I will never be in a relationship and it makes me sad
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thanks for you reply.
you say 20 flaws....but i have 100+ flaws and many of these flaws are severe and i can only fix perhaps a dozen of my small flaws but even that will be very hard.
my perspective is not off, only because your was it does not mean its the same for me, we are not the same person.
our own worst critics? people have been telling me since i was a child what a useless loser i am. just some exemples:
"the worst thing someone can be is you"
"why bother dating? why would any woman want you?"
"you will be alone your whole life and you know it!"
yes, when people look at me they will see my flaws. i seen many people laughing at me in street. since i have as many flaws as i have this is the reason to why people are avoiding me, there is no other reason. i am not intresting enough to have as a friend/boyfriend, in fact people feel emberasment/uncomfortable when with me. why would anyone want a ugly boring loser guy as their friend/bf? heck, many are afraid of me, they think that because i am so alone, so ugly, so weird it means that i am a socipath.
true, why would anyone spend much time thinking about a random guy? problem is, i am not random, i am probaly the weirdest, most boring, biggest loser and one of the most ugly guys they have ever seen.
i dont moan about having no friends...its just in this thread where i am anymous.
you say 20 flaws....but i have 100+ flaws and many of these flaws are severe and i can only fix perhaps a dozen of my small flaws but even that will be very hard.
my perspective is not off, only because your was it does not mean its the same for me, we are not the same person.
our own worst critics? people have been telling me since i was a child what a useless loser i am. just some exemples:
"the worst thing someone can be is you"
"why bother dating? why would any woman want you?"
"you will be alone your whole life and you know it!"
yes, when people look at me they will see my flaws. i seen many people laughing at me in street. since i have as many flaws as i have this is the reason to why people are avoiding me, there is no other reason. i am not intresting enough to have as a friend/boyfriend, in fact people feel emberasment/uncomfortable when with me. why would anyone want a ugly boring loser guy as their friend/bf? heck, many are afraid of me, they think that because i am so alone, so ugly, so weird it means that i am a socipath.
true, why would anyone spend much time thinking about a random guy? problem is, i am not random, i am probaly the weirdest, most boring, biggest loser and one of the most ugly guys they have ever seen.
i dont moan about having no friends...its just in this thread where i am anymous.
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To OP: I've took the time to read this whole thread, and...I can't really figure out what you want from the rest of us.
If you wanted to figure out how to cope with being single for life, then I shall say that it's probably not as bad as you think it is. There are people on this site, and also on this thread, who have been single for their entire life (and they're fine with that, too), and they're older than you. So it is possible to live like this.
If you're worried about your appearance, there are a range of inexpensive cosmetic products that can be easily found at your nearby Guardian/Watsons store that might be of some use to you. Take a look around the next time you see one. Also, if you're that insecure about your body, try wearing long-sleeved garments or baggy jeans to look more presentable (Before people here blow up at me for instructing someone on how to change their appearance, I just want to figure out what this guy's asking as much as you do, okay?).
...Or if you're just here to complain, this site is not the place to do it.
If you wanted to figure out how to cope with being single for life, then I shall say that it's probably not as bad as you think it is. There are people on this site, and also on this thread, who have been single for their entire life (and they're fine with that, too), and they're older than you. So it is possible to live like this.
If you're worried about your appearance, there are a range of inexpensive cosmetic products that can be easily found at your nearby Guardian/Watsons store that might be of some use to you. Take a look around the next time you see one. Also, if you're that insecure about your body, try wearing long-sleeved garments or baggy jeans to look more presentable (Before people here blow up at me for instructing someone on how to change their appearance, I just want to figure out what this guy's asking as much as you do, okay?).
...Or if you're just here to complain, this site is not the place to do it.
You're missing the point, the point was that people have more than 1-3 flaws to your 100+ and that you don't know the full extent of anyone else's flaws but thinking that everyone else has it so much easier than you in life is simply not an accurate view of reality.
Were these people worth listening to? People saying terrible things about you doesn't make them true.
Were these people worth listening to? People saying terrible things about you doesn't make them true.
never said everyone has eazier than me, there is a small number of people who have as many flaws as me and even worse. but i am at the bottom of the lake for sure.
it is reality becaue how many people are 26 and been friendless since 17? how is it possible that in my whole adult life nobody has ever liked me? for 9 years i lived in total loneliness and i dont see any reason to why it should end. my life is not normal. very few people are as alone as i am in my age. why do people avoid me then? there can only be 2 reasons, boring weird personality and very bad looks. why do everyone in my church have/had friends/partner? think about that for a second.
well, these persons who said these mean things where saying the truth, i am the one making this thread, not them. they have normal lifes with friends and partners, i am alone.
it is reality becaue how many people are 26 and been friendless since 17? how is it possible that in my whole adult life nobody has ever liked me? for 9 years i lived in total loneliness and i dont see any reason to why it should end. my life is not normal. very few people are as alone as i am in my age. why do people avoid me then? there can only be 2 reasons, boring weird personality and very bad looks. why do everyone in my church have/had friends/partner? think about that for a second.
well, these persons who said these mean things where saying the truth, i am the one making this thread, not them. they have normal lifes with friends and partners, i am alone.
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What cinder said was right. We do not need to listen to or remember what arent worth listening to. Sure, we cannot humanly forget all, but there is the verse we all can live with on a daily basis: Forgetting the past [years/days/hour/minute etc], i run straight toward the goal, which is life in union with Christ Jesus.
May i suggest u also explore and develop ur gifts and talents from the Lord? You can write, can't u? Or other... When u are able to help others w/ ur gifts and abilities, u do not have to dwell too much on ur faults and weaknesses. Learn and memorize Scripture to use in various times and occasions.. proverbs have esp been helpful to me. When u excel... i mean, u have experienced that to some extent, have u not? Strive to excel for the Lord, in whatever ur hands find to do-- cooking, cleaning, singing (yes, did u ever try to exercise ur vocal chords and discover u can=), walking or using ur feet to bring good news! Then u will realize ur big old feet are beautiful after all, not just to the Lord, but to others as well. U might as well drop by the other forums and learn with, and befriend others here.
Cheer up! and chin up, J.
May i suggest u also explore and develop ur gifts and talents from the Lord? You can write, can't u? Or other... When u are able to help others w/ ur gifts and abilities, u do not have to dwell too much on ur faults and weaknesses. Learn and memorize Scripture to use in various times and occasions.. proverbs have esp been helpful to me. When u excel... i mean, u have experienced that to some extent, have u not? Strive to excel for the Lord, in whatever ur hands find to do-- cooking, cleaning, singing (yes, did u ever try to exercise ur vocal chords and discover u can=), walking or using ur feet to bring good news! Then u will realize ur big old feet are beautiful after all, not just to the Lord, but to others as well. U might as well drop by the other forums and learn with, and befriend others here.
Cheer up! and chin up, J.
There is a time for everything. If u lived lonely for 9 yrs, u do not know another has for 10... Lets say one of those in bold are true, being bored and weird can be changed, no? If ur so comfortable to being boring... try making life more interesting and easy for another.. more lonely.or destitute. or sick than u? Can u imagine bringing a smile to a bedridden person by bringing cookies, fresh juice, flowers, whatever. Just being able to walk out of ur house to work is a great blessing we can take for granted. I like to bake, but my own children sometimes have had enough of some recipes, so i bring or share these w/ others who could appreciate a little work and time given to make them=).
Who cared if other people like you and stuff He does and that's what matters all these superficial things yea normal people care about we are vain in many ways but your negative attitude toward yourself isn't going to help, i know you feel bad i get it but your actions are what make you beautiful, I can't guarantee you'll find someone or anything like that but i can say that you'll be more beautiful then ever I can't help but admire people who are loving and caring and regardless of the odds they still manage to glorify and love God and be happy who cares if normal les like me are attracted to you care about The One who loves you, read the song of Solomon He really loves us and that's what matters.
i can not change what god gave me,,,i have my personality, "my self", just like you have one. mine just happens to be boring and weird 
. lately i have tried to be very social on internet and finding some christian friends, all contact i made (over 100) have failed .
. lately i have tried to be very social on internet and finding some christian friends, all contact i made (over 100) have failed .
"The perception most have of their attractiveness is distorted; try to make yourself presentable then think no more about it." Almost everyone thinks they look somewhat ugly.
Start another thread and talk about how you love the Lord; develop you conversation skills. You might be surprised at the outcome.
God did NOT give you this lousy, poor me oh woe is me attitude.. That's something you've given yourself.. No one likes being around someone who does nothing but moan and whine about themselves all the time, as you have done here since you joined...
i can not change what god gave me,,,i have my personality, "my self", just like you have one. mine just happens to be boring and weird . lately i have tried to be very social on internet and finding some christian friends, all contact i made (over 100) have failed .
. lately i have tried to be very social on internet and finding some christian friends, all contact i made (over 100) have failed .
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i can not change what god gave me,,,i have my personality, "my self", just like you have one. mine just happens to be boring and weird . lately i have tried to be very social on internet and finding some christian friends, all contact i made (over 100) have failed .
. lately i have tried to be very social on internet and finding some christian friends, all contact i made (over 100) have failed .
Do you know of someone that could help you? Someone you could go to?
Du vet, det är inte så lätt för andra människor att se dig, och vad för problemer du har. Dom kann inte vita annat end vad du tillåter dom att vita. Om du säger att du är en idiot, så vill andra lätt tänka att ja visst fan är han en tosse, och sen blir det så. Därför är det viktigt att man inte bara klagar över allt som är fel.
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