Kayla I assume?
I feel sorrow for all involved, I have gone though family issues similar to this and I know that it is heartbreaking... I am not privy to the issues they must have been going through behind closed doors, but I do not believe it has ever been the will of God for a married couple, joined as one flesh, to part ways. My heart goes out to the wife, the loss of someone you have been with for so long, especially to another woman, is one of the hardest things to endure beyond losing a child. I would take issue with the Pastor, not because he could not continue in his marriage, (he may have dealt with something we have no understanding of, if I had more information, I could have a diff opionion) I believe that marriage should be permanent, and do not agree with divorce if by all means it can be saved....but because he involved another woman, during a time that was already going to be very difficult for her, my flesh would unfortunately win the battle of the day, and I would not have many nice things to say about him...unfortunelatey this is a subject that I am admittedly weak on, my flesh wants choke this man, for allowing another woman in the picture, before the wife had time to grow from losing him...it is not fair, it is cruel...But we know, that if she seeks Gods face, through Christ, she will not be given more than she can handle, and God will send her a man that will reconcile what she went through...She will find peace. As far as the Pastor goes, I could not condemn him, I do not know the depths of his mind...I could not rebuke him, I know not what happened, I will say this....If there was nothing else to this story, and he acted selfishly.... it ended in her best interest, she will be the wiser....I believe, many that go through trials like this, are directed towards someone, that will love them in a way they have not known. I speak of an emotionally rewarding love, and assume that she is in Christ Jesus.