Does age realy matter for you to get married?
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If I'm understanding correctly you're asking about what some people say what you 'should' get married by?
If that's the case there is no such thing. It is nothing more than secular culture putting demands on people and overemphasizing marriage.
Some countries and cultures seem to place a higher priority than others on it. In the US it's becoming a lesser issue as people are moving away from marriage at all. Or waiting longer. But it's not uncommon, for example, for many Asian cultures to push getting married early.
Often times people, particularly women, will put pressure on themselves once they see their friends getting married even if no source outside themselves push it.
Personally i think the church as a whole has become too focused on pushing marriage and seeming to value married couples and families over singles.
Ultimately, though, there is no real right age. And psychologist and others who study the topic say waiting to get married is actually better than getting married at a younger age. People tend to mature more, be more financially well off, have a better idea of what they do/don't want in a partner, change or solidify their lives goals, etc...
So if you're a single, don't rush marriage. It's not a promise anyways.
If that's the case there is no such thing. It is nothing more than secular culture putting demands on people and overemphasizing marriage.
Some countries and cultures seem to place a higher priority than others on it. In the US it's becoming a lesser issue as people are moving away from marriage at all. Or waiting longer. But it's not uncommon, for example, for many Asian cultures to push getting married early.
Often times people, particularly women, will put pressure on themselves once they see their friends getting married even if no source outside themselves push it.
Personally i think the church as a whole has become too focused on pushing marriage and seeming to value married couples and families over singles.
Ultimately, though, there is no real right age. And psychologist and others who study the topic say waiting to get married is actually better than getting married at a younger age. People tend to mature more, be more financially well off, have a better idea of what they do/don't want in a partner, change or solidify their lives goals, etc...
So if you're a single, don't rush marriage. It's not a promise anyways.
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I think theres more pressure on a woman starting in her younger 20s..always has been for years..dont want to be known as a spinster..and that biological clock is ticking to have babies you know..lol. However..i think more women are waiting a bit longer to get settled in thier careers but it doesnt stop the social pressure and expectation..never will..when people are ready..in GODS eyes..He will bring them together because GODS timing is perfect..sooooo. Bah humbug to everyone else ( just as long as youre over 18 or 21 depending on the state) lol
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Well i say no.
Ecclesiastes 3:1 (AKJV) To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
like when we were born, married and die all have the time.
I never be worry when n what age ill get married coz i will let it flow n let it be His way. If we get married thats mean its the season and the best thing for us if not its also the good one for us. God knows what is the best into our live married or not, He knows thats the best things.
Dont be worry with the future coz its said :
Matthew 6:26, 28, 33-34 (AKJV) Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much better than they?
And why take you thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin:
But seek you first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added to you.
Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient to the day is the evil thereof.
Focus on God and live happily in Jesus by trusting Him our future is in His hands, He loves us and knows what is the best things in our live amen.
God bless you all amen
Ecclesiastes 3:1 (AKJV) To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
like when we were born, married and die all have the time.
I never be worry when n what age ill get married coz i will let it flow n let it be His way. If we get married thats mean its the season and the best thing for us if not its also the good one for us. God knows what is the best into our live married or not, He knows thats the best things.
Dont be worry with the future coz its said :
Matthew 6:26, 28, 33-34 (AKJV) Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much better than they?
And why take you thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin:
But seek you first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added to you.
Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient to the day is the evil thereof.
Focus on God and live happily in Jesus by trusting Him our future is in His hands, He loves us and knows what is the best things in our live amen.
God bless you all amen
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Well i say no.
Ecclesiastes 3:1 (AKJV) To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
like when we were born, married and die all have the time.
I never be worry when n what age ill get married coz i will let it flow n let it be His way. If we get married thats mean its the season and the best thing for us if not its also the good one for us. God knows what is the best into our live married or not, He knows thats the best things.
Dont be worry with the future coz its said :
Matthew 6:26, 28, 33-34 (AKJV) Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much better than they?
And why take you thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin:
But seek you first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added to you.
Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient to the day is the evil thereof.
Focus on God and live happily in Jesus by trusting Him our future is in His hands, He loves us and knows what is the best things in our live amen.
God bless you all amen
Ecclesiastes 3:1 (AKJV) To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
like when we were born, married and die all have the time.
I never be worry when n what age ill get married coz i will let it flow n let it be His way. If we get married thats mean its the season and the best thing for us if not its also the good one for us. God knows what is the best into our live married or not, He knows thats the best things.
Dont be worry with the future coz its said :
Matthew 6:26, 28, 33-34 (AKJV) Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much better than they?
And why take you thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin:
But seek you first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added to you.
Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient to the day is the evil thereof.
Focus on God and live happily in Jesus by trusting Him our future is in His hands, He loves us and knows what is the best things in our live amen.
God bless you all amen
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So much of this depends upon how your society and culture views marriage. When I lived in southeast Asia there were young college age girls who'd inherited the opinion of "if you're too old to have children, there's no reason to get married". And people routinely asked me when I planned to get married because being in my early 30's at the time I should have been about ready to take anyone who came along just to avoid old maidhood.
Now that I'm back in the US, there just isn't the same pressure, but I think in the US marriage has become something we engage in for personal fulfillment rather than to create and raise a family (both marriage and family responsibility have become much more optional in our culture). That's probably also part of the reason we have higher divorce rates than cultures that are more focused on family and communal identity and obligations than individual rights.
So as some sort of global rule, there is no right age to get married. Practical considerations would be the attitudes in your society towards when and if people marry. Trying to get married outside of the "normal" marriage ages will probably be a bit more difficult and there may be mild (or occasionally severe) prejudices against people who have never married. After taking all that into consideration, you can decide how much effort you want to put into trying to find someone to marry and how soon you think you should do so by.
Now that I'm back in the US, there just isn't the same pressure, but I think in the US marriage has become something we engage in for personal fulfillment rather than to create and raise a family (both marriage and family responsibility have become much more optional in our culture). That's probably also part of the reason we have higher divorce rates than cultures that are more focused on family and communal identity and obligations than individual rights.
So as some sort of global rule, there is no right age to get married. Practical considerations would be the attitudes in your society towards when and if people marry. Trying to get married outside of the "normal" marriage ages will probably be a bit more difficult and there may be mild (or occasionally severe) prejudices against people who have never married. After taking all that into consideration, you can decide how much effort you want to put into trying to find someone to marry and how soon you think you should do so by.
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Well i think marriage is always between two persons.If you are not under the age of eighteen .And before you engage yourself into it you need to have right reasons to get married.not according to these cultures and beliefs which make people make decisions they regret later which leads to many divorces.Age doesnt matter at all.I have seen ladies give normal birth past 35 years.So what matters is not the cultures,beliefs but you as an individual .This doesnt make any sense getting married in your early 20s and get divorced then you remarry in your 30s .
Well i think marriage is always between two persons.If you are not under the age of eighteen .And before you engage yourself into it you need to have right reasons to get married.not according to these cultures and beliefs which make people make decisions they regret later which leads to many divorces.Age doesnt matter at all.I have seen ladies give normal birth past 35 years.So what matters is not the cultures,beliefs but you as an individual .This doesnt make any sense getting married in your early 20s and get divorced then you remarry in your 30s .
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I was married too young. It wasn't so much my age, but my inexperience and lack of self esteem. He on the other hand has plenty of both.
I think if both are young and mature together and are equally yoked it might work wonderfully. It there is an unbalance from the beginning (as with my ex and I) when you get married it will be a bumpy ride.
I have gotten to know women that were married as children. One as young as 9. Her husband was more than 15 years older. She got her first child at 13. This is of course taking it to the extreme, but it is happening in real life. I have never seen a kinder husband and meaner and more twisted and bitter wife as she. It is like she feel obliged to get back on him for her lost childhood.
I wouldn't marry anyone that is too young now. If it is not a God thing. If He is in, I am in.
I think if both are young and mature together and are equally yoked it might work wonderfully. It there is an unbalance from the beginning (as with my ex and I) when you get married it will be a bumpy ride.
I have gotten to know women that were married as children. One as young as 9. Her husband was more than 15 years older. She got her first child at 13. This is of course taking it to the extreme, but it is happening in real life. I have never seen a kinder husband and meaner and more twisted and bitter wife as she. It is like she feel obliged to get back on him for her lost childhood.
I wouldn't marry anyone that is too young now. If it is not a God thing. If He is in, I am in.