I don't think I can sympathize with the OP.
At least not with this sentiment.
I've never really had a problem making a connection, I can say I've been fortunate to have enjoyed getting to know some amazing women over my small life. Sure I've had good and bad experiences but overall, I can't recall ever being called any of those terms.. well maybe by some bitter girl sure, but then again, I learned that as a teenager, words can slide right off if you put no value in insults. Thing is, I haven't cared enough about how women or men feel or think about me. You can find your Ruth by simply enjoying your life. Do what makes you happy, whatever brings you joy. Hobbies, sports, in ministry etc.
I think its fair to say that a ''Ruth'' will gravitate to a man that Lives his life to the fullest in Christ don't ya think? Assertiveness comes in all shapes, not just the bad boy kind. I think it's natural for people to be drawn by someone who genuinely enjoys their daily adventures. People love to follow and be comfortable with someone who is comfortable with his self-worth. Be humble, kind and reach for that inner fire all of us men have and go for all your Godly ambitions.
Be happy with yourself as a man first, then your ''visual life filter'' will focus on not just the positives already around you, but also the positives you can do to bless people with. The more you bless people, the more you are known for and rewarded by true fulfillment.
I'm not gonna give you the typical- ''you're spineless beta, man up''- This does more harm than good, we are Christian. But do consider growing a thicker skin. Life can be cruel, learn to be satisfied in Christ above all things and only then will a woman's company become a great bonus in your life.
This post, as for how you see things, seems to me (as a fellow man) that maybe rejection and disappointment have built up too much and have taken root.
Truth is, women are only
one part of life. Having someone to walk through life is amazing but it's not the only goal to strive for. There are many ambitions, goals, finish-lines and still so many other things about life that are amazing and wonderful as well.
A woman won't
complete you, but a Godly woman will be a beautiful part of a
complete life.
Keep your head up champ, focus on the Lord above all and you'll be alright.
If you ever want to pray or just talk, I'm here