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This is not always true. I have been rejected more than once. Sometimes I have been the one rejecting. And contempt has never been a part of it on my part. It is always a sadness on both parts. I have had positive feelings for that person. I have invested love and thoughts to that person. And that doesn't transfer to contempt. I may say something like "this was for the best" or "I knew he wasn't right for me, anyway", but that is the not the same as contempt. Because a part of me would still be with that person and that is bound to hurt.
Sour grapes are refreshing for a minute when feeling down and drained, but it is not the main source of nutrition.
I guess this statement is said by a person that needs to rationalize everything. Rationalizing doesn't give me peace of heart, it doesn't relieve the pain in my heart and it doesn't magically turn my feelings into contempt or even hate. Rationing is just a band aid in the matters of the heart.
Sour grapes are refreshing for a minute when feeling down and drained, but it is not the main source of nutrition.
I guess this statement is said by a person that needs to rationalize everything. Rationalizing doesn't give me peace of heart, it doesn't relieve the pain in my heart and it doesn't magically turn my feelings into contempt or even hate. Rationing is just a band aid in the matters of the heart.
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Nja.
If I think back to the persons I have been most attracted to, it has not been the looks. I remember my husband. When we met it was all glory and he was just all consuming. When people asked me how he looked, I couldn't answer. When I saw photos of him, I didn't recognize him. If I think of the looks I am normally attracted to, he didn't have them. And it didn't matter. When I think of what has been my biggest love, he was everything I could want, but his looks was all I didn't like at all. I never cared for beard. He was proud and would never give up his. I have always liked stereotypical Norwegian skiiers.... tall and lean. He was the opposite. Rather short and heavily overweight. His looks didn't matter at all. Actually I have never been very interested in a person that is blond, tall and lean although that is my preference.
For me the looks fade when I get to know the person's heart. Hopefully one gets the time to get to know my heart and find that attractive, too. I am not very visual, and I am more attract to the way a person speaks and thinks. But I respect people that needs to be physically attracted too. I guess we are just different.
I have been on dates with a persons that, when I first met them, thought they were appalling. The looks were not that bad, but the poisture and attention and how they dressed and everything they conveyed was just a huge turn off. Even the way they walked annoyed me. They were both adoreable to communicate with and one was on paper a true match. But it was nothing there. So I am not saying I am not into looks, either. I would frankly have been ashamed being with them. (I know that sounds terrible).
To conclude. The initial attraction for me is not the looks but the brains, the communication style, the humor, the knowledge and wisdom and most of all their faith. I can't think of anything as beautiful as a man that has a genuine faith and that is spiritfilled. That is true beauty. And when I think of it.... the previously mentioned dates were just Christians in name only. One of them even said he would reject Christ and convert to Islam if he would have to face Islamic terrorists.
If I think back to the persons I have been most attracted to, it has not been the looks. I remember my husband. When we met it was all glory and he was just all consuming. When people asked me how he looked, I couldn't answer. When I saw photos of him, I didn't recognize him. If I think of the looks I am normally attracted to, he didn't have them. And it didn't matter. When I think of what has been my biggest love, he was everything I could want, but his looks was all I didn't like at all. I never cared for beard. He was proud and would never give up his. I have always liked stereotypical Norwegian skiiers.... tall and lean. He was the opposite. Rather short and heavily overweight. His looks didn't matter at all. Actually I have never been very interested in a person that is blond, tall and lean although that is my preference.
For me the looks fade when I get to know the person's heart. Hopefully one gets the time to get to know my heart and find that attractive, too. I am not very visual, and I am more attract to the way a person speaks and thinks. But I respect people that needs to be physically attracted too. I guess we are just different.
I have been on dates with a persons that, when I first met them, thought they were appalling. The looks were not that bad, but the poisture and attention and how they dressed and everything they conveyed was just a huge turn off. Even the way they walked annoyed me. They were both adoreable to communicate with and one was on paper a true match. But it was nothing there. So I am not saying I am not into looks, either. I would frankly have been ashamed being with them. (I know that sounds terrible).
To conclude. The initial attraction for me is not the looks but the brains, the communication style, the humor, the knowledge and wisdom and most of all their faith. I can't think of anything as beautiful as a man that has a genuine faith and that is spiritfilled. That is true beauty. And when I think of it.... the previously mentioned dates were just Christians in name only. One of them even said he would reject Christ and convert to Islam if he would have to face Islamic terrorists.
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Sometimes a person needs to adjust their behavior to avoid to get stuck in their pattern. Sometimes they have to distance themselves.
I think CC is not the same without Tinuviel. But then it wouldn't be the same without LaVieEnRose, either.
I think CC shouldn't be the source of your social life for a longer period of time. Periods of loneliness can be cured here. But we should all try to get a life in the real life. It is sad when people tell me they only have online friends.
We should all support eachother in making a life worth living in Christ. Not online. Tinuviel, I think, knew that. And I am happy for her.
I think CC is not the same without Tinuviel. But then it wouldn't be the same without LaVieEnRose, either.
I think CC shouldn't be the source of your social life for a longer period of time. Periods of loneliness can be cured here. But we should all try to get a life in the real life. It is sad when people tell me they only have online friends.
We should all support eachother in making a life worth living in Christ. Not online. Tinuviel, I think, knew that. And I am happy for her.
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