Affection: Where do you draw the line for a single Christian man or woman?

[Jewel5712]

Serious..... how is it problematic?

Passionate kissing can be problematic because it can lead to touching..sex..etc...and some of us actually like all those things listed but it has to be under the covenant of marriage..THATS the problem..(not saying its a BAD problem)

 

[Jewel5712]

Serious..... how is it problematic?

Plus..gotta remember that usually men get turned on a lot quicker and easily than woman and we wouldnt want them to "suffer the consiquences" lol

 

[Faith-n-Christ]

Serious..... how is it problematic?

Mel85, passionate kissing for some woman turn that button on and once that pleasure button is lit, its very difficult to stop. And that would put them in a place/temptation to sin and or cross their personal line.

The arousal button is difficult to control. Men especially, working in surgery, we had to make sure anesthesia kicked in. Many times a cold gloved hand caused a man to salute. That in no way is sexual. Yet many man can't help it.

Woman are usually not easily aroused, yet a suckling baby can trip that button. Again not sexual. For to many a simple kiss or innocent touch can arouse them. That is why I keep it all public and clean. No chance of falling into a trap.

 

[Mel85]

Kissing is great..its when its the long passionate kissing that could be problematic..unfortunately..lol

I actually read this in a different way - as in a long relationship that’s lasted years lol I know many people who have been in 10, 15 year relationships, not married, hence my way of understanding your initial comment.

😂

 

[Mel85]

Plus..gotta remember that usually men get turned on a lot quicker and easily than woman and we wouldnt want them to "suffer the consiquences" lol

I guess, but then to be fair, it can be the other way around as well.

 

[Jewel5712]

I guess, but then to be fair, it can be the other way around as well.

Once youve ,tasted that fruit" and ut was GOOOODDD..the harder it can be abstain..

 

[Mel85]

Once youve ,tasted that fruit" and ut was GOOOODDD..the harder it can be abstain..

I’ve never “tasted the fruit”, so I wouldn’t know 😂

 

[Jewel5712]

I actually read this in a different way - as in a long relationship that’s lasted years lol I know many people who have been in 10, 15 year relationships, not married, hence my way of understanding your initial comment.

😂

I think its after 7 yrs here tgat even if they arent legally married theyre still considered it (and i can think of the name for it..brain fart) ugh..lol

 

[Jewel5712]

I’ve never “tasted the fruit”, so I wouldn’t know 😂

It was GOOOODDDD..lol. Delish! Lol

 

[Jewel5712]

I think its after 7 yrs here tgat even if they arent legally married theyre still considered it (and i can think of the name for it..brain fart) ugh..lol

Think its called "common law" spouses..

 

[T_Laurich]

 

[Mel85]

It was GOOOODDDD..lol. Delish! Lol

😂😂😂😂

 

[Mel85]

Think its called "common law" spouses..

Is that an American thing? Lol.

 

[NotmebutHim]

Glad to hear it ! Lol

Thanks Jewel!!

 

[Jewel5712]

Thanks Jewel!!

 

[Faith-n-Christ]

I guess, but then to be fair, it can be the other way around as well.

Very much agreed. There are many women who have a healthy sexual appetite. I can honestly say, most women are not as easily tempted visually as a man can be. Most women, it does have some form of physical contact. A hand on the back, a kiss and so forth. But you are correct in speaking both male and female, once it is turned on it is difficult to stop, And both parties hurt physically, if aroused. A male there is actually a term and condition that goes with it. Most males here know the term, it is also used in the ER. (Though not a proper name.) If a male or female is aroused and the pleaser is not fulfilled there is pain associated with it. Again a strong reason to avoid such temptations.

 

[T_Laurich]

 

[Jewel5712]

Very much agreed. There are many women who have a healthy sexual appetite. I can honestly say, most women are not as easily tempted visually as a man can be. Most women, it does have some form of physical contact. A hand on the back, a kiss and so forth. But you are correct in speaking both male and female, once it is turned on it is difficult to stop, And both parties hurt physically, if aroused. A male there is actually a term and condition that goes with it. Most males here know the term, it is also used in the ER. (Though not a proper name.) If a male or female is aroused and the pleaser is not fulfilled there is pain associated with it. Again a strong reason to avoid such temptations.

Thats why a lot of women think flitaciously teasing a man is harmless? Guess again..

 

[Mel85]

Very much agreed. There are many women who have a healthy sexual appetite. I can honestly say, most women are not as easily tempted visually as a man can be. Most women, it does have some form of physical contact. A hand on the back, a kiss and so forth. But you are correct in speaking both male and female, once it is turned on it is difficult to stop, And both parties hurt physically, if aroused. A male there is actually a term and condition that goes with it. Most males here know the term, it is also used in the ER. (Though not a proper name.) If a male or female is aroused and the pleaser is not fulfilled there is pain associated with it. Again a strong reason to avoid such temptations.

Good point.

I guess it’s a personal choice as some have stated already but what does the Bible say about us being in those situations? (I posted a scripture in my OP).

 

[Mel85]

People have to take responsibility of their actions.