Here It Is! The Gi-Normous List of Everything YOU Have to Offer YOUR Perfect Partner!

  • Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat app. You can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, pictures, or favorite Christian music.

    If you are a Christian and need encouragement and fellowship, we're here for you! If you are not a Christian but interested in knowing more about Jesus our Lord, you're also welcome! Want to know what the Bible says, and how you can apply it to your life? Join us!

    To make new Christian friends now around the world, click here to join Christian Chat.
L

LadyInWaiting

Guest
#21
#21
My grandmother raised me with the mentality of serving men first. When she was alive I thought that was insane! Now that she's gone (and I miss her so much) I don't think I could not serve my man first. If I ever do get a man haha. So there's that. I think it would be nice to spoil him by cooking his favorite dishes and serving him. Feminists will hate me, but I would take a lot of pride in making him a good sandwich and serving it to him. :p

People tell me I have a lot of patience...so there's that.

I've never been in love...so there won't be any "the one that got away" type thing with me.

I have some OCD that I'm trying to work through. I also have a lot of anxiety and have struggled with self-worth. I know this is probably not a positive attribute...but it could be. You see, I would be able to understand someone who's been through those difficult times. I have a lot of empathy.

I don't mind shopping for clothes at Walmart. I actually really like Walmart. haha I do like leather purses and shoes...but those types of things last many years for me.

I don't like bugs AT ALL!!! So if you get rid of them when I'm around, I'll make you feel like a hero. lol

I enjoy my alone time and need some space. I'm an introvert. So he could go play basketball or have some fun with friends if he wants a night out. I wouldn't mind...as long as he doesn't have fun with other women. :sneaky:

I'm also pretty humble and I'm starting to feel embarrassed and vain posting all this. So I'll end it here. :ROFL:

I think the things that I want are things I can offer too. Or at least they even out. I don't think I'm very picky with men. It's just I think I have pretty good discernment now and I can tell pretty quickly if a guy really trusts in the Lord or not. It's been two years since my last relationship and I haven't met anyone that is actually crazy about Jesus in the way I need them to be...in the way that I feel about Christ myself.

 
S

Susanna

Guest
#22
#22
All of you people are so good at putting down your thoughts in writing. I really envy that skill. When I’m trying to express myself my mind goes all empty and there’s hardly a word left for me in the entire world to be using, or so it feels.

I think it’s frustrating when I’m in a social setting and people are talking about themselves and each other like it was the easiest thing. Take this thread as an example. If I was to engage in a conversation with someone and we were supposed to be sharing personal things with each other, my response would mostly be “uh” and “na-ah”. Needless to say that it would be rather boring before long.

Maybe this post belongs in that gender thread, because I’m not very feminine when it comes to interacting with people. Or, well, I am, but not when a conversation is venturing beyond the point of being plain and shallow.

So, I can’t really offer anything to anyone. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy being with people, having fun, nagging on my daughter and her husband😂, and all that stuff, but I’m no good at letting someone come close. Then I go all “uh”.
 
zeroturbulence

zeroturbulence

Senior Member
#23
Aug 2, 2009
24,643
4,304
113
#23
Susanna said:
All of you people are so good at putting down your thoughts in writing. I really envy that skill. When I’m trying to express myself my mind goes all empty and there’s hardly a word left for me in the entire world to be using, or so it feels.

I think it’s frustrating when I’m in a social setting and people are talking about themselves and each other like it was the easiest thing. Take this thread as an example. If I was to engage in a conversation with someone and we were supposed to be sharing personal things with each other, my response would mostly be “uh” and “na-ah”. Needless to say that it would be rather boring before long.

Maybe this post belongs in that gender thread, because I’m not very feminine when it comes to interacting with people. Or, well, I am, but not when a conversation is venturing beyond the point of being plain and shallow.

So, I can’t really offer anything to anyone. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy being with people, having fun, nagging on my daughter and her husband😂, and all that stuff, but I’m no good at letting someone come close. Then I go all “uh”.
Click to expand...
I'm the same way. Especially in person. My mind goes blank every time. I always think of something to say after the conversation is over.
 
J

JustEli

Well-known member
#24
Dec 23, 2018
1,374
983
113
50
#24
It is often difficult to express ones self, yet far from impossible. The constraints of stackin up to the one
before aft and beside are huge obsticals .....such as spellin. To let go, let er rip, let urself b urself, is a wonderous
thing. Even to say, I cant splain mself as well as the next person, is much more than many can admit.
Run with it, we only live once.
i have difficulties
showing my
love

loveuall
 
zeroturbulence

zeroturbulence

Senior Member
#25
Aug 2, 2009
24,643
4,304
113
#25
I know I have some things to offer but I'm not going to list them because if there's one thing I've learned in this life, it's that it doesn't matter how much you have to offer someone if the one you want to offer it to isn't already attracted to you.
 
J

JustEli

Well-known member
#26
Dec 23, 2018
1,374
983
113
50
#26
zeroturbulence said:
I know I have some things to offer but I'm not going to list them because if there's one thing I've learned in this life, it's that it doesn't matter how much you have to offer someone if the one you want to offer it to isn't already attracted to you.
Click to expand...
dude if you got the hots for me, its ok, we still love you. haahaha
 
Solemateleft

Solemateleft

Honor, Courage, Commitment
#27
Jun 25, 2017
13,725
3,964
113
#27
zeroturbulence said:
I know I have some things to offer but I'm not going to list them because if there's one thing I've learned in this life, it's that it doesn't matter how much you have to offer someone if the one you want to offer it to isn't already attracted to you.
Click to expand...
Dude - in order for you to catch a fish - you have to cast your line...
I wouldn't be surprised that there aren't a few CC ladies in here who are already attracted to your heart and soul...
 
Lynx

Lynx

Folksy yet erudite
#28
Aug 13, 2014
27,183
9,265
113
#28
NIT PICK ALERT:

"Here It Is! The Gi-Normous List of Everything YOU Have to Offer YOUR Perfect Partner!"

If my partner was perfect... she wouldn't need me. :(
 
Lighthearted

Lighthearted

Senior Member
#29
Oct 17, 2016
1,779
818
113
54
#29
All I have to offer is...myself. A big hearted, flawed, somewhat twisted child of a King capable of forgiveness and abounding love.
 
Lighthearted

Lighthearted

Senior Member
#30
Oct 17, 2016
1,779
818
113
54
#30
JustEli said:
It is often difficult to express ones self, yet far from impossible. The constraints of stackin up to the one
before aft and beside are huge obsticals .....such as spellin. To let go, let er rip, let urself b urself, is a wonderous
thing. Even to say, I cant splain mself as well as the next person, is much more than many can admit.
Run with it, we only live once.
i have difficulties
showing my
love

loveuall
Click to expand...
Aww...Eli...love you too bud!
 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
#31
May 23, 2009
16,424
5,371
113
#31
Susanna said:
All of you people are so good at putting down your thoughts in writing. I really envy that skill. When I’m trying to express myself my mind goes all empty and there’s hardly a word left for me in the entire world to be using, or so it feels.

I think it’s frustrating when I’m in a social setting and people are talking about themselves and each other like it was the easiest thing. Take this thread as an example. If I was to engage in a conversation with someone and we were supposed to be sharing personal things with each other, my response would mostly be “uh” and “na-ah”. Needless to say that it would be rather boring before long.

Maybe this post belongs in that gender thread, because I’m not very feminine when it comes to interacting with people. Or, well, I am, but not when a conversation is venturing beyond the point of being plain and shallow.

So, I can’t really offer anything to anyone. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy being with people, having fun, nagging on my daughter and her husband😂, and all that stuff, but I’m no good at letting someone come close. Then I go all “uh”.
Click to expand...
Aw, Susanna... :(

Well one thing I have noticed about your posts is that you say a lot with only a few words, and I wish I had more of that skill. :) And, you are excellent at delivering witty one-liners.

I have literally laughed out loud (it seems strange to write that out instead of just typing "lol" :D) at many of the clever things you've said, so I certainly hope you'll keep talking in the threads.

A long time ago, we had a young poster in his 20's who expressed frustration that he wished he had the ability to express himself in words rather than what he referred to as "an engineer's brain" (which was his job), because he said he only knew how to think in terms of number and formulas, and that wasn't very helpful when trying to relate to people.

I have to be honest: personally, I'd trade a talent for engineering over expressing myself in writing any day! :) At least I could turn engineering into a job, and I can't see doing that with writing (I know others have, but I wouldn't have the patience for it.)

So I hope you won't be discouraged, and will keep right on (or was that, write on) trying!! :)

Truthfully, the only reason I can communicate in writing is because, like anything else, I spent so much time at it (translation: I. am. boring.) While other people were playing sports, making music, out and about and being social, I was sitting in my room writing letters (and now threads.) As a kid, I spent most, if not all, of my allowances on stamps, envelopes, and decorated paper (which is almost non-existent now, unless you want to pay exorbitant prices), and have literally spent years of my life and thousands of dollars over a lifetime... doing nothing but writing letters.

Come to think of it... I wonder what would have happened if I had put all that time and effort into "real life" events. I don't know, seeing as there were a few times when I was able to meet the people I wrote in person, so to me, it seemed to have evened out.

But maybe that's a drawback of written communication as well, because like anything else, it can become a bit of an addiction, a substitution, and a hiding place that is a handy excuse to avoid interacting with people face-to-face.
 
S

Susanna

Guest
#32
#32
I’m good at witty one liners because that’s how a woman survives in male dominated environments lol.
 
cinder

cinder

Senior Member
#33
Mar 26, 2014
4,425
2,416
113
#33
Lynx said:
NIT PICK ALERT:

"Here It Is! The Gi-Normous List of Everything YOU Have to Offer YOUR Perfect Partner!"

If my partner was perfect... she wouldn't need me. :(
Click to expand...
Nit picking the nit pick:

Since it says your perfect partner the implication is the the partner is a perfect matchup for you, not perfect in a meets all standards of human and moral excellence kind of way. So she would need you after all and you're stuck with that.
 
Pipp

Pipp

Majestic Llamacorn
#34
Sep 17, 2013
5,542
2,720
113
Georgia
#34
Hmm... I can bake a mean cake I guess. Lol
I've been told that I'm understanding.
I'm a little maternal and very loving.
I'm a bit silly so I'll keep you young at heart... That's about all I got at the moment
 
Lynx

Lynx

Folksy yet erudite
#35
Aug 13, 2014
27,183
9,265
113
#35
cinder said:
Nit picking the nit pick:

Since it says your perfect partner the implication is the the partner is a perfect matchup for you, not perfect in a meets all standards of human and moral excellence kind of way. So she would need you after all and you're stuck with that.
Click to expand...
Yes I thought about that... But acknowledging this fact just ruins the nitpick. :p
 
melita916

melita916

Senior Member
#36
Aug 12, 2011
10,463
2,689
113
#36
i also offer my appreciate for action movies.
 
H

Hamarr

Guest
#37
#37
This is pretty hard. I have typed and retyped a post on this a few times. I think recognizing that I might have anything to offer at all has taken awhile.

-Sense of humor. I enjoy making people laugh or being goofy.
-I have a dog and love animals. Dogs > cats, but I do like cats. Cats are jerks in their own special way
-I am a good listener, or so I am told.
-I love music
-I have a lot of interests and can hopefully hold a decent conversation
-I have been told I am caring.
-I enjoy problem solving
-I enjoy just hanging out, or getting out and trying new things if I have the energy for it.
-I am generally easy going

I generally don't go for lists of what I am looking for. I do know a lot of people out there have huge lists of what they are looking for and I will likely never measure up to that list. That used to bother me, but now I think of it as something to be grateful. I don't think I would want to be with someone who had an enormuos list, and probably wouldn't enjoy the relationship even if there were one.
 
K

Kojikun

Well-known member
#38
Oct 5, 2018
4,658
2,721
113
#38
Tbh Im a mess....on the plus side im a hot one! 😎
 
You must log in or register to reply here.