1: Those who do not speak in tongues do not have the indwelling Holy Spirit - the scriptures attest to this.
2: Salvation is not limited to the Spirit-filled church only.
There is a first resurrection and also a second resurrection. The Spirit-filled church, the saints, have the promise of the first resurrection
(1Corinthians 15 and Revelation 20).
5 The rest of the dead did not come to life until the thousand years were ended. This is the first resurrection.
6 Blessed and holy is the one who shares in the first resurrection! Over such the second death has no power, but they will be priests of God and of Christ, and they will reign with him for a thousand years.
Revelation 20: (ESV)
Whatever Church is teaching this stuff to you is wrong and you should leave it.
Show me where it says if you don't speak in tongues you don't have the Holy Spirit. In fact, Paul says in several different places that NOT everybody will speak in tongues. Here is one:
1 Corinthians 12:4 There are [
d]diversities of gifts, but the same Spirit. 5 There are differences of ministries, but the same Lord. 6 And there are diversities of activities, but it is the same God who works [
e]all in all. 7 But the manifestation of the Spirit is given to each one for the profit
of all: 8 for to one is given the word of wisdom through the Spirit, to another the word of knowledge through the same Spirit, 9 to another faith by the same Spirit, to another gifts of healings by [
f]the same Spirit, 10 to another the working of miracles, to another prophecy, to another discerning of spirits, to another
different kinds of tongues, to another the interpretation of tongues. 11 But one and the same Spirit works all these things, distributing to each one individually as He wills.
Where does this idea come from that there is Salvation apart from the indwelling Spirit? It's just flat out wrong:
Romans 8:9
“But ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you. Now if any man have not the Spirit of Christ, he is none of his.”