Conversation with kids.. An intellectual dilemma.

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Born_Again

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Okay. Here's my dilemma. I'm a single father. I obviously don't mind talking with my kids, but the conversation is always geared towards them and their interest. The short of it, I'm dying for adult conversation. There's a lot to be said for having another adult around the house. On line chatting can only do so much and doesn't compare to an actual in person conversation. I'm not sure if I'm ranting or asking how others in my situation deal with it.. So can anyone relate?
 
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i always appreciate what i have because one day they won't be there so then i will be sorry. :)
 
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I definitely get this. I'm not a single parent, but I'm a stay-at-home mom, and my husband works 5 days a week and also volunteers sometimes. So, there's a heck of a lot of time when it's just me and the kids. It gets pretty lonely, though I would never claim it's as difficult as it is for single parents.

Online interaction does help (hence why I'm always around here posting novels...:unsure::rolleyes:), but it can't beat having a friend or two to chat with on the phone or over a cup of coffee.

I don't have any good ideas...I'm just here to empathize :confused::)
 
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MissCris said:
I definitely get this. I'm not a single parent, but I'm a stay-at-home mom, and my husband works 5 days a week and also volunteers sometimes. So, there's a heck of a lot of time when it's just me and the kids. It gets pretty lonely, though I would never claim it's as difficult as it is for single parents.

Online interaction does help (hence why I'm always around here posting novels...:unsure::rolleyes:), but it can't beat having a friend or two to chat with on the phone or over a cup of coffee.

I don't have any good ideas...I'm just here to empathize :confused::)
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I do appreciate the empathy.
 
Demi777

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Be glad u didnt have me when I was ittle. I kept outsmarting my father LOL
How old is/are your kid/s?
 
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Yep, I think every stay at home/single parent ever has had this. I get it just from babysitting for a day or two. I adore children. I talk to children more fluidly than I talk to adults. But sometimes...ya just need an adult to talk to.

Do you have family you can talk on the phone to? People from church who would appreciate a phone call? If you don't have a church home, that's where I would start. Even just Sunday morning fellowship can be a big refuel. Of course, I wouldn't know because during fellowship I'm talking to kids, to give the parents a chance for some adult conversation ;). But so they say... lol. If you're me visiting face-to-face is better than phone, but not always possible; and if you're really hurting for conversation, it's a good place to start.
 
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It's an extremely common issue for single parents. It doen't mean you don't love or appreciate your kids, it means you are a person that has various elements that make you up. One is parent, but another is adult needing adult social interaction. Perhaps look around your area for groups containing single parents. Or if you know others, get your kids together for play dates and chat with the other parents while you both watch the kids. It's really a matter of you looking around your area for options as a single parent.
 
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I am dying for kids conversation 😂 watching children talk and play...made my day 😄

Nothing much I can tell you about your situation.....
...because deep inside me I am dying to hear kids sweet little voices trying to have a conversation with me asking me innocent questions 😂 making me laugh with their natural humor and shock me with their openness and innocent honest words 😄 yayy how I love to be around with little kids especially if those kids will call me "mama" 😍 but I don't have any 😭
 
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I talk to a lot of kids, but then I send them home. My sister is a stay at home mommy of 2 under the age of 3, so I can sympathize with you... her husband works nights and she often says it makes her feel like a single parent and if she hears one more Littlefoot song she's gonna barf.


Maybe thats why she wants me around all the time..... hmm...
 
Lynx

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I don't know about Littlefoot songs. When I was a little kid my mother played Steve Camp and David Meece and we loved it. Keith Green too.
 
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Born_Again said:
Okay. Here's my dilemma. I'm a single father. I obviously don't mind talking with my kids, but the conversation is always geared towards them and their interest. The short of it, I'm dying for adult conversation. There's a lot to be said for having another adult around the house. On line chatting can only do so much and doesn't compare to an actual in person conversation. I'm not sure if I'm ranting or asking how others in my situation deal with it.. So can anyone relate?
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After my divorce in 1984 I was alone and celibate for 18 years. So yes, I can definitely relate. There is nothing wrong with having a loving and faithful wife to come home to after a hard day's work. She might even massage your back and tell you everything is going to be OK.

Talking with your kids is a good thing but it is not the same as sharing an intimate and romantic experience with your sweet honey. It's not even close, especially when your kids are adults and living their own lives. It is good to have a best friend and traveling companion on one's spiritual life journey. It's not good to be alone. Even God agrees with that.
 
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Sweetmorningdew78 said:
I am dying for kids conversation 😂 watching children talk and play...made my day 😄

Nothing much I can tell you about your situation.....
...because deep inside me I am dying to hear kids sweet little voices trying to have a conversation with me asking me innocent questions 😂 making me laugh with their natural humor and shock me with their openness and innocent honest words 😄 yayy how I love to be around with little kids especially if those kids will call me "mama" 😍 but I don't have any 😭
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Perhaps you do have kids in the sense that God may allow you to interact with the little innocent ones that He may send your way, and one of them may even consider you mama even if only a moment.
 
blue_ladybug

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Now I can cross washing the dishes off my to-do list.. lol

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Born_Again

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I am the only person my age at church and at work. I use to belong to a much larger church but I left it because I wasn't growing spiritually. On my days off I have my kids. Hence my conflict.
 
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Born_Again said:
I am the only person my age at church and at work. I use to belong to a much larger church but I left it because I wasn't growing spiritually. On my days off I have my kids. Hence my conflict.
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You just never know who you are going to meet if your heart is open to this and I believe that it is. Perhaps there is a single member on this site that has crossed your interest. Of course, you could simply give your phone number to the sweet woman behind the counter that is taking your money for your coffee, or God forbid, Diet Pepsi. It's always a good sign when she is not wearing a ring on her ring finger. That used to be the first thing that I would always check.
 
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tourist said:
You just never know who you are going to meet if your heart is open to this and I believe that it is. Perhaps there is a single member on this site that has crossed your interest. Of course, you could simply give your phone number to the sweet woman behind the counter that is taking your money for your coffee, or God forbid, Diet Pepsi. It's always a good sign when she is not wearing a ring on her ring finger. That used to be the first thing that I would always check.
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😂😂😂 yea I always glance at the left hand.
 
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loverofjesus27

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loverofjesus27 said:
i always appreciate what i have because one day they won't be there so then i will be sorry. :)
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I was talking of my nieces. I don’t have kids. And i’ve never been married.
 
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Sweetmorningdew78 said:
I am dying for kids conversation 😂 watching children talk and play...made my day 😄

Nothing much I can tell you about your situation.....
...because deep inside me I am dying to hear kids sweet little voices trying to have a conversation with me asking me innocent questions 😂 making me laugh with their natural humor and shock me with their openness and innocent honest words 😄 yayy how I love to be around with little kids especially if those kids will call me "mama" 😍 but I don't have any 😭
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I can relate to @Sweetmorningdew78 , its like going to a spa plus we talk about nonsense.
 
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Born_Again said:
Okay. Here's my dilemma. I'm a single father. I obviously don't mind talking with my kids, but the conversation is always geared towards them and their interest. The short of it, I'm dying for adult conversation. There's a lot to be said for having another adult around the house. On line chatting can only do so much and doesn't compare to an actual in person conversation. I'm not sure if I'm ranting or asking how others in my situation deal with it.. So can anyone relate?
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When you talk to your kids it's always about THEIR interests?

I think we've found the problem... your kids are acting completely self centered... and that's just childish if you ask me.
You're obviously spoiling them.
I bet they don't even have respectable jobs at a good factory yet.
Do you make them get out into the cold, hard world each day, and work their little fingers to the bone to bring home the bacon?
No?
Do you even make them pay rent, or buy their own food, or pay to use the toilet?
No?
I didn't think so.

This is what happens when parents spoil their kids.

It always starts with little things.
Maybe a kid wants his night light and doesn't want to pay you for the electricity... and you give in.

Then the kid wants food, not just now and then, but ALL THE TIME, and you actually GIVE IT TO HIM... and you don't even charge him.

Pretty soon the kid is in 3rd or 4th grade, and he wants to go to school, and frolic with the other lazy children instead of getting a job in a good respectable factory or a coal mine.
Shameful.
Just shameful.

Then before you know it, the kid is all the way to 6th grade, and instead of having a good miner's cough, he's still living at home and mooching off his parents.



If those kids were up at the crack of dawn heading to their job at the coal mine....
you wouldn't be having all these childish conversations with them.

Problem solved.




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maxwel said:
When you talk to your kids it's always about THEIR interests?

I think we've found the problem... your kids are acting completely self centered... and that's just childish if you ask me.
You're obviously spoiling them.
I bet they don't even have respectable jobs at a good factory yet.
Do you make them get out into the cold, hard world each day, and work their little fingers to the bone to bring home the bacon?
No?
Do you even make them pay rent, or buy their own food, or pay to use the toilet?
No?
I didn't think so.

This is what happens when parents spoil their kids.

It always starts with little things.
Maybe a kid wants his night light and doesn't want to pay you for the electricity... and you give in.

Then the kid wants food, not just now and then, but ALL THE TIME, and you actually GIVE IT TO HIM... and you don't even charge him.

Pretty soon the kid is in 3rd or 4th grade, and he wants to go to school, and frolic with the other lazy children instead of getting a job in a good respectable factory or a coal mine.
Shameful.
Just shameful.

Then before you know it, the kid is all the way to 6th grade, and instead of having a good miner's cough, he's still living at home and mooching off his parents.



If those kids were up at the crack of dawn heading to their job at the coal mine....
you wouldn't be having all these childish conversations with them.

Problem solved.




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😂😂😂 That's it!! Why didn't I think of that? Brilliant!!
 
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