I will never be in a relationship and it makes me sad
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Maybe the problem is that you only see the flaws in yourself, every thing on your list is negative.
Try getting out and doing volunteer work. I was watching Gods not dead, last night.
They are right about one thing, To the wrong person you will never be good enough.
Just wait on God he will bring someone in his time if it's his will. In the mean time, Why don't you take time to get to know yourself and find something good about yourself. You sound like the kind of guy whose been knocked down one too many times in life.
By the way, He didn't give you flaws, flaws a re a result of living in a fallen creation because of what happened in the garden of Eden. Also He didn't make people shallow, People have been trained and conditioned by years of propaganda in tv, movies and commercial advertising to focus on the surface, and not to look at a persons heart.
If you remember, Jesus didn't care about peoples looks he cared about their souls, and their Spiritual state.
Try getting out and doing volunteer work. I was watching Gods not dead, last night.
They are right about one thing, To the wrong person you will never be good enough.
Just wait on God he will bring someone in his time if it's his will. In the mean time, Why don't you take time to get to know yourself and find something good about yourself. You sound like the kind of guy whose been knocked down one too many times in life.
By the way, He didn't give you flaws, flaws a re a result of living in a fallen creation because of what happened in the garden of Eden. Also He didn't make people shallow, People have been trained and conditioned by years of propaganda in tv, movies and commercial advertising to focus on the surface, and not to look at a persons heart.
If you remember, Jesus didn't care about peoples looks he cared about their souls, and their Spiritual state.
bad posture (back and neck, born with it did not get it from too much sitting infront of computer etc) - stretch your back and shoulders and practice good posture in front of a mirror....
extremely red lips (looks like lipstick) -
little head. - dress to make your head look not small.... by wearing smaller clothes not loose/baggy
big and deformed nose. - consider rhinoplasty?
bushy eyebrows. - use an eyebrow trimmer
walking strange. - practice walking straight
crooked foot. - get special orthotics (aka shoe pads)
ptosis/lazy eye. - get your eyes tested and high perscription glasses
my skin is terrible. - use skin cleanser or turmeric paste
i have a weird way of looking with my eyes. -get eyes tested
acne. - skin cleanser/turmeric
deformed fingers (they are crooked) - wear gloves when applicable....
Both legs looks strange. - practice walking
extremely skinny arms. - eat meat/protein and work out
long forehead, - wear a cap
birthmarks in the face. -use makeup or get them removed via facial peel
incredible bad at talking with people (i suspect that I have some kind of light damage to the brain) - practice talking online via skype chat/video to others and then with real people
weird voice. - sing/voice training to expand your vocal range
hairy. - shave or trim
unibrow. - eyebrow trimmer
skin that protrudes at the nails. - idk what is meant here....but keep nails short and clean (woman like clean/hygienic men not raggedy ones)...
Hiatus hernia. - get that removed or treated by a doc
strange / ugly hair. - style it with gel/color
big ears. - wear earmuffs or dress to make your ears smaller by wearing a cowboy hat or cap
virgin and unkissed even though I'm so old. - lol you should be proud to be a virgin and also kissing does not cause you to lose your virginity (my aunt kissed me on the cheek......i still have my virginity
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Not had friends irl for 12 years. I do have 2 internet friends thought (2 guys who are like me) - go get some friends whether online or in a church group
Dyslexia. - do speech or reading therapy....
stupid, low iq. - read if not books then at least from reputable sites on the internet like encyclopedia brittanica or others...the more you read the more you learn.
poor eyesight. - glasses/contacts
afraid of dogs and cats. - go to an animal shelter or where there are therapy dogs/cats and interact with them...
will never have a good job and never have a lot of money. - look for a small job as a starting step and then move onto a bigger one....via study or work
sometimes there are a lot of embarrassing random leak and saliva out of my mouth. - use medication to dry up your mouth or eat foods that dry up your mouth ...
ugly looking teeth and they are yellow. - brush with colgate total, baking soda and also see a dentist if applicable...
Sometimes I stammer. - practice talking in front of a mirror to gain confidence....
blinks a lot with the eyes. - stop blinking or get checked for dry eyes ( sometimes dry eyes make you blink a lot to rewet the eyeball)
licking my lips alot. - chapstick
extreme dandruff (no schampoo helps me) = coconut oil or baby oil on the head for a week will improve it....wash off with shampoo (do this before a shower/bath)
sweats a lot and often, i use soap and rollon and try different versions .... but of course its not working. - coconut oil, change your diet so you dont stink...meat heavy diets make a person smell very bad....use more vegetables/fruits to clean up your scent...
Snores loud/weird according to my brothers. I sound like a car (?) - lose weight if applicable....sleep on your side to breathe better airflow into your mouth....
sleeping problems. Whick makes me look tired and sad. - go to bed early...or take 1 tsp of benadryl (if not allergic) or other sleep aid like unisom
no clothes suits me. I look ugly in everything. - get a stylist or ask someone/friend to help you style
long neck. - wear a scarf....or jacket with high collars
Etc. I can just keep going. I tried everything to fix my flaws but nothing is working. How i am supposed to live a normal life with all these flaws. I dont ever see myself getting friends and a wife. People are shallow. Why did god give me so many flaws and made people so shallow.
extremely red lips (looks like lipstick) -
little head. - dress to make your head look not small.... by wearing smaller clothes not loose/baggy
big and deformed nose. - consider rhinoplasty?
bushy eyebrows. - use an eyebrow trimmer
walking strange. - practice walking straight
crooked foot. - get special orthotics (aka shoe pads)
ptosis/lazy eye. - get your eyes tested and high perscription glasses
my skin is terrible. - use skin cleanser or turmeric paste
i have a weird way of looking with my eyes. -get eyes tested
acne. - skin cleanser/turmeric
deformed fingers (they are crooked) - wear gloves when applicable....
Both legs looks strange. - practice walking
extremely skinny arms. - eat meat/protein and work out
long forehead, - wear a cap
birthmarks in the face. -use makeup or get them removed via facial peel
incredible bad at talking with people (i suspect that I have some kind of light damage to the brain) - practice talking online via skype chat/video to others and then with real people
weird voice. - sing/voice training to expand your vocal range
hairy. - shave or trim
unibrow. - eyebrow trimmer
skin that protrudes at the nails. - idk what is meant here....but keep nails short and clean (woman like clean/hygienic men not raggedy ones)...
Hiatus hernia. - get that removed or treated by a doc
strange / ugly hair. - style it with gel/color
big ears. - wear earmuffs or dress to make your ears smaller by wearing a cowboy hat or cap
virgin and unkissed even though I'm so old. - lol you should be proud to be a virgin and also kissing does not cause you to lose your virginity (my aunt kissed me on the cheek......i still have my virginity
)Not had friends irl for 12 years. I do have 2 internet friends thought (2 guys who are like me) - go get some friends whether online or in a church group
Dyslexia. - do speech or reading therapy....
stupid, low iq. - read if not books then at least from reputable sites on the internet like encyclopedia brittanica or others...the more you read the more you learn.
poor eyesight. - glasses/contacts
afraid of dogs and cats. - go to an animal shelter or where there are therapy dogs/cats and interact with them...
will never have a good job and never have a lot of money. - look for a small job as a starting step and then move onto a bigger one....via study or work
sometimes there are a lot of embarrassing random leak and saliva out of my mouth. - use medication to dry up your mouth or eat foods that dry up your mouth ...
ugly looking teeth and they are yellow. - brush with colgate total, baking soda and also see a dentist if applicable...
Sometimes I stammer. - practice talking in front of a mirror to gain confidence....
blinks a lot with the eyes. - stop blinking or get checked for dry eyes ( sometimes dry eyes make you blink a lot to rewet the eyeball)
licking my lips alot. - chapstick
extreme dandruff (no schampoo helps me) = coconut oil or baby oil on the head for a week will improve it....wash off with shampoo (do this before a shower/bath)
sweats a lot and often, i use soap and rollon and try different versions .... but of course its not working. - coconut oil, change your diet so you dont stink...meat heavy diets make a person smell very bad....use more vegetables/fruits to clean up your scent...
Snores loud/weird according to my brothers. I sound like a car (?) - lose weight if applicable....sleep on your side to breathe better airflow into your mouth....
sleeping problems. Whick makes me look tired and sad. - go to bed early...or take 1 tsp of benadryl (if not allergic) or other sleep aid like unisom
no clothes suits me. I look ugly in everything. - get a stylist or ask someone/friend to help you style
long neck. - wear a scarf....or jacket with high collars
Etc. I can just keep going. I tried everything to fix my flaws but nothing is working. How i am supposed to live a normal life with all these flaws. I dont ever see myself getting friends and a wife. People are shallow. Why did god give me so many flaws and made people so shallow.
I have put a solution to each problem in the above ...also i seriously hope you are not doign this to troll or else that is really lame to make a woe is me thread just to troll CC users....just saying.....[/QUOTE]
i already done all this, and its not working. and no i am not trolling, i am really this much of a loser.
J
bad posture (back and neck, born with it did not get it from too much sitting infront of computer etc) - stretch your back and shoulders and practice good posture in front of a mirror....
extremely red lips (looks like lipstick) -
little head. - dress to make your head look not small.... by wearing smaller clothes not loose/baggy
big and deformed nose. - consider rhinoplasty?
bushy eyebrows. - use an eyebrow trimmer
walking strange. - practice walking straight
crooked foot. - get special orthotics (aka shoe pads)
ptosis/lazy eye. - get your eyes tested and high perscription glasses
my skin is terrible. - use skin cleanser or turmeric paste
i have a weird way of looking with my eyes. -get eyes tested
acne. - skin cleanser/turmeric
deformed fingers (they are crooked) - wear gloves when applicable....
Both legs looks strange. - practice walking
extremely skinny arms. - eat meat/protein and work out
long forehead, - wear a cap
birthmarks in the face. -use makeup or get them removed via facial peel
incredible bad at talking with people (i suspect that I have some kind of light damage to the brain) - practice talking online via skype chat/video to others and then with real people
weird voice. - sing/voice training to expand your vocal range
hairy. - shave or trim
unibrow. - eyebrow trimmer
skin that protrudes at the nails. - idk what is meant here....but keep nails short and clean (woman like clean/hygienic men not raggedy ones)...
Hiatus hernia. - get that removed or treated by a doc
strange / ugly hair. - style it with gel/color
big ears. - wear earmuffs or dress to make your ears smaller by wearing a cowboy hat or cap
virgin and unkissed even though I'm so old. - lol you should be proud to be a virgin and also kissing does not cause you to lose your virginity (my aunt kissed me on the cheek......i still have my virginity)
Not had friends irl for 12 years. I do have 2 internet friends thought (2 guys who are like me) - go get some friends whether online or in a church group
Dyslexia. - do speech or reading therapy....
stupid, low iq. - read if not books then at least from reputable sites on the internet like encyclopedia brittanica or others...the more you read the more you learn.
poor eyesight. - glasses/contacts
afraid of dogs and cats. - go to an animal shelter or where there are therapy dogs/cats and interact with them...
will never have a good job and never have a lot of money. - look for a small job as a starting step and then move onto a bigger one....via study or work
sometimes there are a lot of embarrassing random leak and saliva out of my mouth. - use medication to dry up your mouth or eat foods that dry up your mouth ...
ugly looking teeth and they are yellow. - brush with colgate total, baking soda and also see a dentist if applicable...
Sometimes I stammer. - practice talking in front of a mirror to gain confidence....
blinks a lot with the eyes. - stop blinking or get checked for dry eyes ( sometimes dry eyes make you blink a lot to rewet the eyeball)
licking my lips alot. - chapstick
extreme dandruff (no schampoo helps me) = coconut oil or baby oil on the head for a week will improve it....wash off with shampoo (do this before a shower/bath)
sweats a lot and often, i use soap and rollon and try different versions .... but of course its not working. - coconut oil, change your diet so you dont stink...meat heavy diets make a person smell very bad....use more vegetables/fruits to clean up your scent...
Snores loud/weird according to my brothers. I sound like a car (?) - lose weight if applicable....sleep on your side to breathe better airflow into your mouth....
sleeping problems. Whick makes me look tired and sad. - go to bed early...or take 1 tsp of benadryl (if not allergic) or other sleep aid like unisom
no clothes suits me. I look ugly in everything. - get a stylist or ask someone/friend to help you style
long neck. - wear a scarf....or jacket with high collars
Etc. I can just keep going. I tried everything to fix my flaws but nothing is working. How i am supposed to live a normal life with all these flaws. I dont ever see myself getting friends and a wife. People are shallow. Why did god give me so many flaws and made people so shallow.
extremely red lips (looks like lipstick) -
little head. - dress to make your head look not small.... by wearing smaller clothes not loose/baggy
big and deformed nose. - consider rhinoplasty?
bushy eyebrows. - use an eyebrow trimmer
walking strange. - practice walking straight
crooked foot. - get special orthotics (aka shoe pads)
ptosis/lazy eye. - get your eyes tested and high perscription glasses
my skin is terrible. - use skin cleanser or turmeric paste
i have a weird way of looking with my eyes. -get eyes tested
acne. - skin cleanser/turmeric
deformed fingers (they are crooked) - wear gloves when applicable....
Both legs looks strange. - practice walking
extremely skinny arms. - eat meat/protein and work out
long forehead, - wear a cap
birthmarks in the face. -use makeup or get them removed via facial peel
incredible bad at talking with people (i suspect that I have some kind of light damage to the brain) - practice talking online via skype chat/video to others and then with real people
weird voice. - sing/voice training to expand your vocal range
hairy. - shave or trim
unibrow. - eyebrow trimmer
skin that protrudes at the nails. - idk what is meant here....but keep nails short and clean (woman like clean/hygienic men not raggedy ones)...
Hiatus hernia. - get that removed or treated by a doc
strange / ugly hair. - style it with gel/color
big ears. - wear earmuffs or dress to make your ears smaller by wearing a cowboy hat or cap
virgin and unkissed even though I'm so old. - lol you should be proud to be a virgin and also kissing does not cause you to lose your virginity (my aunt kissed me on the cheek......i still have my virginity
)Not had friends irl for 12 years. I do have 2 internet friends thought (2 guys who are like me) - go get some friends whether online or in a church group
Dyslexia. - do speech or reading therapy....
stupid, low iq. - read if not books then at least from reputable sites on the internet like encyclopedia brittanica or others...the more you read the more you learn.
poor eyesight. - glasses/contacts
afraid of dogs and cats. - go to an animal shelter or where there are therapy dogs/cats and interact with them...
will never have a good job and never have a lot of money. - look for a small job as a starting step and then move onto a bigger one....via study or work
sometimes there are a lot of embarrassing random leak and saliva out of my mouth. - use medication to dry up your mouth or eat foods that dry up your mouth ...
ugly looking teeth and they are yellow. - brush with colgate total, baking soda and also see a dentist if applicable...
Sometimes I stammer. - practice talking in front of a mirror to gain confidence....
blinks a lot with the eyes. - stop blinking or get checked for dry eyes ( sometimes dry eyes make you blink a lot to rewet the eyeball)
licking my lips alot. - chapstick
extreme dandruff (no schampoo helps me) = coconut oil or baby oil on the head for a week will improve it....wash off with shampoo (do this before a shower/bath)
sweats a lot and often, i use soap and rollon and try different versions .... but of course its not working. - coconut oil, change your diet so you dont stink...meat heavy diets make a person smell very bad....use more vegetables/fruits to clean up your scent...
Snores loud/weird according to my brothers. I sound like a car (?) - lose weight if applicable....sleep on your side to breathe better airflow into your mouth....
sleeping problems. Whick makes me look tired and sad. - go to bed early...or take 1 tsp of benadryl (if not allergic) or other sleep aid like unisom
no clothes suits me. I look ugly in everything. - get a stylist or ask someone/friend to help you style
long neck. - wear a scarf....or jacket with high collars
Etc. I can just keep going. I tried everything to fix my flaws but nothing is working. How i am supposed to live a normal life with all these flaws. I dont ever see myself getting friends and a wife. People are shallow. Why did god give me so many flaws and made people so shallow.
I have put a solution to each problem in the above ...also i seriously hope you are not doign this to troll or else that is really lame to make a woe is me thread just to troll CC users....just saying.....[/QUOTE]
Good answers and I can vouch for a "changed diet" changing "sweat problems" along with "deodorant" I used to eat "junk food" and sweat "a lot" even with deodorant and got called to the school clinic to put more on.
yes, i have all those flaws. even if i had a relationship and friends i would still be aware of the flaws. the fact that i am 26 and never been with a woman and not had a friend since i was 17 i just proof that people are aware of my flaws and want nothing to do with me.
why is your world insanity ?
why is your world insanity ?
Good answers and I can vouch for a "changed diet" changing "sweat problems" along with "deodorant" I used to eat "junk food" and sweat "a lot" even with deodorant and got called to the school clinic to put more on.[/QUOTE]
I dont think ur weird but if u start to wear make up like suggested, theb even I think ur weird and that would be an accomplishment
I dont think ur weird but if u start to wear make up like suggested, theb even I think ur weird and that would be an accomplishment
My entire life, I watch people get into a situation, take a course of action, and get a certain result. I get into that situation, take that course of action, and what results from it can only be described as pure insanity. It's like I'm a human brain-wave jammer... people get within radio range of me and their brains just go haywire and they do things they would never even think of doing with other people.
Please, there isn't a person on this forum who would stop at 3 flaws if they had to list all their flaws. I could come up with 20 easy for myself. But I also know that for many of those if I told another person, they'd tell me my perspective was off and that I wasn't as bad as I thought I was. We're all our own worst critics and only those with serious issues find no flaws in themselves (and their perceptions about themselves aren't accurate either).
So are you suggesting that everyone in the world is keenly aware of your flaws and actively avoiding you and that's why you have no friends? That's a load of BS. I'll tell you right now, most people, even if we limit it to people that have met you, aren't spending that much time thinking about you. The thing about friends is 1) most friends / acquaintances are surface level friends, the kind of people you get together to share an interest with but wouldn't tell your problems to or ask for advice 2) As CS Lewis so brilliantly said... there has to be something for the friendship to be about. You'll never make friends by bemoaning your lack of friends. 3) Deeper level friends are harder to come by for almost everyone, and those may be friendships that last years, but after they've been established you may only talk or interact once every few months and it takes a lot of effort to keep in touch.
Also the post high school / university young adult years are difficult for forming friendships because for the first time in your life you aren't institutionalized and forced to socialize with your peers who are all going through the same life experiences you are.
So are you suggesting that everyone in the world is keenly aware of your flaws and actively avoiding you and that's why you have no friends? That's a load of BS. I'll tell you right now, most people, even if we limit it to people that have met you, aren't spending that much time thinking about you. The thing about friends is 1) most friends / acquaintances are surface level friends, the kind of people you get together to share an interest with but wouldn't tell your problems to or ask for advice 2) As CS Lewis so brilliantly said... there has to be something for the friendship to be about. You'll never make friends by bemoaning your lack of friends. 3) Deeper level friends are harder to come by for almost everyone, and those may be friendships that last years, but after they've been established you may only talk or interact once every few months and it takes a lot of effort to keep in touch.
Also the post high school / university young adult years are difficult for forming friendships because for the first time in your life you aren't institutionalized and forced to socialize with your peers who are all going through the same life experiences you are.