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JesusLives

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You've been doing stuff wrong non-stop for the past 18 months Darlene.

You should have known that you had done her wrong and called her 18 months ago to make it right. ;):D
I suppose I should have given a little more information. In that we have discussed what I did wrong twice my cousin and I and I sincerely said I was sorry and asked her to forgive me and in my mind we were o.k. But then I would try to call her and she wouldn't answer her phone.

When Tourist and I went on our northern trip last October I contacted her or attempted to by phone and I did write a letter explaining we were coming her way as I really would like for her to meet Tourist as she hasn't met him yet and we have almost been married 4 years now and this is the second time I have tried to get this meeting done. She chose not to respond because she is holding on to anger toward me.

So anyone have any ideas as to how this third talk we are going to have Saturday is going to fix things? In my mind we have been o.k. twice as how many times do I have to say I'm sorry and ask for forgiveness when I thought she accepted the previous two times I asked?

What did I do that was so terrible? Well when I was in an emergency situation bleeding to death literally after a surgery three weeks prior I started bleeding and we were in the doctors office and they are taking me by ambulance to the hospital for emergency surgery I said to my daughter I love you on the way out and to my cousin Dee I said - see if I ever make you biscuits and gravy again and she was offended that I didn't say I loved her too. Well it was a joke I was trying to make light of a bad situation and go for the laugh and she didn't think it was funny... I had made us all biscuits and gravy for breakfast before the bleeding started.... and this comment offended her.

She sat on this for 6 years without telling me just wouldn't answer my calls and upset with me I found out 6 years later and have apologized twice and asked for forgiveness for this comment... It has not been accepted. But then she has let many other things I have done or said build for years too and I'm probably not aware of most of it as she sits on her anger and lets it stew.....

So I'm confused as to if this third talk on Saturday will change anything as my first two sorry's and requests for forgiveness didn't take.

Suggestions anyone?
 
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I suppose I should have given a little more information. In that we have discussed what I did wrong twice my cousin and I and I sincerely said I was sorry and asked her to forgive me and in my mind we were o.k. But then I would try to call her and she wouldn't answer her phone.

When Tourist and I went on our northern trip last October I contacted her or attempted to by phone and I did write a letter explaining we were coming her way as I really would like for her to meet Tourist as she hasn't met him yet and we have almost been married 4 years now and this is the second time I have tried to get this meeting done. She chose not to respond because she is holding on to anger toward me.

So anyone have any ideas as to how this third talk we are going to have Saturday is going to fix things? In my mind we have been o.k. twice as how many times do I have to say I'm sorry and ask for forgiveness when I thought she accepted the previous two times I asked?

What did I do that was so terrible? Well when I was in an emergency situation bleeding to death literally after a surgery three weeks prior I started bleeding and we were in the doctors office and they are taking me by ambulance to the hospital for emergency surgery I said to my daughter I love you on the way out and to my cousin Dee I said - see if I ever make you biscuits and gravy again and she was offended that I didn't say I loved her too. Well it was a joke I was trying to make light of a bad situation and go for the laugh and she didn't think it was funny... I had made us all biscuits and gravy for breakfast before the bleeding started.... and this comment offended her.

She sat on this for 6 years without telling me just wouldn't answer my calls and upset with me I found out 6 years later and have apologized twice and asked for forgiveness for this comment... It has not been accepted. But then she has let many other things I have done or said build for years too and I'm probably not aware of most of it as she sits on her anger and lets it stew.....

So I'm confused as to if this third talk on Saturday will change anything as my first two sorry's and requests for forgiveness didn't take.

Suggestions anyone?
make her a nice plate of biscuits and gravy
 

JesusLives

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Soliciting prayer requests for the cousin call on Saturday and the fact that our air conditioner is broken and I haven't had the heart to tell Tourist yet although he may figure it out in the morning when it will be warmer in the house.... We have no money for repairs at least not expensive repairs and it is the hottest part of summer.

I'm in a quandary as to whether to call the ac people tomorrow for help as it will be weekend more expensive charges if they come out to check it or suffer through the weekend and wait till Monday to call for help in at least figuring out how much the repair will be if we can afford to get it fixed or not.....

Prayers that I will trust God to get us through this trial... Thanks.
 

JesusLives

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You've been doing stuff wrong non-stop for the past 18 months Darlene.

You should have known that you had done her wrong and called her 18 months ago to make it right. ;):D
PS - I called her many times she doesn't answer the phone cause she's mad at me... It's a clue to me that I'm still not forgiven.
 

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PS - I called her many times she doesn't answer the phone cause she's mad at me... It's a clue to me that I'm still not forgiven.
Well Darlene, you can't change your cousin. If she insists on harboring a grudge, there is not much you can do about it. I find it hard to believe there isn't more going on with her than that one misstatement could effect.

I have counseled people that had mental illness, and this reminds me of such. Just stay prayerful and handle it carefully. Lay it at the foot of God's throne and leave it there. Once you get off your knees from taking it to the throne, do not worry about it. That is like telling God you would rather handle it after all. :cool:
 

JesusLives

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Well Darlene, you can't change your cousin. If she insists on harboring a grudge, there is not much you can do about it. I find it hard to believe there isn't more going on with her than that one misstatement could effect.

I have counseled people that had mental illness, and this reminds me of such. Just stay prayerful and handle it carefully. Lay it at the foot of God's throne and leave it there. Once you get off your knees from taking it to the throne, do not worry about it. That is like telling God you would rather handle it after all. :cool:

After so long a time I finally just gave up trying as it was clear she didn't want anything to do with me.
 

JesusLives

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Poor Tourist figured it out that the air conditioner is broken..... I didn't tell him yesterday because I didn't want to ruin his sleep last night. It's kind of hard to hide a broken AC in the middle of Florida summer. I didn't notice until about 3 or 4 PM yesterday when it was a tad warm. But I have decided to wait until Monday before I call the air people at least it won't be a weekend extra charge....