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tourist

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yeah I was thinking that last night no stompers come in no one advertising,,,cussing! How does this website make it's money to operate..we don't pay dues?
Donations are accepted to keep the lights on. I donated a sizable donation 4 years ago and hope that I am soon in a position to donate again. Any amount is accepted and greatly appreciated.
 

Monnkai

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PM sent with my email address. Looking forward to browsing through your work.
I sent the first two Elemental-z and what I have done of Hand of Fate I didn't send you all of my work but there's maybe 300 to 400 pages worth of material there
 

tourist

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o_O its not a holiday I BETTER GET READY FOR WORK...BY EVERYONE!!! nooo calm down me..I still have vacation till "next" thursday its all good now what am i going to do with all that time...take my girlfriend out? Problem with that I don't have one! :mad::LOL:
You might want to consider filing for divorce first as that is one loose end that few woman may accept. Seeing how you have not lived with your wife for 3 years and your daughter is an adult the process should be rather painless and routine. My late wife filed for divorce over the telephone. She was in Florida and the husband (bad guy) lived in Maine. Took one phone call to a lawyer in Maine, and about a 3 week wait, then a 30 minute phone call from a court clerk in Maine. Divorce was granted immediately. This was in 2002. Total cost $300 which probably equates to $500 in today's dollars.
 

VincentG

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I have been sitting in this chair so long the screws are getting loose..time to buy another,,maybe at staples.
 

VincentG

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You might want to consider filing for divorce first as that is one loose end that few woman may accept. Seeing how you have not lived with your wife for 3 years and your daughter is an adult the process should be rather painless and routine. My late wife filed for divorce over the telephone. She was in Florida and the husband (bad guy) lived in Maine. Took one phone call to a lawyer in Maine, and about a 3 week wait, then a 30 minute phone call from a court clerk in Maine. Divorce was granted immediately. This was in 2002. Total cost $300 which probably equates to $500 in today's dollars.
Kinda afraid I will loose my 401k if I get a div. but if I do..I do I guess seems unfair she left I worked for it...if she claims it there goes halk of my neest egg..I would have to try and build it up again. :(
 

Jewel5712

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Kinda afraid I will loose my 401k if I get a div. but if I do..I do I guess seems unfair she left I worked for it...if she claims it there goes halk of my neest egg..I would have to try and build it up again. :(
Better risk that than being single the rest of your life? You seem like a great guy n a woman can live with a man that doesnt have a lot of money but a christian woman wont take the chance of getting involved with a married man :(
 

VincentG

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even though i'm seperate..if you wrap it all up I guess I'm married ...hate to even say that..I will div. cause true once a christian woman see seperation it stii equal married and they high tail it outta there real quick.
 

Jewel5712

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even though i'm seperate..if you wrap it all up I guess I'm married ...hate to even say that..I will div. cause true once a christian woman see seperation it stii equal married and they high tail it outta there real quick.
My ex left the state with another woman..took me 2 yrs to find him n another year to divorce but then we were able to start over fresh and start rebuilding emotionally physically n spiritually...:)
 

Jewel5712

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even though i'm seperate..if you wrap it all up I guess I'm married ...hate to even say that..I will div. cause true once a christian woman see seperation it stii equal married and they high tail it outta there real quick.
N kudos that you were HONEST and listed that youre "seperated"..a lot of married men posing as single..
 

VincentG

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what to do what to do..(for the day) problem is that when i get up early I can't shut down till about 8 pm..even if I tried to take a nap it won't happen....which is good when I go to work but I would like to take a nap once in awhile now that i am not working..but aint gonna happen.
 

tourist

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Kinda afraid I will loose my 401k if I get a div. but if I do..I do I guess seems unfair she left I worked for it...if she claims it there goes halk of my neest egg..I would have to try and build it up again. :(
Either way she will get her legal share whether you divorce or not. If you don't you may also be liable for her other expenses. The thing is, either way she is going to cost you money. Better to settle up now in regards to the 401K rather than continue to contribute to it giving her even more money.

Seeing how she left you perhaps you could threaten to sue her for divorce on the grounds of desertion and possibly adultery as well if she does not agree to a reasonable settlement. If she declines point out to her that she may end up with nothing or far less than she believes she is entitled to. She may accept an offer of considerable less than half just to get her hands on a sizable chunk of cash, even more likely if she is facing financial issues of her own. A lot of something right now or risk receiving little or nothing in the future. Of course, you will have to consult a divorce attorney.

Don't feel too bad, a lot of us have suffered bad marriages, myself included. There is always a price to pay but it is best to set up options that won't financially destroy you. My counsel is to get this handled immediately for your own peace of mind and financial well being.

I have been down the same road that you are traveling. Lost everything except my little dog. I agreed to watch the little guy for a weekend but not did give him back. She got my daughter so considered it a fair trade.

Been there, done that, bought the T-shirt.
 

tourist

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I sent the first two Elemental-z and what I have done of Hand of Fate I didn't send you all of my work but there's maybe 300 to 400 pages worth of material there
Thank you, I will give it a quick scan today and read in more in detail in the coming days. My most initial impression is promising. Looks like it will be a good read. I used to write in my younger days, short mystery stories but only got a bunch of rejection slips and gave it up. Perhaps you will persevere and make a name for yourself. Only time will tell.
 

Jewel5712

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@VincentG...or better yet..ANY chance of reconciling or mediation therapy? Divorce isnt always the answer because we ALL know that God can soften hardened hearts..just a thought!