the not kissing before marriage game
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Well *cough* I personally don't think there is anything wrong with kissing before marriage. I've made my fair share of mistakes with my 2 ex's - and I do not agree with sex before marriage (I'm still a virgin, mind you) but I do not think there is anything wrong with a kiss here and there. We are probably going to fall in love a few times in life, unless you are the lucky ones who finds that ONE person forever and ever amen and they never leave blah blah blah! lol And if we do fall in love, I'm pretty sure a kiss may happen to come in there somehwhere.
God will bring along someone for us, but I'm pretty sure that 97% of us young men and women will date someone and maybe things wont work out....
Kisses are special, and we should be careful but to get all high and mighty about it is a little over the top. We all need to be careful where are kisses lead to - that's the important thing.
But I also think we need to be careful how we represent our opinions....do you know how many girls are out there that truly regret their mistakes. One of my best friends feels this way - she's made her share of mistakes, but she regrets them and has asked God to forgive her. When girls (or guys) read some of the sarcastic words in here, they are going to feel 10 times worse, and feel even more judged. That's wrong. Talk about you're own personal views on kissing before marriage, but don't condemn a thousand other girls or guys for kissing before marriage just because you don't agree with it. It's a personal choice...
Just be careful...words can really hurt and you'd be surprised how some of the sarcasm in here could make someone doubt themselves. God will forgive me for "having my tounge in someone elses mouth" as someone put it. I am not proud of my choices, but I have made them and asked to be forgiven. Like I said, it's a personal choice. What I do with my lips is between me, God and the person I love.
So personally, if you are careful where your kiss leads, its alright. Like MusicalMe said a few pages back - when things start getting out of control, thats when you need to be careful. But no, a simple kiss, I see no problem with.
Well *cough* I personally don't think there is anything wrong with kissing before marriage. I've made my fair share of mistakes with my 2 ex's - and I do not agree with sex before marriage (I'm still a virgin, mind you) but I do not think there is anything wrong with a kiss here and there. We are probably going to fall in love a few times in life, unless you are the lucky ones who finds that ONE person forever and ever amen and they never leave blah blah blah! lol And if we do fall in love, I'm pretty sure a kiss may happen to come in there somehwhere.
God will bring along someone for us, but I'm pretty sure that 97% of us young men and women will date someone and maybe things wont work out....
Kisses are special, and we should be careful but to get all high and mighty about it is a little over the top. We all need to be careful where are kisses lead to - that's the important thing.
But I also think we need to be careful how we represent our opinions....do you know how many girls are out there that truly regret their mistakes. One of my best friends feels this way - she's made her share of mistakes, but she regrets them and has asked God to forgive her. When girls (or guys) read some of the sarcastic words in here, they are going to feel 10 times worse, and feel even more judged. That's wrong. Talk about you're own personal views on kissing before marriage, but don't condemn a thousand other girls or guys for kissing before marriage just because you don't agree with it. It's a personal choice...
Just be careful...words can really hurt and you'd be surprised how some of the sarcasm in here could make someone doubt themselves. God will forgive me for "having my tounge in someone elses mouth" as someone put it. I am not proud of my choices, but I have made them and asked to be forgiven. Like I said, it's a personal choice. What I do with my lips is between me, God and the person I love.
So personally, if you are careful where your kiss leads, its alright. Like MusicalMe said a few pages back - when things start getting out of control, thats when you need to be careful. But no, a simple kiss, I see no problem with.
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I believe that people shoud wait until there at least engaged. If you know that you're going to marry them and are engaged then I think it's fine to kiss. I think that waiting to your wedding day is just certain peoples' preferences. I really don't think you should waste your first kiss on someone that is not your fiance.
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I hope people aren't making it into something dirty here, semiazas. I agree it's an expression of affection.
If someone is saying it's wrong for everyone to do before marriage... then that's legalism and is not right. But if one is simply saying it's wrong for themselves to do, as in his/her own personal conviction, then they aren't saying anything wrong here.
If someone is saying it's wrong for everyone to do before marriage... then that's legalism and is not right. But if one is simply saying it's wrong for themselves to do, as in his/her own personal conviction, then they aren't saying anything wrong here.
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Yeah, RoboOp kissing dosen't mean is has to end in sex, i mean, its just a kiss. lol.
altho i do kinda get your point, but i for one couldn't do that aye.
also, having really high standards helps too lol, I mean being a model, you learn awesome looks don't mean awesome girl, lol, way true!
lol, anyway, l8r
altho i do kinda get your point, but i for one couldn't do that aye.
also, having really high standards helps too lol, I mean being a model, you learn awesome looks don't mean awesome girl, lol, way true!
lol, anyway, l8r
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I am happy you brought this up. I think that sharing "the kiss" is one of the most emotionally bonding things you can do with the person you care for. I don't think that other kisses should be avoided- such as those kind you would give to your children or family. Waiting to be romantic is very sweet and I believe it will keep you respecting one another. It is important to build on an emotional and spiritual connection first. Heading into a relationship with physical emphasis, only leads you to struggle with the frustration of battling with resistance. Kissing is a huge trigger for opening up this door. I personally would like to wait to share it in marriage.
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I think it's a personal thing. My best friend is getting married next month and she felt that in her life God's will was that she not kiss until she gets married. They still hug and hold hands and put their arms around each other, just no kissing. I'm not sure this is for me personally, but I think it's cool that they're doing it.
As long as you're doing it because you feel it's the will of God in your life and not just because you thought it was a good idea or you're trying to look super spiritual.
As long as you're doing it because you feel it's the will of God in your life and not just because you thought it was a good idea or you're trying to look super spiritual.
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The only time you should "kiss" someone is when you know for sure that it will NOT go any further and you are closer to God than you are with that person. A kiss of grattitude is acceptable. This way, there will be NO temptation what so ever. Other than that, marriage is the best time to find out. That way, there will be excitement up to that point and love will be involved at that point.
Totally abnormal Robo 
I was a child raised with sexual abuse and so I was promiscuous in Jr. High and High School. I look back 30 years ago and I can see that for me it was a screwed up way of searching for love and validation from a Male.
I married for love but obviously a big part leading up to my marriage was premarital sex..."normal" for me. Who would have guessed I would marry a habitual cheater and be divorced 20 years later.
I found myself back on the dating scene looking for validation and love from a man instead of tearing the walls down around this prodigal daughters heart and returning to the arms of Jesus and letting Him love me.
A few more relationships...things falling apart...finally having a head on collision with the floor at Jesus' feet. At the end of myself.
I have been celibate for a very long time, but lust of the flesh is a daily battle. I'm not worried as much about the physical barrier...I struggle most with control of the mental barrier.
I want to wait until marriage because that's the way God intended it and for once in my life, I want to feel that it really is my choice and not because I need love and validation from someone else, but because I love myself and Jesus loves me and validates me. It is a struggle though.
I've know many couples who waited and I've never seen any marriage that works better. There's no baggage of past sexual encounters to wonder about in the back of your mind or compare your spouse to...and nothing to resent or fight about. Marriage is hard enough work without adding more.
Great topic Robo.
I was a child raised with sexual abuse and so I was promiscuous in Jr. High and High School. I look back 30 years ago and I can see that for me it was a screwed up way of searching for love and validation from a Male.
I married for love but obviously a big part leading up to my marriage was premarital sex..."normal" for me. Who would have guessed I would marry a habitual cheater and be divorced 20 years later.
I found myself back on the dating scene looking for validation and love from a man instead of tearing the walls down around this prodigal daughters heart and returning to the arms of Jesus and letting Him love me.
A few more relationships...things falling apart...finally having a head on collision with the floor at Jesus' feet. At the end of myself.
I have been celibate for a very long time, but lust of the flesh is a daily battle. I'm not worried as much about the physical barrier...I struggle most with control of the mental barrier.
I want to wait until marriage because that's the way God intended it and for once in my life, I want to feel that it really is my choice and not because I need love and validation from someone else, but because I love myself and Jesus loves me and validates me. It is a struggle though.
I've know many couples who waited and I've never seen any marriage that works better. There's no baggage of past sexual encounters to wonder about in the back of your mind or compare your spouse to...and nothing to resent or fight about. Marriage is hard enough work without adding more.
Great topic Robo.
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Totally abnormal Robo
I was a child raised with sexual abuse and so I was promiscuous in Jr. High and High School. I look back 30 years ago and I can see that for me it was a screwed up way of searching for love and validation from a Male.
I married for love but obviously a big part leading up to my marriage was premarital sex..."normal" for me. Who would have guessed I would marry a habitual cheater and be divorced 20 years later.
I found myself back on the dating scene looking for validation and love from a man instead of tearing the walls down around this prodigal daughters heart and returning to the arms of Jesus and letting Him love me.
A few more relationships...things falling apart...finally having a head on collision with the floor at Jesus' feet. At the end of myself.
I have been celibate for a very long time, but lust of the flesh is a daily battle. I'm not worried as much about the physical barrier...I struggle most with control of the mental barrier.
I want to wait until marriage because that's the way God intended it and for once in my life, I want to feel that it really is my choice and not because I need love and validation from someone else, but because I love myself and Jesus loves me and validates me. It is a struggle though.
I've know many couples who waited and I've never seen any marriage that works better. There's no baggage of past sexual encounters to wonder about in the back of your mind or compare your spouse to...and nothing to resent or fight about. Marriage is hard enough work without adding more.
Great topic Robo.
I was a child raised with sexual abuse and so I was promiscuous in Jr. High and High School. I look back 30 years ago and I can see that for me it was a screwed up way of searching for love and validation from a Male.
I married for love but obviously a big part leading up to my marriage was premarital sex..."normal" for me. Who would have guessed I would marry a habitual cheater and be divorced 20 years later.
I found myself back on the dating scene looking for validation and love from a man instead of tearing the walls down around this prodigal daughters heart and returning to the arms of Jesus and letting Him love me.
A few more relationships...things falling apart...finally having a head on collision with the floor at Jesus' feet. At the end of myself.
I have been celibate for a very long time, but lust of the flesh is a daily battle. I'm not worried as much about the physical barrier...I struggle most with control of the mental barrier.
I want to wait until marriage because that's the way God intended it and for once in my life, I want to feel that it really is my choice and not because I need love and validation from someone else, but because I love myself and Jesus loves me and validates me. It is a struggle though.
I've know many couples who waited and I've never seen any marriage that works better. There's no baggage of past sexual encounters to wonder about in the back of your mind or compare your spouse to...and nothing to resent or fight about. Marriage is hard enough work without adding more.
Great topic Robo.
I am like you, waiting for marriage but that’s another area that I’m finding hard as well lol.
Oh the joys of being single hehe. I do however enjoy my independence but I would like to settle down sometime soon. I shall continue to press on in faith in God.
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