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Hey Ross, how is Rachel doing? haha sorry I just had to, bro. 
But to answer your question, I thought I would point something out. I think most people expect marriage to make them feel better or somehow fill a void they have in their hearts. Then when they get married, they realize that marriage is a lot of work. In order to fill that void within themselves they have to take from the other person.
The problem is that the other person probably married for the same reasons and so now you have two people sucking the life out of each other. She wants his attention and he wants her to show him some love. Then they end up fighting and she says "he doesn't spend enough time with me" and he says "she never wants to have sex." Both are unsatisfied and both are unhappy...probably even more so than before they were married. The key is to become a whole person before you think about marriage. This way you have plenty to offer your spouse...and hopefully your spouse to you.
That's how I deal with being single...I remind myself that I'm not whole yet. I would have issues if I were to get married right now. When I get married, I want to offer as much as I can. Right now I cannot offer much. I'm an emotional wreck (my granny is dying from cancer) and will be for several months. I also have self-esteem issues. I am working on it though.
So, if you have any issues that you need to deal with (self esteem issues, issues financially, issues with your parents, etc.) I suggest you focus on fixing them before you look for someone. Who knows...maybe God is hiding you from her for now. Maybe you are not ready or she isn't ready. Ya never know! God bless
But to answer your question, I thought I would point something out. I think most people expect marriage to make them feel better or somehow fill a void they have in their hearts. Then when they get married, they realize that marriage is a lot of work. In order to fill that void within themselves they have to take from the other person.
The problem is that the other person probably married for the same reasons and so now you have two people sucking the life out of each other. She wants his attention and he wants her to show him some love. Then they end up fighting and she says "he doesn't spend enough time with me" and he says "she never wants to have sex." Both are unsatisfied and both are unhappy...probably even more so than before they were married. The key is to become a whole person before you think about marriage. This way you have plenty to offer your spouse...and hopefully your spouse to you.
That's how I deal with being single...I remind myself that I'm not whole yet. I would have issues if I were to get married right now. When I get married, I want to offer as much as I can. Right now I cannot offer much. I'm an emotional wreck (my granny is dying from cancer) and will be for several months. I also have self-esteem issues. I am working on it though.
So, if you have any issues that you need to deal with (self esteem issues, issues financially, issues with your parents, etc.) I suggest you focus on fixing them before you look for someone. Who knows...maybe God is hiding you from her for now. Maybe you are not ready or she isn't ready. Ya never know! God bless
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I'm single and I'm a mom. It's hard for me at times. I do want to be in a relationship again but this time I want to do it Gods way (messed up IN the past). Sometimes Im so strong and confident in my singleness, believing that God has a plan for My life. Other times I think singleness is my punishment for being disobedient. Everyone around seems to be in a relationship. I m super happy for them but its hard seeing them happy and in love.
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