I can't imagine having to submit to my brothers. I love them, but they're definitely not trustworty enough to submit to. The good news is, if you married, it's not a brother. It's someone you love and trust. Also, someone who is a believer and submits to the Lord.
My husband and I are on equal footing. He hears me. I hear him. We think out decisions made from love for one another, and if there is ever a time when we disagree, then he decides for us. I don't recall that ever happening. I do recall, quite often, either one or the other simply admitting we don't know and don't care enough about what decision is made, so defer to the other. And usually those "heavy weight" decisions have to do with what to watch on TV, what vegetable to have with dinner, what paint for our room, or what plant should replace a dead plant.
As far as I recall the only two things we have never agreed on is if there are aliens on other planets, and who we should have been voted for in the last Presidential primary. Unfortunately, since our state is in the middle of the pact for voting, the guy I wanted to pick was already out of the election. But his guy won.
It really is about love and trust. If I were you, and assuming you trust your pastor, I'd ask him to be my submitter. The chances of you ever needing to outweigh your own decisions are between slim and none, but he'd still be a good guy to talk to if your stuck figuring out an answer.
But do remember, you're never going to marry you brother, which is WHEW! Especially if they're anything like my brothers.
I think the pastor would have his work cut out there. We have 3 pastors for a
church with over 1000 adults in attendance. There is a senior, one who oversees the
youth work and a pastor for the adults generally.
Plus there is a counselling service in the church with trained councillors of
both genders. That requires booking in advance, they are not really their though
as a sounding board for every day decisions.
I would prefer to rely on my Heavenly Father. The whole submitting to
a man just doesn’t work if you are unmarried. Possibly it doesn’t work if you
are married either depending on the couple.
The days seem to be long gone when the husband was considered the head
of the household and was able to make good decisions for his family and hold
everything together in a Godly manner.
A lot over here is probably to do with how society has changed so much, many
single parents raising children without a strong good decent father figure.
Women forced out to work by the government and for financial reasons
while their children are still babies and toddlers. So others are influencing
their children while they are at work.
Even where there is a husband and wife, both have to work to keep a roof over
their head.
Lack of Christian standards generally across the country.
Increased articles of abused women, that’s probably always gone on even in
bible times.
Plus in countries where women are still viewed as property, mostly
Muslim countries, women are abused, lack freedom, etc.
I’m replying to you as you are reasonable and understand where I’m coming
from. Such issues as above are rarely raised when the “women” subject
crops up. Posters woukd rather blame women for all societies woos.
Society at all levels, no longer encourages or for that matter, even makes room
for family life to be run in a Godly manner any more.
I’m glad you found a worthy husband, he is one in a million. 🙂