I would say the man.
But one should define what constitutes a special date.
It doesn't have to be expensive to be special.
My now wife and I used to go to the beach and eat a bag of fish and chips from the chip shop.
One of our favourite as well was to get a KFC bucket and watch a movie.
We do now go for a nice expensive meals.
Even though she has her own bank account which her salary is paid into (she works for the church so it's not much but I insist she spends that on herself) we have a joint account which my salary gets paid into. I pay for the expensive meals.
We have a saying over here, often said "What's mine is mine and what's yours is mine