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[NoNameMcgee]

I was. I have no faith that God will ever put a woman in my path that I will ever marry. So It's a moot point but it started of as a question to me from jewel about what I would or wouldn't do. As a man. I made no biblical references. I was kicked out of a church because my bi-polar wife devorced me because she was unhappy and to them being divorced was equal to adultery and they didn't tollerate divorced men or adulteres in their midst. According to them I was going to hell for not saving my doomed marriage. She turned lesbo! I take marriage deadly serious. It's supposed to be a contract for life. You can't find a scripture that says it's ok for me to marry again, however if I did I'm sure his grace would abound. I've been divorced 34 years and haven't remarried, have no prospects and frankly don't care any more.

I am not trying to offend you, but it is not only a contract for life... it is a SANCTIFIED unity under God....

I'm sorry you've been hurt so badly cali, but in terms of what is right and wrong... using temporal pleasures... or lack thereof

as a reason for divorce
or fornication.... is wrong....



but

here

1 Corinthians 7:8 ►

New International Version
Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do.

New Living Translation
So I say to those who aren't married and to widows--it's better to stay unmarried, just as I am.

English Standard Version
To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am.

Berean Study Bible
Now to the unmarried and widows I say this: It is good for them to remain unmarried, as I am.

Berean Literal Bible
Now I say to the unmarried and to the widows, it is good for them if they should remain as even I.

New American Standard Bible
But I say to the unmarried and to widows that it is good for them if they remain even as I.

King James Bible
I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.​

1 Corinthians 7:9 ►

New International Version
But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

New Living Translation
But if they can't control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It's better to marry than to burn with lust.

English Standard Version
But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

Berean Study Bible
But if they cannot control themselves, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

Berean Literal Bible
But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

New American Standard Bible
But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

King James Bible
But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.





22. agamos ►

Strong's Concordance

agamos: unmarried​

Original Word: ἄγαμος, οῦ, ὁ, ἡ
Part of Speech: Noun, Feminine; Noun, Masculine
Transliteration: agamos
Phonetic Spelling: (ag'-am-os)
Short Definition: unmarried
Definition: unmarried, of a person not in a state of wedlock, whether he or she has formerly been married or not.​

 

[calibob]

Yes but my main concern is to more thouroughly cover the bases in order to guard against the tradgey of divorce. You know King Henry the 8th choosing beheading over divorce because it was more acceptable to the church?
I no longer burn with passion so I don't need to get married. This is me now!

 

[calibob]

@Tommy379 The question in my mind is which is worse fornicating with a prospective wife or having a marriage that ends in divorce? And a broken family?

 

[NoNameMcgee]

@Tommy379 The question in my mind is which is worse fornicating with a prospective wife or having a marriage that ends in divorce? And a broken family?

you should care more about Gods perspective than tommys

or the "church" of king henry



we aren't called to encourage choosing the lesser of two evils



we do not do evil, so good may come....

this is in the bible

in Gods inspired written word

 

[calibob]

you should care more about Gods perspective than tommys

or the "church" of king henry



we aren't called to encourage choosing the lesser of two evils



we do not do evil, so good may come....

this is in the bible

in Gods inspired written word

Your right, I was just expressing natural human fear and anxiety. God's not done with me yet. I have chosen neither but to remain single since 1984 and no dates since 2006. Plus expressing the stigma of divorce which lasts the rest of my life..

 

[Jewel5712]

I would like calibob to explain how a male or female could be sexually incompatible.

Sometimes size if a man..a womams body where it might be painful..etc..trying not to be to graphic..lol

 

[Jewel5712]

Here’s what I know...

A husband and wife need to take the time to know one another in the bedroom. If someone doesn’t wanna take the time to do this, well I say said person is just lazy.

Granted there may be health issues that might prolong the getting to know. But shoot I thought one of the reasons people get married is for love. Lol.

The whole test drive deal isn’t compatible with Scripture.

That’s my opinion.

Amen...big difference between sex n love making..

 

[Tommy379]

Sometimes size if a man..a womams body where it might be painful..etc..trying not to be to graphic..lol

Reminds me of a commercial where a dumb mechanic was hammering a car battery to make it fit.

 

[Jewel5712]

Hot I tell you.

Smokin..lol

 

[Jewel5712]

Reminds me of a commercial where a dumb mechanic was hammering a car battery to make it fit.

Lol..

 

[Jewel5712]

Don't use the bible to justify sin as the RIGHT thing to do. We are not to have sex outside of marriage..... calibob there are younger brothers and sisters here who may read this and I hope you're joking.

Well..the statistics and reality is tgat kids are having sex at the age of 12 n 13 now..tgey probably know more than us old timers do..ive been a youth group leader and youd be surprised what tgey know at the jr hi age..make you blush so lets not be naive..yes..what the Bible says is one thing but both christians n non christians are having A LOT of sex outside marriage..calibob just has the GUTS to admit it and be open..isnt what this forum is supposed to be all about with us christians..being open n HONEST or is this like sunday church..everyone goes in with a smile like theyve done no wrong n its everyone else that has a problem..the 'sunday church mask"..BOLOGNA!

 

[Jewel5712]

I am not trying to offend you, but it is not only a contract for life... it is a SANCTIFIED unity under God....

I'm sorry you've been hurt so badly cali, but in terms of what is right and wrong... using temporal pleasures... or lack thereof

as a reason for divorce
or fornication.... is wrong....



but

here

1 Corinthians 7:8 ►

New International Version
Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do.

New Living Translation
So I say to those who aren't married and to widows--it's better to stay unmarried, just as I am.

English Standard Version
To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am.

Berean Study Bible
Now to the unmarried and widows I say this: It is good for them to remain unmarried, as I am.

Berean Literal Bible
Now I say to the unmarried and to the widows, it is good for them if they should remain as even I.

New American Standard Bible
But I say to the unmarried and to widows that it is good for them if they remain even as I.

King James Bible
I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.​

1 Corinthians 7:9 ►

New International Version
But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

New Living Translation
But if they can't control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It's better to marry than to burn with lust.

English Standard Version
But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

Berean Study Bible
But if they cannot control themselves, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

Berean Literal Bible
But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

New American Standard Bible
But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

King James Bible
But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.





22. agamos ►

Strong's Concordance

agamos: unmarried​

Original Word: ἄγαμος, οῦ, ὁ, ἡ
Part of Speech: Noun, Feminine; Noun, Masculine
Transliteration: agamos
Phonetic Spelling: (ag'-am-os)
Short Definition: unmarried
Definition: unmarried, of a person not in a state of wedlock, whether he or she has formerly been married or not.​

Ummm..NOT a time to be "politically correct" and post numerous scriptures...i dont think you yourself have answered what the OP is about? Or..did i miss it?

All i can say is..your timing and "no offense" tactic sucks :/

 

[NotmebutHim]

I'm 41 (soon to be 42) and I hold to no sex before marriage. To be blunt, I want to "enjoy those moments" with my potential future wife.

 

[Jewel5712]

I'm 41 (soon to be 42) and I hold to no sex before marriage. To be blunt, I want to "enjoy those moments" with my potential future wife.

Oh no..10 "hail marys" for you potty mouth..lol..

Ever have a very serious relationship?

 

[NotmebutHim]

Oh no..10 "hail marys" for you potty mouth..lol..

Ever have a very serious relationship?

Only one; my only real girlfriend and I were together for nearly two years. We discussed possibly getting married way down the road, but................

 

[Jewel5712]

Only one; my only real girlfriend and I were together for nearly two years. We discussed possibly getting married way down the road, but................

N no sex or any other thing including a sexual act that should be kept for marriage?
Remember even THINKING impure tgoughts is a sin..

 

[Tommy379]

Why you got to get all personal like that?

 

[Jewel5712]

Why you got to get all personal like that?

Is this for me? If so its because of how he jumped on calibob when calibob was being vulnerable n honest ...

N i dint know ANYONE rgat is as pure as the druven snow whether it be thought or deed to point the finger at another

 

[Tommy379]

Yep.

 

[Tommy379]

I guess notmebuthim needs to be punished