The whole point to me is not to ignore her or never speak to her again because of her demands for some sort of perfection I can never attain to in her eyes. The whole point to me is to love her and to do away with the pride that demands to be treated better.
I cannot have such blessings come to me through her abuses and not love her! It is like the one man said - Josephs brothers did more good for him through their hatred and contempt than they ever would have if they had treated him well.
When I receive such a blessing as I did this morning, it's like He blessed me through her. And I find myself thanking Him for her because He used her to grow my own faith! It's quite bizarre that He will bring us to thank Him for someone who is demanding that we be perfect and always telling us we cannot do anything right! How strange...!
I have not ignored my mother
I was the only family member left standing despite her best efforts to annihilate me. I have been her 'special' target forever and half
I have agonized over her and what she has done, not just to me but to my dad and even my younger brother. I have prayed with and for her and she is a dangerous woman.
She has called the police on me, reported me to adult protection more than once (and by the way, they all showed up but to God's faithfulness, all concerned parties realized the fault was not with me and no abuse was being committed upon her)
she has falsely accused my husband of hitting her, screaming at me to 'help' her, while not knowing I had a perfect view of the actual goings on and it was she who was kicking, punching and slapping my husband while he tried to calm her and restrain her insanity.
I had to have her removed from the home at one point and we visited her in the assisted living facility where she had been placed...at that time she needed no assistance....and she wanted another 'start' and we gave it to her and allowed her back.
Ultimately, she has been placed in a proper assisted living facility...I made sure of that. I can no longer visit her as we are over 2000 miles apart. My brother relieved her of all her money at one point while he had care of her, suffered a divorce and gave the care of her over to me. I love my brother and have loved him deeply but I am afraid he is more like her than he would care to acknowledge.
so, he claimed all that money...not a small amount, and was given at least another 150K...as his own and his inheritance even though my mother asked for at least half the money from the sale of her condo back...that she had paid for...but he would not
they charged me falsely, lied about me, accused me of things that they actually did and it has taken years for me to stop hurting and even somehow blaming myself for what I never did
I write the above with no feelings. I am no longer hurt. I live with what they did because you cannot repair, you can only forgive. Neither have ever asked me for forgiveness and both blame the other.
This is not who I want to be. They are forgiven but they would not even know of what as they do not acknowledge what they have done to myself and quite a few others.
This, has taken place over 10 years and only with God's help have I been set free of the snare of this false woman who says Jesus out one side of her mouth, while spitting venom out the other.
It just doesn't matter anymore. Who knows...there may come a time when you will no longer have to deal with your mother.
God has released me from mine. Prayer is effective at any distance and my trying to 'help' her has never effected any sort of benefit. Only God can help this woman see what she has done and show her that she destroyed what she said she loved.
learn from it all? well of course. I did my best to keep the family together. But individuals are responsible and you cannot force another even for their own good.
I cannot express the turmoil I have been through because of my mother. I still love her. But it's over.