I never thought I would know how to comfort widowers, until I became one . . .
God has allowed that to be a foot hold to open doors. Your testimony has so much value. And with the Holy Spirit guiding you and planting your words into broken hearts, the possibilities are endless to how many lives you can touch!!
I gave an example of fear:
My real victory was rebellion!!
I have been fortunate to understand things rather quickly. It has opened many doors for jobs, to know people, to get favors, etc... And the older I got, I felt the smarter I was. I had an answer for everything (still do/it's a habit I am trying to work on)...but I could see both sides of any argument or law. And then I would choose to play in the middle. But eventually I got mine. It really was like a left jab from nowhere, and as I was picking myself up off the ground (in emotional terms), I realized my knowledge was a danger unless it was used properly. I lost a marriage and time. It took me almost 5 years to get out of that funk. But, it was when I lost my Dad a couple years ago, I really truthfully and honestly understood, I did not know crap!!
Yes, I give definitive answers. But, I am also looking to learn, now (haha). Every response I get from a differing point of view, is either a chance to learn or a chance to broaden my understanding. But rebellion is a tough mindset to kick. I struggle daily with it. It definitely is my thorn!!