I am baffled by this whole conversation for the very same reason. Everyone is assuming everyone else is either agreeing or disagreeing with them, but I'm stuck thinking, what is anyone saying?
I do believe there is Hell just as much as I believe there is Heaven. But I know about as much about Hell as Heaven for the same reason. Every explanation of either location in the Bible tries to make some place completely alien to anyone on earth understandable to people who haven't been to either place. It would be easier to understand what the dark side of the moon is like because at least someone has been to the light side of the moon to hazard a guess.
And yet, you all seem to be arguing things we mere humans will never fully comprehend until we get there, as if the destination is the ultimate reason we're leading our lives in this way.
It's not the reason we are. And if it is the reason, then there is a much bigger problem than if there is a hell to face.
Is there no room for "we can't possibly understand it, however I think.... What do you think?"
A meeting of the minds, instead of a digging in of the heels.