The Hidden Secrets of Singles: All the Chores We Someday Hope to Push Off Onto a Spouse. :)

[seoulsearch]

Hey Everyone,

We've been tackling a few hard-hitting subjects here in Singles lately, so just as a brief change of pace, this thread is meant to be a bit of light-hearted fun.

It's certainly not a secret that many of us here hope that we will someday find that "special someone".

And it seems safe to say that we all want someone who loves God and is honest, loyal, and true... but are many of us also looking for someone--who is willing to clean the bathroom?!

For instance, I have a guy friend who loves cats... but in the 10 years since he got married, he's never touched a litter box again, because that was a chore his wife took over. I'm not quite sure if this was a mutual decision--or something that he stopped doing and she took over out of necessity!

We all have lists of what we hope to find in someone--but do we also have lists of all the chores we hope that special someone would be willing to take over, or at least share?

* What chores are you hoping to pass on to a spouse , or at least take turns doing?

* While this won't be reflected in the poll, what chores would YOU be willing to take on or at least do your fair share of when you get married? (Please tell us in your post.)

If you'll give me just a few minutes, I'm going to write a poll. As a way of getting to know each other, I'm going to make it multiple choice and also allow everyone to see each other's answers.

Who knows, maybe this will even spark a few conversations: "So... I see you hate plunging toilets... Me too!" (Imagine THAT as a pick-up line!)

All answers are welcome, whether serious or funny.

This thread is simply meant to be a little kick-start to everyone's Monday... It is in no way, shape, or form meant to imply that singles are lazy and all hoping to dump all their responsibilities onto someone else or enslave someone.

It's simply meant as a fun way to get people talking, sharing, and hopefully starting out the work week with a big grin!

P.S. The poll only allows for a certain number of answers so please add whatever else comes to mind in your post. For example, one category I didn't include was laundry (folding and ironing), so feel free to add that--or any others--in your answers.

Thanks for sharing, and happy posting!!!

Our married friends are welcome to answer, too. What chores were you glad to give up, or share with your spouse once you got married?

 

[Dino246]

That all depends. Will she do the chores correctly?

#Iamnotacontrolfreak

 

[cinder]

Well when I was young I always tried to get out of the chores I didn't want to do by telling my mom that it only seemed fair that the person who it bothered was the person who should do the work. When I was actually sharing common areas with a flatmate (yes I'm american, but apartmentmate just sounds weird) we worked it out with something akin to a division of labor that we naturally fell into (she did a lot of the floor cleaning and dusting of the common area, I made sure the garbage was taken out and the kitchen towels got washed fairly regularly) and then areas / things that only one of us used (like dishes since we bought and cooked food separately most of the time) who ever dirties it cleans it up. It worked. As far as future divisions of labor, well all I know is that I'll be proficient in doing just about everything that needs doing chore wise, and glad to not have to do all of it.

 

[seoulsearch]

As you all can see, I checked everything on the list, because when I get married, I'm planning to kick back in front of the TV with a bright pink miniature umbrella floating atop my iced tea.

Totally kidding! I think.

Seriously, I would want to know what chores my spouse didn't mind doing (or gasp, even enjoyed) and what he absolutely hated, and once we compared lists, things would just hopefully fall into place.

If there were chores one liked but the other didn't, that's a pretty easy given. For all the others--whether we both liked or hated whatever means of "adulting" was required, I'm guessing we would just take turns.

 

[Pumpkinspice]

I would rather he cooks whatever be wants and i clean the whole house i’m a clean person i can be messy if i wanted but i always pick up after and prefer the house clean. I haven’t reached the cooking level but imagine if he knew how well maybe he can teach me but yeah taking turns seem great like an A+ for couples.

 

[Pumpkinspice]

Money Master and Green Thumb 🤔😃

 

[Mel85]

Hello Seoul I voted all of the above lol but I know eventually we’d share all of the chores, however I do like a man who can get dirty and is good with his hands......and I’m talking about fixing cars, building houses etc lol.

 

[Lynx]

I didn't check anything on the list. Maybe I'm single because I'm too flipping self-sufficient.

I already mow the yard and take out the trash. I have a good mechanic to take care of my car.

Anybody who touches my laundry gets her fingers broke. I ain't having no fabric softener crap making my clothes feel all slimy.

A woman can cook a few meals, but if she tries to take over the kitchen we will have problems. Especially if she reorganizes the cabinets without my input. If I can't find the pan I want without looking through the whole kitchen I'm going to get really crabby.

If we have an indoor cat I will take care of it. I did it for years when I was a kid. If we have an indoor dog it will not be by my choice and it will not be my responsibility. Dogs are supposed to be outside. If my wife insists on an indoor dog she will have to clean up after it.

 

[CharliRenee]

I help, he helps, we work together, finding what works best for each other, keeping in mind we all have days where we need each other more. So no special model or routine except the principle of all in all, we are in this together.

 

[tourist]

I casted my vote for Money Master as I allow my wife to budget and pay the bills and appreciate her doing this.

 

[tourist]

I didn't check anything on the list. Maybe I'm single because I'm too flipping self-sufficient.

I already mow the yard and take out the trash. I have a good mechanic to take care of my car.

Anybody who touches my laundry gets her fingers broke. I ain't having no fabric softener crap making my clothes feel all slimy.

A woman can cook a few meals, but if she tries to take over the kitchen we will have problems. Especially if she reorganizes the cabinets without my input. If I can't find the pan I want without looking through the whole kitchen I'm going to get really crabby.

If we have an indoor cat I will take care of it. I did it for years when I was a kid. If we have an indoor dog it will not be by my choice and it will not be my responsibility. Dogs are supposed to be outside. If my wife insists on an indoor dog she will have to clean up after it.

Your future wife may indeed be walking the dog while she ponders if she can teach an old dog new tricks.

 

[Kojikun]

I checked every box......guess whos not ever getting a wife lol

 

[RodB65]

Well, if or when it happens, we'll figure it out then.

 

[Kojikun]

That all depends. Will she do the chores correctly?

#Iamnotacontrolfreak

Sometimes when I was younger and when my dad was present I would do the chore he gave me wrong on purpose so he would get angry enough to do it himself lol

 

[melita916]

chores? what are those?

 

[1christian1]

That all depends. Will she do the chores correctly?

#Iamnotacontrolfreak

Yes, but only the chores she (or he) is willing to do (hint..hint.. not done well. not wanting to do. LOL..)

 

[Dino246]

Yes, but only the chores she is willing to do (hint..hint.. not done well. not wanting to do. LOL..)

Fixed it for ya.

 

[Dino246]

To all the chores I've done before
The cooking, dishes, sweep the floor
The yard work and the mop
One day I hope to stop
Doing all these chores I've done before

To all the chores I've done before
The garbage carried out the door
The laundry left too long,
I dedicate this song
To all the chores I've done before

 

[seoulsearch]

Yes, but only the chores she (or he) is willing to do (hint..hint.. not done well. not wanting to do. LOL..)

But what happens if no one wants to, or is willing, to do things like clean the bathroom?

I have to admit. It would definitely become an issue (to me at least) if there were chores that needed to be done that neither of us wanted to do, but that he always left for me to do just because he was unwilling to do them.

Sorry, but I'm not getting married in order to be a maid (unless, of course, I somehow stayed at home all the time, but I personally don't see how couples can make it without two incomes these days, especially if kids are involved.)

 

[Pumpkinspice]

Kids??! They will be taught as soon as they can. Like a chip in their heads like that. No questioning mother, you know what to do sort of way. Dad can be in charge of the rewards. Dads spoil less than mom’s best friend.