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SimIqbal

SimIqbal

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Me and my girlfriend have been together for 1 year, we have had a sexual past like she is my first kiss of course. We’ve never had sex though. Me and her are very protective of each over. We do sexual history other than kissing but I am not saying what we did as it is unnecessary, the most I can say is everything but sex. Recently we started arguing a lot over tiny reasons, and I’m trying to revive these arguments by making us forgot our sexual past together and move on TOGETHER in the name of god. It is very hard to not be sexual again as we would send sexual text messages a lot. Am I doing the right thing and also any advice?
 
Well, it was a little hard to follow everything.

But it's good to try and stop doing sexual things. Doing everything but sex is still wrong. Including texts. So if you are trying to stop All of that, then that's a good thing.
Are you arguing over sexual things or your past? If not then trying to convince her to "forget" the things the two of you have done will do nothing.
If the arguments are over other things then that suggests other problems. Arguing some I'd ok, but if it's often or over small things a lot that's a problem. You've been dating a year. Most relationships go six months to a year. Of things are falling apart in that time its usually a sign that there is not enough to hold the relationship together. Holding on to failing relationships helps no one. It's usually a selfish behavior (trust me, I know).

But trying to forget about the sexual stuff won't fix anything. In fact it may be counterproductive. You'd be better remembering and learning from your mistakes. As well as being a man and facing them. Trying to forget is to try to deny, which is not a quality of strength. The ability to deal with and learn from things is better than putting your head in the sand about them.

While I won't say it should end, I will say you may want to start preparing for the possibility. If your gf starts a lot of arguments then discuss with her what's bothering her, don't presume to know.
 
She’s going through a hard time with her parents so she’s quite sensitive right now, it is not arguments over the past. It is never serious arguments it’s just a little 5 minute moment of just not talking to each over then we are all good. To be honest I don’t even remember what we argue about that’s how minor it is. We know we sinned doing sexual stuff and we are trying to forget the ways of sexual things and move on and be with god. Leaving her is just heartbreaking for both of us, mainly her she has had a though time before me (rumours). I’m her everything.. Our love will not fail if we walk through god, do you agree?
 
SimIqbal said:
Me and my girlfriend have been together for 1 year, we have had a sexual past like she is my first kiss of course. We’ve never had sex though. Me and her are very protective of each over. We do sexual history other than kissing but I am not saying what we did as it is unnecessary, the most I can say is everything but sex. Recently we started arguing a lot over tiny reasons, and I’m trying to revive these arguments by making us forgot our sexual past together and move on TOGETHER in the name of god. It is very hard to not be sexual again as we would send sexual text messages a lot. Am I doing the right thing and also any advice?
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Hi there....I literally went through the exact same thing. Me and my ex would do certain things (beside sex) as we felt that we would always be together. He always told me that it is okay as God brought me into his life and we will end up being together anyways. Also, as humans we have emotions and feelings that may at times make us do things that aren't right. He broke up with me a month ago and I realized that what I did was all wrong. I asked for forgiveness and I know now that I am free from sin. I encourage you to do that as well. I know its hard but if you want your relationship to last, you have to put God in the center of that. Being sexual with someone before marriage isn't the right thing to do even if it doesn't involve sex as it is still sexual behavior. My advice would be to love each other but try your best not to do something that will hurt God :)
 
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