UN-RUIN A DATE OR ANY RELATIONSHIP!

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Does simply saying kind words uplift you?

  • Every time

    Votes: 9 60.0%

  • Yes, unless I'm in a bad mood.

    Votes: 4 26.7%

  • They are just words and have no intrinsic value towards uplifting someone.

    Votes: 1 6.7%

  • No, In fact, when I'm angry I hate being interrupted with kind words! Just let me vent in unrest and

    Votes: 1 6.7%
  • Total voters
    15
  • Poll closed .
slave

slave

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MattforJesus said:
Words do not mean a whole lot if the person in the relationship switches back and forth to cutting down,compliment,cutting down,compliment.It will not work.

When people are in a relationship they have to watch what they say,for if they say one wrong word,or phrase,the other person will think why did they say that to me,and it will never be the same.

My aunt got a divorce,and I was wondering why,which they got a computer,and she was saying basically that he is a dummy for not picking up on it as fast as she would like,and you know how people get frustrated over that,and she probably insulted his intelligence,and then he fired back she was too old for him,did not look good enough,and other insults,and after an extended period of that they got a divorce.

People have to watch what they say,and if they say something wrong,then they say something nice might cheer the person up a little,but they will still have that in their mind about the time they dogged them out,and think it could happen again,for even someone deceitful,and mean,will still say things nice once in a while for their advantage,but will go back to dogging to suit their personality.

And the same for actions if not right would cause the person to have the same view,why did that person do that,and it will never be the same.

So unruin date,or any relationship,who knows,but people know some people can change,but with the divorce rate,and people splitting up,there is a whole lot that do not change.
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"Deliver my soul, O Lord, from lying lips, and from a deceitful tongue." (Psalm 120:2).

One of the hardest things on earth to bear is deception, especially when it comes thru our friends, spouse, or loved ones in our family. We don't need the grace of God to stand the deception or slander of an enemy; even human pride will stand that; but to be wounded in the house of our friends is a cheap blow to the gut, catching us unaware!

I agree with you, and I want everyone to know, this thread is not meant to be a cure-all to the struggles with relationships, especially married couples who are struggling, suggesting a 6 word delivery of new words will change things. To be honest; I used that title based on another title I was going alongside with in a different angle is all. So my "UN-RUIN" means only in comparison to the other titled thread. Marriages and family troubles are definitely in need of a deeper work of the cross for sure and godly counsel as well.

So, if that were the case we would rather pray for them indeed! But, this thread is a much simpler idea to just enhance the words of grace and kindness to build up rather than tearing down, and so we will continue in that vain. I thank you though for sharing your heart...I agree!
 
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I love the grace of God!


Jesus gives us liberty to love.
 
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MattforJesus said:
Words do not mean a whole lot if the person in the relationship switches back and forth to cutting down,compliment,cutting down,compliment.It will not work.

When people are in a relationship they have to watch what they say,for if they say one wrong word,or phrase,the other person will think why did they say that to me,and it will never be the same.

My aunt got a divorce,and I was wondering why,which they got a computer,and she was saying basically that he is a dummy for not picking up on it as fast as she would like,and you know how people get frustrated over that,and she probably insulted his intelligence,and then he fired back she was too old for him,did not look good enough,and other insults,and after an extended period of that they got a divorce.

People have to watch what they say,and if they say something wrong,then they say something nice might cheer the person up a little,but they will still have that in their mind about the time they dogged them out,and think it could happen again,for even someone deceitful,and mean,will still say things nice once in a while for their advantage,but will go back to dogging to suit their personality.

And the same for actions if not right would cause the person to have the same view,why did that person do that,and it will never be the same.

So unruin date,or any relationship,who knows,but people know some people can change,but with the divorce rate,and people splitting up,there is a whole lot that do not change.
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God is all over undying love!
 
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MattforJesus said:
Words do not mean a whole lot if the person in the relationship switches back and forth to cutting down,compliment,cutting down,compliment.It will not work.

When people are in a relationship they have to watch what they say,for if they say one wrong word,or phrase,the other person will think why did they say that to me,and it will never be the same.

My aunt got a divorce,and I was wondering why,which they got a computer,and she was saying basically that he is a dummy for not picking up on it as fast as she would like,and you know how people get frustrated over that,and she probably insulted his intelligence,and then he fired back she was too old for him,did not look good enough,and other insults,and after an extended period of that they got a divorce.

People have to watch what they say,and if they say something wrong,then they say something nice might cheer the person up a little,but they will still have that in their mind about the time they dogged them out,and think it could happen again,for even someone deceitful,and mean,will still say things nice once in a while for their advantage,but will go back to dogging to suit their personality.

And the same for actions if not right would cause the person to have the same view,why did that person do that,and it will never be the same.

So unruin date,or any relationship,who knows,but people know some people can change,but with the divorce rate,and people splitting up,there is a whole lot that do not change.
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Your aunt could have said after her blow up: Can you ever forgive me? I am very sorry your aunt and uncle divorced and did not try to work things out.
 
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MattforJesus said:
Words do not mean a whole lot if the person in the relationship switches back and forth to cutting down,compliment,cutting down,compliment.It will not work.

When people are in a relationship they have to watch what they say,for if they say one wrong word,or phrase,the other person will think why did they say that to me,and it will never be the same.

My aunt got a divorce,and I was wondering why,which they got a computer,and she was saying basically that he is a dummy for not picking up on it as fast as she would like,and you know how people get frustrated over that,and she probably insulted his intelligence,and then he fired back she was too old for him,did not look good enough,and other insults,and after an extended period of that they got a divorce.

People have to watch what they say,and if they say something wrong,then they say something nice might cheer the person up a little,but they will still have that in their mind about the time they dogged them out,and think it could happen again,for even someone deceitful,and mean,will still say things nice once in a while for their advantage,but will go back to dogging to suit their personality.

And the same for actions if not right would cause the person to have the same view,why did that person do that,and it will never be the same.

So unruin date,or any relationship,who knows,but people know some people can change,but with the divorce rate,and people splitting up,there is a whole lot that do not change.
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I agree to a point, but there are people who will call out others if what they say or do is not okay, but will not hold a grudge, which I think shows a sign of maturity.

I will give you an example, my bf has said a few hurtful things to me one of which we almost broke up, but I call him out and say that his words are hurtful and that he needs to change the way he talks to me because of respect and honor for me. He apologizes and we move on from that, no big deal...When I mean call him out, I do it in a loving manner and ask God to show me how to do it right. A lot of people keep things bottled up, especially when they get hurt and as a result they have a breaking point, so communicating when something or someone hurts you is key. Btw, not everyone will be reacting like your aunt and uncle did and it would be unfair for you to make that assumption about others especially ones you haven't met yet :)
 
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I could hug you forever dear!
 
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joefizz

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I love your determination and resolve!
 
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joefizz

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your cooking is always superb darling!
 
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SweetmorningDew78

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gonna hug you sweetie you're funny :)


Thanks :D
 
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goodnight my dear I love you!
 
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thankful for smiles on my face
 
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