse themselves too. Thats radical.