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tourist

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Real? I have been trying to push that barrier where I can posting here. I’ve been pretty open about some past struggles and that sort of thing. I’m not sure if that is the sort of thing you are talking about.
I appreciate openness and candor from those who are brave enough and willing to share with others a little part of who they are and what they are about. Others may learn from our past struggles if we allow ourselves to become a bit vulnerable and are willing to share our story so perhaps a few or the one may benefit from it.
 

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It’s just a front people are using. Most of us are struggling with different types of issues. Me, I’m struggling with dyslexia, PTSD, and some other stuff.
I struggle with anxiety and bouts of depression and chronic fatigue. Some other stuff too. I am really a piece of work but I love Jesus, my family and my wife. Love my cats too, Tango and Sugar. Once in a blue moon I love myself if doing such a thing is even possible.
 

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Yes but I don't think one has to be here long to notice. For example if someone asks how to go about finding a mate, most of the answers would say to pray about it and wait. If someone asks how to know if that person is "the one", most answers would again be to pray about it, and a few will criticize the concept of "the one". If someone asks, what do you look for in a mate? You'll get "puts God first" as number one trait, followed by "tall" (from women), and "sense of humor".
What I look for first in a mate is a woman with a pretty smile and beautiful eyes.

How do you find a mate? Well, one way is that the next time you are in a 7/Eleven, at the counter paying for your Slurpee to a pretty cashier, strike up a one minute conversation, and if she is single and available give her your cell phone number. A good place to meet women is also in a laundry mat. Single women have been known to take pity on a man who obviously has no clue on how to separate the whites. You just never know who you are going to meet. Next time you are at your local Super Walmart in the produce section thumping the honey dews to see what one is ripe you might bump into her. If so, ask her for her take on the Kiwi.

Being overly cautious and tentative may work for the young people starting out but after a certain age you probably have a good idea what kind of future spouse you want. If an opportunity should arise you have to be ready to take decisive action and throw the dice and see what happens. If it doesn't work out you can always get a divorce. Perhaps not biblical but a pragmatic way of looking at the situation.

Of course, you should pray about it but God is not going to drop a prospective mate into your lap. Action is required and you must play your assigned role.

People talking about waiting for God's perfect timing, whatever that is, is code for fear of rejection or commitment.
 

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I struggle with anxiety and bouts of depression and chronic fatigue. Some other stuff too. I am really a piece of work but I love Jesus, my family and my wife. Love my cats too, Tango and Sugar. Once in a blue moon I love myself if doing such a thing is even possible.
We have much in common, sir. God has given me great healing, but I still struggle with the PTSD, and returning to depression.
 

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We have much in common, sir. God has given me great healing, but I still struggle with the PTSD, and returning to depression.
I hear you my friend. It is a struggle walking the earth trying to do your best with what God has provided. Even Jesus wept when He walked the earth. He couldn't take the crap down here either.
 
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Hamarr

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It’s just a front people are using. Most of us are struggling with different types of issues. Me, I’m struggling with dyslexia, PTSD, and some other stuff.
Ditto.
Yes but I don't think one has to be here long to notice. For example if someone asks how to go about finding a mate, most of the answers would say to pray about it and wait. If someone asks how to know if that person is "the one", most answers would again be to pray about it, and a few will criticize the concept of "the one". If someone asks, what do you look for in a mate? You'll get "puts God first" as number one trait, followed by "tall" (from women), and "sense of humor".
Ah yes. Most of that is fairly unhelpful. I see that a lot in Christian circles in general. There are some folks who are more open and honest, though. I have had some good conversations with them, or have seen them post helpful or thoughtful posts on topics I may not have thought a lot about. I wonder if how it was presented would also help?

I was thinking of the phrase from recovery groups I have heard "take what you like and forget the rest".

I appreciate openness and candor from those who are brave enough and willing to share with others a little part of who they are and what they are about. Others may learn from our past struggles if we allow ourselves to become a bit vulnerable and are willing to share our story so perhaps a few or the one may benefit from it.
I've been walking the line between being open about stuff and trying to not be defined by it. I guess some of that is open to how the reader takes it, oh well. I've posted a bit about struggles with complex ptsd and emotional neglect growing up. I guess being open is part of me being true to myself. I hope my experiences with my issues and with recovery can help others.

There a lot of things with negativity that have been changing lately, and I am hoping I can share those things as well.
 

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Ditto.


Ah yes. Most of that is fairly unhelpful. I see that a lot in Christian circles in general. There are some folks who are more open and honest, though. I have had some good conversations with them, or have seen them post helpful or thoughtful posts on topics I may not have thought a lot about. I wonder if how it was presented would also help?

I was thinking of the phrase from recovery groups I have heard "take what you like and forget the rest".



I've been walking the line between being open about stuff and trying to not be defined by it. I guess some of that is open to how the reader takes it, oh well. I've posted a bit about struggles with complex ptsd and emotional neglect growing up. I guess being open is part of me being true to myself. I hope my experiences with my issues and with recovery can help others.

There a lot of things with negativity that have been changing lately, and I am hoping I can share those things as well.
What you have shared so far from your many posts have blessed me and made me consider things about my own life that may need to be changed. It is time to drain the swamp and start removing the clutter that is hindering my spiritual walk with the Lord and affecting my marriage, even if only to a small degree.
 
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Hamarr

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What you have shared so far from your many posts have blessed me and made me consider things about my own life that may need to be changed. It is time to drain the swamp and start removing the clutter that is hindering my spiritual walk with the Lord and affecting my marriage, even if only to a small degree.
Well, thanks. I'm glad my story can help others. Hmmm... I haven't really taken stock of my testimony, but maybe I should put one together.
 

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By some strange coincidence my daughter Jacklynne only weighed 1 1/2 pounds too. I believe that the umbilical cord is supposed to have 3 blood vessels but hers had only two and apparently she was malnourished in the womb. She's fine now and we have a very good father / daughter relationship.

Yes, continue to have faith that things will all work out for the glory of God and for the happiness for the both of you.

I enjoy your posts very much and appreciate your candor and honesty. You are definitely an interesting intelligent woman.

I am glad that your church has warmed up to the idea of your divorce and remarriage. Darlene and I had 4 weeks of counseling from our church too before we got married. I highly recommend it and it will provide a good opportunity to really get to know each other better.

I really don't like talking about my past either but I believe that is the past that defines who we are today.
Yes, the life we live provides many lessons and strengthens us in ways we may never have imagined we needed strengthening. Being lost and rebellious against anything that smacked of organized religion for most of my life has left me with scars also, wounds that are being brought to the surface and causing me much grief as I stand in the light of love. How humbling to know it is not my own strength that will see me through, but my willingness to be vulnerable enough to allow love to heal me. How absolutely necessary it is for me to be forgiving of myself knowing God has already forgiven me and does not see that unsaved person any more but the one He is fashioning me into. I praise the Lord for He is good! His love endures forever.

 

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Yes, the life we live provides many lessons and strengthens us in ways we may never have imagined we needed strengthening. Being lost and rebellious against anything that smacked of organized religion for most of my life has left me with scars also, wounds that are being brought to the surface and causing me much grief as I stand in the light of love. How humbling to know it is not my own strength that will see me through, but my willingness to be vulnerable enough to allow love to heal me. How absolutely necessary it is for me to be forgiving of myself knowing God has already forgiven me and does not see that unsaved person any more but the one He is fashioning me into. I praise the Lord for He is good! His love endures forever.

In the eyes of God you are as white as snow for He remembers confessed sin no more. You can get anxious and ask again for some sin you already asked forgiveness for and God would not know what you are talking about but would still comfort your fears.
 

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Mine, too! Bob and I are no longer both 64.... :giggle:
I'm not sure if it is your birthday or your unbirthday but wishing you and Bob all of God's best.

I remember talking my 9 year old daughter to Walt Disney World and during the Electrical Parade there was a character singing the unbirthday song. This character looked at my daughter and asked loudly if it was her unbirthday too and little Jackie nodded her head and said yeah.

Thirty minutes later we ran into Jimmy Carter and his wife Roselynne in the China exhibition. We were like 5 or 6 feet away from him. He smiled at her, Jackie waved hi and he waved back. Roselynne smiled at her too. Nice peeps. Jimmy was wearing a jersey from the Atlanta Braves along with their baseball hat. He only had 3 or 4 Secret Service agents with him and they were dressed casual too but it was obvious that they were packing some serious heat.

Very memorable day.