They have quarterly director's meetings, but no annual general meeting.
No financial report is published.
They do say that we have an open book policy, but does anybody actually ever look at it?
In reality nobody has any idea how much is being raised or spent, or on what.
So I don't feel any ownership (if you will) in the church or any form of shared responsibility.
It feels like a business that purports to be an open club.
As I said, I don't want this to sound negative, but I'm just reaching out in faith and asking for advice.
It's possible I'm just be tight, to be blunt.
Having said that, I've got my wits about me and when my spidey senses are tingling there is usually a very good reason.
First, I do believe you need to attend church. Hebrews 10:25 says we are to meet with other believers.
Second, I don’t believe tithing is for the NT church. Tithing was giving 10% to the priests and Levites in the OT. Even modern Jews do not tithe.
That being said, my husband does believe in tithing. So back when we got married, he was just out of college, and I had a few years to go. We had no money. Certainly not enough to make ends meet.
Yet there we were every month, throwing all this money in the offering basket monthly. But never because someone pressured us.
We never starved, always had a roof over our heads and the bills were paid. My husband got his dream job, and I finally started teaching. Except by then we had 4 kids, 3 boys who ate us out of house and home. And sports and music lessons.
We kept on tithing and we had more money. The kids grew up, and we had an expensive home, paid for, now living happily on our pensions. I think if we had not given cheerfully, we would not be where we are today, financially.
As far as no AGM and no open books, no voting by members on the budget? Find another church. Shades of Judas being the treasurer! As far as haranguing and harassing you for money? Do not walk, run to a different church. I’ve been attending Christian Churches since I was a small child. I have never heard of a church constantly begging for money. We are always under budget, but we went away from an offering time, to internet giving and a locked box for Cheques. We simply never hear about money, and that is the way it should be!
Try a non-charismatic non-Pentecostal church. You might find people who want your live for Christ instead of mammon.